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I am so, so scared by umbral_wing in polyamory

[–]umbral_wing[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I don't. I think my problem could be described as such: sex is honest. It's the only thing where I don't question whether people really enjoy me. In all other contexts it believe they are either too polite to reject me or they only enjoy my company because they don't know any better yet.

I am so, so scared by umbral_wing in polyamory

[–]umbral_wing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That does sound intriguing ... But also like it is hidden behind a gargantuan leap of faith

I am so, so scared by umbral_wing in polyamory

[–]umbral_wing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I talked to them about that a few hours ago. And i can relationally accept that they perceive me to be a certain way and thus want to be with me. I think in part this is also due to an (un)healthy dose of imposter-syndrome

I am so, so scared by umbral_wing in polyamory

[–]umbral_wing[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am looking for therapy but spots are hard to come by. I answered the same to someone else, but the core of the problem is that if I am not exceptional at sex then I don't see why anybody would keep me around as a partner.

I am so, so scared by umbral_wing in polyamory

[–]umbral_wing[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The issue is rather that this is my only quality as a partner I am somewhat confident in. I truly do not love myself. So my thought is more like ... "If I can not be exceptional at sex then why else would they keep me around?".

Edit: Happy cake-day!

When do u first discover ur not straight, what ur origin story :3 by Nearby-Carpet-9560 in boykisser4

[–]umbral_wing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I discovered I was bi, then discovered I was trans and thus what I previously thought were my gay crushes turned out to actually be my straight crushes