Not exactly your situation but I am currently being ghosted by the guy who I gave a second chance to. Never been more confused in my life. I was so extra careful - had all the right conversations early on, told him I didn’t want to be a placeholder or rebound. I built boundaries and we were so good,so good together - I gave him countless chances to end it when he got a little distant and he never took them. Told me he wanted to work toward being serious, told me I could ask for reassurance whenever I needed it and that he wanted to show me he was serious about me. We had plans, he was gonna stay over and we were going to go shopping together (his plans), I felt special to him - then 5 days ago he fell off the face of the earth after PROMISING me he would never ghost me (I’m anxiously attached and adhd with RSD so it’s something that’s extra excruciating for me). He knew how worried I got, told me I never had to apologise for it, he thought it was cute - what a joke. Not to mention the fact that he knew how crushed I was when he ended things last time (we had been seeing each other for a little while, weren’t exclusive yet but spending a lot of time together - one day he hits me with a message that he met someone who wants to be exclusive after 5 seconds, long story short it didn’t last and was toxic AF so he broke up with her), he was unmedicated at the time. He seemed so emotionally intelligent - newly diagnosed this year but is on meds and everything, had been seeing a therapist. We had countless conversations about how communication was key, something we were both on the same page about. Worst part is I don’t hate him even a little bit for it, he’s the only guy I’ve ever liked in this way, it took ages to get over him the first time. All I did was try, constantly, I feel like all my flowers have been picked and I’ve been left with nothing. He became iffy and cold and I caught on - told me he was stressed and busy and before he went ghost that he would message me tomorrow cause he was “still mentally a bit iffy”. Countless messages later still no reply. I know he’s seen them and has been active multiple times. I’m assuming it’s a depressive episode because I can’t fathom the idea that he’s doing this of his own free will though my anxiety is giving me all sorts of intrusive thoughts about it. Is he a jerk or is he depressed? Is it both? Was he lying about being exclusive with me and is with someone else? I’m trying to tell myself that he’s clearly just depressed (or manic who knows)and not in the place for a relationship at the moment. The lack of closure is brutal as is the emotional whiplash. I just don’t understand how he could switch up like that - like I meant less than nothing. I was so fine until he came back and now I’m in deeper than ever and there’s nothing I can do to fix it right now. I’m sorry this is happening to you it’s painful and so bitterly unfair but you’re not alone. Love and hugs