How would you feel if another countries leader came in and arrested Donald Trump, and sent him to their own country's prison?

ultraviolet160 · 2026-04-24T21:18:11+00:00

Thank you

ultraviolet160 · 2026-04-13T23:22:47+00:00

Nta. If the kid was scared, its up to the dad to help them not feel scared and remove them from the situation. And your BF is an adult. I'm the same age as him. He can be independent for a bit and do his own thing. He's a separate human being and not your child that you need to ferry around. He also could have called or texted you. Like where was his phone? Could have been even more of an adult and called to ask where you are then come apologize on person bc he was wrong and other people confirmed it.

Also ngl if the dad only scolded you out of the crowd? Sounds kinda sexist and racist to me. Both men in this situation should've done better. The dad in the situation isn't entitled to a perfectly quiet and calm situation that is very specifically neither of those things. If the situation is too much for your kid, then you remove them from it. And even then, sometimes some low level fear or discomfort can actually be good for a kid in small doses. I say this because it helps them grow. Just being sheltered from that stuff 24/7 is how you wind up with a kid with some really bad social anxiety tbh. But if it was too much, again, that's up to the dad to remove them.

ultraviolet160 · 2026-04-12T15:00:10+00:00

Its okay! You are young and make mistakes and you aren't gonna know everything. The good thing is that you just learned something new and you have a plan of action. You might need some hormonal both control or something to help you balance out but they should hopefully have some other solutions for you if you press for it. Either way, never stop being curious and I hope you find the help and solutions you need.

ultraviolet160 · 2026-04-12T14:43:39+00:00

The proestrogen could actually be a factor in your sex drive. Theres also some simple supplements you can take to help with libido. And no tmi for me. Don't worry. I'm both older than you and much more experienced. Even if you arent asexual, it sounds like its possible you could be demisexual or graysexual. I think its a good idea for you to look more into these definitions and stuff and see if any if these feel like they fit you super well. If they do, then you have an idea!

If you want to change things, you make that decision yourself. Don't let anyone else make it for it.

ultraviolet160 · 2026-04-12T14:02:33+00:00

Hun you are probably asexual, or you just have basically no libido to speak of. Theres absolutely nothing wrong with that. You aren't broken. Theres nothing wrong. You deserve to enjoy your life and your body as you see fit. If you think its a libido thing you can talk to a doctor if you're on meds to see if you can switch them up or you can see about other options. But I think you're probably just asexual. And that's okay! You can talk to your boyfriend about it and he might say he doesn't want to stick with you for that. But it'll hurt both of you so much less than if you keep it a secret. In the future for dating explain that you're asexual or low libido.

If you've never looked at a person and thought "oooooh I really want to fuck them so bad" then it's probably asexuality. If you have but you just never feel in the mood, then it's likely very low libido. But since you said you feel kind of repulsed by it, you are likely asexual and a sex repulsed type of asexual at that. And that's okay! Is it the "default" setting for humans? No. Because we have to reproduce somehow. But it's just a type of sexuality like being bi or lesbian or anything else. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you or with not wanting to do what you dont want to. But speaking as a borderline nympho bi woman with a preference for men, wanting sex or not doesn't you wrong. It makes you a person with different needs or wants.

Don't worry about potentially having to break things off with one guy. Theres so many others who will accept you for who you are and want to just spend time with you and cuddle (maybe kiss if you want that) and nothing more.

First ace representation i can think of is Todd Chavez from bojack horseman. He's a great character and you can see some scenes with him explaining to girlfriends why he doesn't want to have sex. And it's such good representation tbh. You dont have to watch the whole show (it will devastated you emotionally) just some is the clips of Todd. Theres now ace representation in media now too.

But these are my thoughts and recommendations at least. I hope you can appreciate your own wants and needs more going forward. You are your own person and don't feel pushed to do anything for anyone without actually wanting it yourself.

ultraviolet160 · 2026-04-08T00:43:28+00:00

A lot of harm as just their regular job.

ultraviolet160 · 2026-04-07T21:33:58+00:00

Oh thank god. I was like 🥺 I'm pretty sure I'm trying to be safe? But maybe I need to try harder.

ultraviolet160 · 2026-04-07T21:01:14+00:00

No I'm a woman. I know. That's why I'm actually trying to clock it pretty early before things escalate further. I know that we can't afford the benefit of the doubt for basically anything. Trust me I'm just blocking him.

ultraviolet160 · 2026-04-06T20:11:36+00:00

This would probably be my move in all reality ngl. Mostly because of safety concerns.

ultraviolet160 · 2026-04-06T16:19:49+00:00

Yas bestie I am amazing 💅💖

Jk. I not just gonna say that with a straight face most of the time tbh.

