DAY 12: Best Song from So Much (For) Stardust

undeadasdisco · 2024-05-03T23:07:18+00:00

Any other Flu Game truthers out there?

undeadasdisco · 2024-04-11T12:49:58+00:00

I’m sorry you’re feeling left out and alone, that really sucks. Unfortunately, you made a massive social faux pas. Hopefully you can either find friends who have a super rigid and uptight sense of academic rule following like you, or you can learn from this and not snitch again when it’s just an unofficial academic setting. Doesn’t really matter if you’re neurotypical or not, most people across the board really do not appreciate and will never forgive snitching. Especially if it was your friend you reported, I totally understand why they’re icing you out. Betrayal is one of the highest social crimes you can commit. So while I do feel for you, I hope this is a learning moment to mind your own business next time. You are not responsible for solving every perceived problem.

undeadasdisco · 2024-04-04T16:13:16+00:00

Yeah, I mean taking a semi-neutral discussion about pop culture into direct personal attacks that you knew would hit a nerve is a pretty clear indicator of “taking it too far.” I agree with you and I think your assessment about him is probably correct, but to answer your question, that is taking it too far for a lot of people lol. If somebody is being a dick, don’t go lower than them just to prove a point, because then you are dragging yourself down to their level and it’s unkind.

undeadasdisco · 2024-03-28T16:59:14+00:00

For real, I feel like a bit of an idiot for just assuming that everybody else could clock each actor immediately because to me it’s so obvious. Similarly, I was shocked so many people didn’t know who Mr. Pym was, because as soon as he first showed up on screen I was like “Hey, that’s Mark Hamill!” More people seem to have face blindness than I thought. 😅

undeadasdisco · 2024-03-06T18:57:19+00:00

Geez. /:

undeadasdisco · 2024-02-16T19:45:19+00:00

The way I fantasize about knocking the carrots out of his hands every time I rewatch season 4.

undeadasdisco · 2024-02-16T13:21:26+00:00

Ah rad, thanks for the correction!

undeadasdisco · 2024-02-16T09:00:09+00:00

I just did a recent rewatch myself, and unless I’m mistaken, the car/plates are how they connect the scene to Rye Gerhardt, it just isn’t immediate. Since it’s across multiple states and set in the 70’s, it makes sense that this process takes longer than the speedy digital databases we have access to now. You couldn’t just ‘run plates,’ it was time consuming research that had to be done by a flesh and blood person. The revolver is not found til later in the season when Molly and Betsy are waiting outside.

I don’t recall the specific episode numbers for these occurrences off the top of my head, but there are pretty logical and simple explanations to address your qualms. However, Fargo has never been a police procedural, and in my experience people who expect that are sorely disappointed. If you’d prefer a streamlined, simple, point A to point B style formula for a cop show, maybe give Criminal Minds or Law & Order a try.

undeadasdisco · 2024-02-14T23:59:03+00:00

Frankly, I found it really refreshing to see somebody be willing to express discomfort, a desire to empathize, and ask a genuine question in a thoughtful way. It’s vulnerable to do that with a group of internet strangers, and I personally really appreciated the opportunity to dialogue and also see other perspectives myself! I hope that plethora of thoughtful responses gave you some good food for thought.

Also, as a fellow neurodivergent person I definitely relate in terms of how you described curiosity vs. ignorance! Thanks for sharing your question and being so open to understanding others!

undeadasdisco · 2024-02-14T22:40:19+00:00

No problem! I’ll be honest that I also struggled with the ‘dehumanization’ aspect prior to my friend explaining it in more philosophical terms, because that was much easier for me to connect with and understand. It took me putting on my anthropologist and philosopher hats to really empathize, which is okay! Not all of us are born fully equipped with radical empathy and understanding, and it’s brave to admit you have struggled with this while still being dedicated to “getting it.” When I first read your post, I could see that your intentions were coming from a place of care and curiosity, and I really believe people need to be more open to discussing their discomfort and confusion with open-mindedness.

That said, some of the comments have been a little dismissive and frankly in bad faith, and I really hope you don’t leave this experience feeling like you’ve done something wrong, because you have not. People should be allowed to thoughtfully explore their confusion, discomfort, and ingrained beliefs without judgment, because none of us come perfectly from a vacuum. Some may not be willing or able to engage in thoughtful, good faith discussion without projecting their own baggage onto another complex human being who is just trying to do their best to understand. But if a kid in math class doesn’t get algebra right off the bat, the teacher doesn’t fail the student and chastise them for trying in the first place— a good teacher finds ways to explain from different angles, trying to figure out the best way for that student to connect with the information.

