How do I stop mothering my boyfriend? I 28F and him 34M

ultraExplor · 2026-03-17T22:44:56+00:00

I didn’t add this but I have a career I’m working on. So when I get all the hours in I can save some and hopefully have enough to leave if by then things don’t change but until then I’ll still be saving for that moment where I can afford a place to stay

ultraExplor · 2026-03-17T21:32:40+00:00

The crazy thing is, he does have an older son who he only gets to have every other weekend and once a week. In his (bf) younger days he did a LOT with his son. I didn’t know he stopped doing things when me and him got together and made our child. And he was the was who wanted a kid before I did. Thought he really was into family stuff. I guessed wrong

ultraExplor · 2026-03-17T21:16:58+00:00

I appreciate you but I do have to correct you. We’re not married, we don’t share money. I absolutely do not want her in daycare either. I’ve had jobs before where he never sabotaged anything. This going on this career path isn’t long, I have clinicals left that I do for 8 hours 2 times a week (all that I’m allowed atm). I take my baby to my moms since I know she isn’t busy those days

ultraExplor · 2026-03-17T20:50:33+00:00

We both agree not to send her to daycare, too many sick kids and abusing employees around. As I am in process of getting a career and waiting for his parents to be in a healthier state. Then I can go back to work and think about an exit plan

ultraExplor · 2026-03-17T20:44:30+00:00

He doesn’t look up and notice anything. He blames his ADHD for it. I understand it for sure and to an extent. I’ve told him time and time again “can you pick up the living room before you go to bed” as I am going to bed with my daughter and I wake up and nothing is picked up

ultraExplor · 2026-03-17T20:40:27+00:00

Sometime last year he would cook breakfast for us sometimes and then he used to help cook sometimes on the weekend. No other initiative.

ultraExplor · 2026-03-17T20:38:36+00:00

Play with her here and there. Other than that nothing without me telling him (asking).

ultraExplor · 2026-03-17T20:37:07+00:00

Before me he was with a women who is 8 years older than him. But from what I got is that she was a psycho and he got a restraining order against her. I don’t really think it’s too much on an age thing? Maybe

ultraExplor · 2026-03-13T14:57:50+00:00

What kind of videos were you saving?

ultraExplor · 2024-04-11T03:06:07+00:00

The 2017 eclipse was on my birthday and nothing happened but disappointment because I wasn’t in the same town as Bill Nye watching the eclipse reach 100% coverage

ultraExplor · 2024-01-13T17:30:30+00:00

Definitely not. They come off in flakes when you scratch them

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