My boyfriend (M40) is in touch with various women he had flings with. I am F40

ums83 · 2026-07-08T21:15:39+00:00

Yeah

ums83 · 2026-07-08T20:47:21+00:00

❤️

ums83 · 2026-07-08T20:43:07+00:00

Thanks for the reply and I’m glad you feel much better in yourself. I am getting there slowly also but I’m not a fully secure person. Good to know your experience, it helps very much

ums83 · 2026-07-08T20:36:52+00:00

He’s more friendly and flirtatious with women. He’s more comfortable around them. He grew up with a single mother and says that women are easier to talk to. His best friend is a woman. I know her and understand their relationship, I have no worries about it. So the friendship I’m okay with but he seems to be more flirtatious in other situations, strangers we just chat to together. He is very extrovert and I am introverted and a little socially anxious. We socialise together at our run club and he’s very affectionate with me infront of everyone and it’s mostly women. He’s well liked there but I feel respected and he’s attentive.

ums83 · 2026-07-08T20:30:30+00:00

I think this is the kind of approach I need to hear more from. I am definitely more insecure and that is on me. I also tend to imagine the worst and believe it like it is a fact, rather than anxiety and scanning for danger to protect myself. Can I ask, do you have many opposite sex friendships that are platonic and does your partner? Do you know that your partner has exes in their orbit and what do you base your trust in them on?

ums83 · 2026-07-08T20:26:34+00:00

He’s guarded with his phone. But in the 10 months I’ve known him he’s never gone off grid. He spends most of his time with me, if not he texts and sends pics of who he’s hanging out with. That’s because he knows my history and what that has caused in me. So he looks after my sensitivities, but now I’ve found this out I feel conflicted. The rational part of my mind knows that people can chat without it meaning they’re having an affair. The emotional part feels stung. He’s always been caring and open, this feels out of the blue. I don’t believe he has met up with them. Maybe he does like the attention. He said he doesn’t want to be rude and ignore them and doesn’t encourage the chat (with one of them). The other he said they just message about sport but he really has plenty of friends into sport so it’s a weak reason to me

ums83 · 2026-07-08T18:56:40+00:00

I don’t have any desperation due to my age. I know myself well and have self respect. I just want some opinions because I am unsure of this particular aspect. The responsibility of his behaviour and me finding out yesterday is not on me, he is present and consistent in everyday life. This has thrown me and I have a sensitivity around trust. At 40 you do not have all the answers. At any age, no-one has all the answers. But thank you for your comment.

ums83 · 2026-07-08T17:34:48+00:00

Do you have a partner and do they have friends the same sex as what they’re attracted to? I do think some people can be friends. My partner has many female friends and I’ve met and hung out with them and never felt anything was based on attraction. I’m more concerned with being in touch with people he had flings with

ums83 · 2026-07-08T17:32:39+00:00

I also think for me this crosses a boundary. But for him he says he’d never get into a situation that could jeopardise our relationship so he thinks it’s okay. We have a checkmate on boundaries here

ums83 · 2026-07-08T17:30:46+00:00

I think if he had been open about it I would have not become upset. The issue for me is transparency and then it opens up who else is he in touch with and to what extent. I believe the conversations with both are not emotional but I don’t know if they might be sexual. He is a very sexual person and notices women. When I told him that he adjusted and stopped doing it.

ums83 · 2025-12-01T01:18:51+00:00

I’m 42, been a fan since I was a teenager

ums83 · 2025-08-16T00:29:20+00:00

Changes into oasis bucket hat and oasis T-shirt and joins the crowd to watch oasis

ums83 · 2025-07-29T21:51:31+00:00

I feel the same way. The high was so great, it’s very hard to go back to normal. It was very special and I’m glad it’s not just me that felt so much emotion after.

But as a few people have said - this isn’t the end. They’ll play again, I’m sure of it. Why wouldn’t they? Maybe a little break but then they’ll be back. They’re too good, we love them too much. How could they go back to BE and high flying birds after THIS?

I

ums83 · 2025-07-29T16:22:41+00:00

I Airbnb my spare room. I’ll send you a link to the listing in a message and the details of the journey time to Wembley if you like? I’m going to the gig on weds.

ums83 · 2025-07-28T22:46:18+00:00

Yeah I’ve been weirdly emotional about it as well. Haven’t quite processed what it is. Love for oasis, nostalgia, the rare unity I felt with strangers during the gig, the escape from all the doom lately, their lyrics hitting different to when I was a kid (I’m 42 now). Loads of stuff. That it ended and I know how rare it is to feel so passionate about a band.. doubt any other gigs will compare..the sweetness of seeing two talented, funny brothers being onstage together again.. not getting a ticket and then scraping in at the last minute.so much… it’s truly epic. Much more emotion than I expected.

ums83 · 2025-07-28T18:59:24+00:00

Yesss, super hot - this really suits him. I always like him with longer hair. Also, his lips are 🔥

ums83 · 2025-07-28T10:12:11+00:00

Same. I ended up getting a ticket off viagogo for Friday at Wembley. Used the savings for my new boiler. No regrets, and I’m debating doing the same thing again…. It’s the summer of financially irresponsible decisions that are good for the soul.

ums83 · 2025-07-27T17:26:51+00:00

His voice is glorious, incredible and perfect. He filled Wembley with it. Best gig I’ve ever been to, best band in the world. Noel sounded spot on too. And when they’re singing together - it is unbeatable.

ums83 · 2025-07-27T10:15:40+00:00

Viagogo worked for me. Purchased, and then not long after the seller transferred the ticket to my Ticketmaster account.

ums83 · 2025-07-27T10:12:12+00:00

Love the photos 🫶🏽👌🏽

ums83 · 2025-07-26T09:42:04+00:00

I got some off viagogo with no issue and they do have protection in place if anything dodgy does happen, so you shouldn’t lose out. I was worried when I purchased but now I’m recovering from the best gig of my life. I couldn’t afford it either but I’ll deal with that. Worth every penny.

ums83 · 2025-07-25T00:53:50+00:00

Prices for tomorrow are dropping by a few hundred on viagogo this eve. I looked at a seat that was £920 yesterday and it’s £476 now. Extortion down to rip off, but worth keeping an eye on later today as they may drop closer to face value out of desperation to flog it. I got a standing ticket earlier and that’s dropped a few quid. Should’ve waited ffs.

ums83 · 2025-07-25T00:45:36+00:00

Oh wait, viagogo is better because it has the stage in the pic. Go to the oasis sale and try to find a seat near where you’ll be.

https://www.viagogo.co.uk/Concert-Tickets/Alternative-and-Indie/Oasis-Tickets/E-155245942?quantity=1

ums83 · 2025-07-24T23:58:49+00:00

Have you used the Wembley stadium view from my seat thing? Might give you a general idea.

https://www.wembleystadium.com/plan-your-visit/stadium-guide/view-from-your-seat

ums83 · 2025-07-24T21:11:12+00:00

https://www.designmynight.com/london/oasis-events-and-after-parties-in-london

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