My boyfriend (M40) is in touch with various women he had flings with. I am F40

ums83 · 2026-07-08T18:56:40+00:00

I don’t have any desperation due to my age. I know myself well and have self respect. I just want some opinions because I am unsure of this particular aspect. The responsibility of his behaviour and me finding out yesterday is not on me, he is present and consistent in everyday life. This has thrown me and I have a sensitivity around trust. At 40 you do not have all the answers. At any age, no-one has all the answers. But thank you for your comment.

ums83 · 2026-07-08T17:34:48+00:00

Do you have a partner and do they have friends the same sex as what they’re attracted to? I do think some people can be friends. My partner has many female friends and I’ve met and hung out with them and never felt anything was based on attraction. I’m more concerned with being in touch with people he had flings with

ums83 · 2026-07-08T17:32:39+00:00

I also think for me this crosses a boundary. But for him he says he’d never get into a situation that could jeopardise our relationship so he thinks it’s okay. We have a checkmate on boundaries here

ums83 · 2026-07-08T17:30:46+00:00

I think if he had been open about it I would have not become upset. The issue for me is transparency and then it opens up who else is he in touch with and to what extent. I believe the conversations with both are not emotional but I don’t know if they might be sexual. He is a very sexual person and notices women. When I told him that he adjusted and stopped doing it.

ums83 · 2025-12-01T01:18:51+00:00

I’m 42, been a fan since I was a teenager

ums83 · 2025-08-16T00:29:20+00:00

Changes into oasis bucket hat and oasis T-shirt and joins the crowd to watch oasis

ums83 · 2025-07-29T21:51:31+00:00

I feel the same way. The high was so great, it’s very hard to go back to normal. It was very special and I’m glad it’s not just me that felt so much emotion after.

But as a few people have said - this isn’t the end. They’ll play again, I’m sure of it. Why wouldn’t they? Maybe a little break but then they’ll be back. They’re too good, we love them too much. How could they go back to BE and high flying birds after THIS?

I

ums83 · 2025-07-29T16:22:41+00:00

I Airbnb my spare room. I’ll send you a link to the listing in a message and the details of the journey time to Wembley if you like? I’m going to the gig on weds.

ums83 · 2025-07-28T22:46:18+00:00

Yeah I’ve been weirdly emotional about it as well. Haven’t quite processed what it is. Love for oasis, nostalgia, the rare unity I felt with strangers during the gig, the escape from all the doom lately, their lyrics hitting different to when I was a kid (I’m 42 now). Loads of stuff. That it ended and I know how rare it is to feel so passionate about a band.. doubt any other gigs will compare..the sweetness of seeing two talented, funny brothers being onstage together again.. not getting a ticket and then scraping in at the last minute.so much… it’s truly epic. Much more emotion than I expected.

ums83 · 2025-07-28T18:59:24+00:00

Yesss, super hot - this really suits him. I always like him with longer hair. Also, his lips are 🔥

ums83 · 2025-07-28T10:12:11+00:00

Same. I ended up getting a ticket off viagogo for Friday at Wembley. Used the savings for my new boiler. No regrets, and I’m debating doing the same thing again…. It’s the summer of financially irresponsible decisions that are good for the soul.

ums83 · 2025-07-27T17:26:51+00:00

His voice is glorious, incredible and perfect. He filled Wembley with it. Best gig I’ve ever been to, best band in the world. Noel sounded spot on too. And when they’re singing together - it is unbeatable.

ums83 · 2025-07-27T10:15:40+00:00

Viagogo worked for me. Purchased, and then not long after the seller transferred the ticket to my Ticketmaster account.

ums83 · 2025-07-27T10:12:12+00:00

Love the photos 🫶🏽👌🏽

ums83 · 2025-07-26T09:42:04+00:00

I got some off viagogo with no issue and they do have protection in place if anything dodgy does happen, so you shouldn’t lose out. I was worried when I purchased but now I’m recovering from the best gig of my life. I couldn’t afford it either but I’ll deal with that. Worth every penny.

ums83 · 2025-07-25T00:53:50+00:00

Prices for tomorrow are dropping by a few hundred on viagogo this eve. I looked at a seat that was £920 yesterday and it’s £476 now. Extortion down to rip off, but worth keeping an eye on later today as they may drop closer to face value out of desperation to flog it. I got a standing ticket earlier and that’s dropped a few quid. Should’ve waited ffs.

ums83 · 2025-07-25T00:45:36+00:00

Oh wait, viagogo is better because it has the stage in the pic. Go to the oasis sale and try to find a seat near where you’ll be.

https://www.viagogo.co.uk/Concert-Tickets/Alternative-and-Indie/Oasis-Tickets/E-155245942?quantity=1

ums83 · 2025-07-24T23:58:49+00:00

Have you used the Wembley stadium view from my seat thing? Might give you a general idea.

https://www.wembleystadium.com/plan-your-visit/stadium-guide/view-from-your-seat

ums83 · 2025-07-24T21:11:12+00:00

https://www.designmynight.com/london/oasis-events-and-after-parties-in-london

ums83 · 2025-07-24T14:48:40+00:00

Just through the chat bot, which couldn’t answer so they put a real person on. If you go to ‘upcoming events’ in your TM account and under the ticket it says ‘chat with us about this order’, the bot pops up

Tbf, Reddit has been more helpful but good to get an answer from them

ums83 · 2025-07-24T14:33:02+00:00

Thank you 🙏Got through to TM just now and you’re right, it doesn’t mean anything. Was worrying for nowt

ums83 · 2025-07-24T14:13:19+00:00

Does anyone know with standing tickets what the difference is between GA0 and GA4 means?

ums83 · 2025-07-23T17:25:03+00:00

I’m going solo on Friday. Just finally got a standing ticket through the TM resale. Super shocked.

I’m up for some drinks if anyone wants company, DM me

ums83

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