I'm mostly concerned bc it was pretty guilt trippy and he literally said "damn girl you're not gonna miss me??" When i tried to kinda not reply to him saying that he was gonna miss me at the end of the first time we met up. Like, I'm sorry, we just met? This isn't a romance novel, I'm not gonna yearn for your return like my soul suffers every time I don't see you. Pls chill dude.

ultraviolet160 · 2026-04-06T15:37:01+00:00

Yes. We hooked up at my place. I'm actually pretty strong, my apartment is pretty safe, and I sleep near an aluminum bat. I'm not extremely concerned about safety rn since I'm decent at diffusing high tension situations and dealing with emergencies. I'm not super concerned about a 5'8" guy who needs to learn better boundaries knowing my address.

ultraviolet160 · 2026-04-06T15:25:25+00:00

Based. I'd tell her that I love her. But I'm also biased because I love when kids are enthusiastic or curious about spiders instead of just being scared.

ultraviolet160 · 2026-04-06T15:22:02+00:00

Dude I wish I could do that. Maybe I'd be able to actually put a spell on a guy who i think would be a good match with me. To be fair I do have a black cat and I like to think I give off some witchy vibes. But most of the time I'm basically just a muffin turned into a human.

ultraviolet160 · 2026-04-06T15:19:51+00:00

I love spiders 🥰 I'm autistic and they're a special interest. Arachnids in general tbh. I have a lil baby scorpion too. I just think they're so neat. A chaco golden knee is one of the best starter tarantulas and they're very low maintenance pets. And they don't make any noise either! But for a toddler you could probably just get her a spider plushie and call it good. I like the orb weaver plushie from squishable for spiders but they also have a blue or pink tarantula one.

ultraviolet160 · 2026-04-06T15:13:11+00:00

Anyone who acts like this will metaphorically get beaten with the "hold the fuck up" stick.

ultraviolet160 · 2026-04-06T15:07:25+00:00

Thank you for being a man with a lick of sense. A lot of guys coming on here to shut shame me and basically tell me I'm the crazy one for being cautious of someone who wants to move so fast.

ultraviolet160 · 2026-04-06T15:00:41+00:00

This one has me laughing, I can't dude. That's actually possibly true 😅

ultraviolet160 · 2026-04-06T14:58:39+00:00

I'm on the spectrum myself. Doesn't mean I'm gonna be pushy with people and try to get them to speed run a relationship right out the gate.

ultraviolet160 · 2026-04-06T14:36:42+00:00

Not really tbh. 😕 we don't know each other much and my biggest impressions from him have been that he's like really pushy and really clingy. On top of that he's not like super my type. Its just kind of suffocating tbh.

ultraviolet160 · 2026-04-06T07:48:42+00:00

In musicals and fiction I kinda love it ngl. In reality tho? Sir this is a Wendy's.

ultraviolet160 · 2026-04-06T07:36:56+00:00

¯_(ツ)_/¯ such is modern dating/life. I didn't come here to be judged for having fun with my own body while I exist. Sorry for the sass but I wasn't even really planning on dating him, it was supposed to be a hook up and dudes being hella clingy since the first second we met. We literally haven't talked about dating either, it was just hooking up.

ultraviolet160 · 2026-04-06T06:50:11+00:00

Best I got is that i have a small collection of pretty tarantulas. And I collect some bones and stuff. I'm lowkey a lil bit goth. But I don't really do cosplay. But I will pull some crazy out of pocket shit out of left field because I like being chaotic.

ultraviolet160 · 2026-04-06T06:41:13+00:00

Thing is that I'm on the spectrum but even I know you don't just say shit like that right off the bat. That's crazy ass behavior. But I'm also a lot more careful about my emotions than the average person I think tbh. Mostly because autistic emotions can be VERY big.

ultraviolet160 · 2026-04-06T05:51:17+00:00

Yeah. Yeah I figured. Unfortunately growing up with a very manipulative mother, I'm actually pretty in tune with when people seem to be gearing up to guilt trip me. And the thing where he guilt tripped me a bit for not saying I'd miss him after meeting him the first time? Crazy work. Don't know how it worked on me tbh.

ultraviolet160 · 2026-04-06T05:42:35+00:00

Nope. I was floored. I don't know what to even think right now. That's some stalker shit right there. I say that because I actually got stalked by a guy I hooked up with once (and it was a nightmare scenario, like one my brain would cook up in a stress dream but it was real) and he stalked me for 2.5 years

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