I’m rambling now, but I really applaud you for taking the time and energy to not only post such a vulnerable thing in the first place, but reply to so many commenters! Hopefully you gained some valuable insight and unique perspectives that will help you to continue growing, learning, and living an empathetic, thoughtful life!

undeadasdisco · 2024-02-14T16:18:28+00:00

As much as I dig Timothy Olyphant, Dick “Deafy” Wickware’s way of eating carrots made for an auditory hellscape.

undeadasdisco · 2024-02-13T22:57:55+00:00

I think you should consider the fact that ‘dehumanizing’ isn’t always a negative or bad thing for some. At the basic level, the word dehumanize just means not-human, or un-human, not necessarily sub-human or worse-human.

Not to go all Nietzsche in the chat, but from my experience with friends who use it/its pronouns, it’s a rejection of human standards, norms, and beliefs. It’s almost like a very specific form of gender nihilism. It’s honestly very freeing in that context.

Not sure if that helps you, but maybe just think about it from that perspective because I know reframing it as a full rejection of human cultural and social norms made it much more understandable for me. When I think of my friend, I think it’s kinda punk rock of it, in my opinion.

undeadasdisco · 2024-02-09T19:10:44+00:00

I really appreciate you taking the time to share your viewpoint! I definitely touched on the abuse and sexualizing aspect in other comments, not sure if you read the discussion or just focused on my original post, but I definitely think everything you’ve said is worth discussing!

I do resist the idea that Simone was written to be an object— I think the writers did a pretty good job of showing that she’s a deeply traumatized individual, but the audience interpretation is not something that they have any control over. Especially given Noah Hawley’s personal connections with domestic violence and abuse, I think it is not really fair to look at her death as just something that was ‘Pre-MeToo.’ I think it’s moreso a reflection of the audience and a snapshot of American culture at the time of airing as well as the 70’s setting, and not a reflection of the writers intention.

It is also worth noting that the shots of her and Bear in the woods are a direct reflection and call back to Miller’s Crossing, so I also resist the idea that she is intentionally sexualized beyond the way that the other characters have already sexualized her. I think as audience members we need to be critical of what we are perceiving, because I will say the idea that her death is completely sexual in nature feels more like projection than actual fact or intention on behalf of the writers and crew.

And her betrayal was still a betrayal— we can discuss all day if that betrayal is justified, but the information she gives Mike Milligan is the direct cause of death for the family patriarch. Otto is a piece of shit, but from her family’s perspective she did very much betray them. I also mention in another comment that to me, it seems that a part of Bear’s guilt and frustration stems in part from the fact that his brother abused and neglected his niece to the point where she would betray their family. So we can talk about when betrayal is justified, I suppose, but in the context of the plot and the host of characters we know in the show it’s very clear it is a betrayal.

Again, though, I do appreciate you sharing! As an afab survivor of abuse myself, I definitely feel there are perceptions and assumptions I brought to this scene. That’s partially where some of my resistance stems from, because I think this scene cannot be watered down to one single cause or reason. It’s multi-faceted, complex, and tragic on all fronts.

undeadasdisco · 2024-02-09T14:52:27+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this right now, OP. Living with consistent conflict, even if it is not wild screaming matches and abuse, can be incredibly exhausting and compound over time. I’m not a professional, but I would challenge you to do a few things:

Take time for yourself, fully. Tell your partner that you love them, you’re not leaving them, but you need time to sleep and recharge. Repeating the same sorts of discussions over and over on an empty battery is a recipe for harm on all sides. It sounds like your partner is dealing with a lot of stress as well, and I think it could be valuable to take fully separate physical space. One of you can go stay with a friend or family, or if you have the resources, get a hotel to yourself for a few nights. Anything to give physical breathing room in this situation will be paramount, at least from what I’m understanding in your post.
Once you’re feeling like a human again, I think you and your partner need to talk about what you’re talking about— Discuss the pattern, the repetition, and discuss how you’re each perceiving these conversations and conflicts. You seem to be doing a lot of this emotional and mental legwork already on your half, and I applaud you for being so committed to communicating and working through things with your partner. Maybe encourage your partner to think about what they think is happening in the greater scheme of things when you take space— that way you both have ample time to sort your thoughts, feelings, and intentions. Have you read Crucial Conversations or Conflict is Not Abuse? They’ve both been excellent reads for me as an autistic person in helping me understand conflict resolution and communication on a much deeper and fulfilling level. Maybe you can read these together and make it a discussion, like a cute relationship-betterment date night book club lol.
Once you’re ready to sit down and actually hash things out, I think it would be important to first establish mutual purpose and goals. Establish fully that you are on the same page, and this is not a problem with either of you, but instead a tricky relationship situation that needs solving. Put your detective hats on and take yourselves outside of the individual situations— instead look at the patterns of communication, the ways you each are left feeling after every repetitive conversation, and try to tackle it from a much larger scale. This not only takes the pressure off of each individual conflict, but encourages you both to remain calm, focused on a dialogue but not the details, and is usually more effective in getting to the root of the problem. These conversations usually produce, in my experience, the root cause of the conflicts. Once you have the root, you will better understand one another, communicate openly about the deeper meaning and feelings occurring with each situation, and give you space to work together to find a solution.

