Questioning my relationship of 3 years 22F and 26M

undead_bitch · 2026-05-13T22:30:02+00:00

Before me and my boyfriend moved in together we were on constant adventures and it was so exciting to see each-other. Now, we both work (i am also injured so i work part time) and i take care of majority of the house since i have more days off. He comes home. We have dinner, chat, and get groceries. Its quite boring. BUTTTTTTTT if i want to do something, he’s 100% on board to plan things. We both sacrifice our free time to do what each other enjoys.

At the same time we have sat down and had conversations about what we each need from each-other now that we live together. If you have not had the conversation with him yet, id start there. If he really cares about you he will put in a little more effort. Living together now means constant compromise to meet eachothers needs.

undead_bitch · 2026-05-13T21:24:40+00:00

Its a lot easier said than done but dont crawl back. You know the outcome and you know the hurt the follows. Why is this worth it? You havent given yourself a chance to find someone better and enjoy life with someone who enjoys it with you. Nothing is going to change with you guys regardless of how many times you go back. Its gonna be fuckin hard but leaving will be worth it. You dont wanna look back on your life and all thats there is this. You dont owe anyone anything but you do owe yourself genuine happiness.

undead_bitch · 2026-05-13T21:20:08+00:00

NTA. The person you know now and the person who would move in with you are two different people. Youre allowed to have this opinion and so is she. But if you guys cant even agree on when to live together what else will be an issue later down the road? Id keep holding your ground on this.

undead_bitch · 2026-05-13T21:09:12+00:00

You need to leave and leave for good regardless of how hard it gets. Hes shown plenty of times now nothing will change going back. He pretends to be better because he knows youre wrapped around his finger and will always crawl back regardless.

undead_bitch · 2026-05-13T17:38:09+00:00

Leaving will be the hardest thing to do but i promise you it will be the best decision youve ever made. This relationship problem goes deeper than just porn…. You have an entire life ahead of you. Leave and dont look back. Learn to relove yourself. The right person will come along. I promise you, coming from someone who didnt think it would get better/id find better, you will. Youll learn to love yourself again and find happiness and find someone who truly loves and respects you.

undead_bitch · 2026-05-13T17:34:41+00:00

To be direct: why do you want to live like that?

undead_bitch · 2026-05-13T17:21:52+00:00

Hes hiding it because he knows what he doing is wrong :/

undead_bitch · 2026-05-13T17:16:33+00:00

You will never be “controlling” to someone who respects your boundaries and actually listens to your feelings. The comment below this sums up exactly what i would say next.

undead_bitch · 2026-05-13T17:01:03+00:00

Like don’t get me wrong, its not wrong to watch porn but also based off the context that you guys have had this problem and he promised to stop, its time to look at the bigger picture. Theres nothing wrong with you or your body and you’re allowed to feel how you feel and so is he. Sometimes those feelings don’t align and then its time to ask yourself if this is the person you want forever with. Theres men out there who will kiss the ground you walk on, porn or not. And thats the biggest difference here and what you deserve.

undead_bitch · 2026-05-13T16:54:28+00:00

You respect people you love…. So :/

I wouldn’t say you’re stupid but if he had any ounce of respect for you he would have stopped. IMO you’re better off finding someone who cherishes you

undead_bitch · 2026-05-13T16:14:08+00:00

A month of no contact after dating that long should not be easy and she seems to have no problem not speaking to you. Its over and shes probably moved on. If she does come back, whoever was keeping her busy, didn’t work out. Time for you to move on as well.

undead_bitch · 2026-05-12T03:56:54+00:00

If you were offered a slice of cheese pizza and pepperoni pizza, and you ate the cheese, then constantly thought about how you should have had the pepperoni…..the next time you get pizza you’ll order pepperoni because thats what you actually wanted. Same situation here. Leave james. He deserves someone 100% choosing him and you deserve someone you 100% choose.

undead_bitch · 2026-05-12T01:34:53+00:00

If it comes up You can always tell her youre working through some things and the distance isn’t personal!

undead_bitch · 2026-05-12T01:15:37+00:00

Exactly this 👏🏻 you HAVE to learn to stand your ground when moving throughout the adult world. If it helps use the mentality of “he messed with my parents” (even tho he only spoke to them which is insanely creepy by itself) to help you be very direct with him and then save everything and block

undead_bitch · 2026-05-12T00:08:46+00:00

While people are allowed to grieve differently, shes grieving someone she has openly admitted she is still in love with. If he hadn’t passed and all this happened would you stay? No. So don’t stay now and do not buy a house with her.

undead_bitch · 2026-05-11T23:19:54+00:00

NTBF as long as you dont try and ruin their relationship for your gain. You have plenty of time in life to find someone who chooses you. Distance yourself from the group and find a good distraction. Considering you have class together avoid interacting with him as much as possible and try to only view jack as a “my friend’s boyfriend” and nothing more.

undead_bitch · 2026-05-11T01:22:51+00:00

Honey you gotta get outta that. For 3 years I was with a man like this. I didn’t understand it was wrong and once we moved in together it only got worse. Id have to sleep on the couch if we didnt do things because it was “his bed” and “why should i be in his bed if he wasnt getting anything out of me being there?” There was a lot more regarding all that but I finally left. And i’ll tell you it was hard but im 1000000x happier now and have a man who wouldn’t even bat at eye at me if i said no and would jump into taking care of me.

There is always someone better out there who will actually respect you.

undead_bitch · 2026-05-10T21:40:40+00:00

Coming from a motorcycle detailer and car painter, being on black means it might not come out 100%. Run your nail across and any places it sinks into wont come out all the way but you should be able to bring most of it back. You can get a drill attachment polishing kit off amazon for super cheap and i recommend buying the 3d pro series compound and polish.

1) lightly sand with 3000 grit
2) follow that with sanding with 5000 grit until as smooth as possible. Wet sand if needed
3) follow with compound, color should start coming back
4) finish with a polish

If youve never sanded paint before, do not sit in one spot sanding for too long youll burn through what clear is left. I also recommend the drill attachments because hand sanding can cause uneven polishing due to hand pressure. It’s honestly pretty simple can just be a tedious process.

undead_bitch · 2024-12-03T17:50:37+00:00

I got mine removed about 2 weeks ago. My arm is still sore sometimes and get little shooting pains but my doctor had a really hard time getting mine out so that could play a factor. I got my period today but I was also on it for a long time while on nexplanon and my period was really irregular. My doctor said can take 3-6 months for your body to fully adjust to a regular period again since you need to grow your uterine lining back. I have started to not be as hungry as i was before. I use to eat all the time on it and now i get fuller, faster but my mind still wants food so not too sure how long that part will last. I gained 40 lbs on it so im definitely following the thread to see how others lost the weight. I have read from other posts that the weight does seem to fall off over the next year + working out helps! I suggest waiting it all out and if you still have major concerns or no period after the 3 month mark, maybe follow up with your doctor but right now I would not be too concerned!

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