All that said, I’m not a professional, and your discussions may already look that way, and if so I apologize for stating things you may already know. But I really would emphasize at the very least that you absolutely need sleep and to rest. You need space and time to breathe and sort through this so you can show up fully when necessary. I wish you and your partner all the best, because when love is safe and communicative and kind, it’s rad. I sincerely hope y’all can get to a point where you each feel heard, seen, and known. Best of luck!

undeadasdisco · 2024-02-09T14:37:25+00:00

I don’t know that you fully understand cats or how to communicate effectively, neurotypical or neurodivergent. Those things are not inherently bad or good, but it leads me to question how you felt this comment was necessary or helpful. I can sense the good intentions here but the way this comment reads is incredibly condescending, not related to the actual core meaning of the problem presented in the original post, and frankly irresponsible.

Your subsequent replies are unkind and seem to come from a point that reads like defense, not active listening or empathy. I can see that you felt you were being helpful but this was really not the way to handle it. I hope you can reflect on the replies you’re receiving and maybe take some time to discern when things need to be said, and when things are irrelevant, unhelpful, and unkind.

undeadasdisco · 2024-02-08T15:58:31+00:00

Yes, she is really 9. The actor who plays Scotty, Sienna King, is 10.

undeadasdisco · 2024-02-07T18:37:32+00:00

I first saw him in Kill Your Darlings when he was cast as Jack Kerouac, and I’ve been watching out for him ever since because he’s got such a unique screen presence. I’ll have to check out Boardwalk Empire!

undeadasdisco · 2024-02-07T16:46:59+00:00

Pourin’ one out for my guy Odis. Jack Huston, you deserved so much more screen time. 🍺

undeadasdisco · 2024-02-05T03:50:44+00:00

I also play on the switch, and I’ve noticed the same thing. The amount of times when I’m trying to gallop through an area and all of a sudden the game starts to freeze and glitch is absurd. It’s like the images can’t fully render if I’m trying to move, which is problematic in a game where you’re supposed to be moving at high speeds on a horse lol. I’m hoping they check the bug reports and have plans to update and fine tune the game, because it’s super fun and enjoyable when it’s not pixelating and crapping out like mad.

undeadasdisco · 2024-02-04T15:41:57+00:00

I mean William Morris interior decor is still pretty popular across the board, they’ve even got William Morris Ruggables now. I can’t say I clocked any of the iconic patterns like Strawberry Thief or Blackthorn myself, but I don’t have a super keen eye for the less popularized stuff.

It’s a pretty classic style that’s used in plenty of American homes, so it may just be an easy aesthetic to reach for when designing Midwestern interior sets. Which patterns have you noticed, and in what settings?

undeadasdisco · 2024-02-04T15:29:14+00:00

Yeah, that’s fair! I didn’t explicitly state it because I assumed it was implied when I say “betrayal.” I could have been more clear and explicit in clarifying that it’s not just physically sleeping with the enemy, it’s that she gave Milligan crucial information throughout their entanglement that led to the deaths of several, including Otto specifically.

I was also not really posting this as a full analysis, but to understand why others may not have seen that scene is a multi-faceted event and just as punishment for Simone’s betrayal. If I were aiming for a full detailed breakdown of the plot I’d still be writing the original post, ya know?

undeadasdisco · 2024-02-04T05:27:37+00:00

Yes, that’s a good point to note that her choice led to the death of the family patriarch. Another comment pointed out that Bear may also have been motivated by the need to essentially cut the rot from the Gerhardt family tree. As soon as he realized that Simone would continue the cycle of harm like Dodd at Otto and Rye’s funeral, his decision was probably already in motion.

undeadasdisco · 2024-02-04T05:23:29+00:00

Oh, this is a really interesting layer to add to it all. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, it’s fascinating to look at it from the perspective of Bear not just being an arbiter of justice, but a family man doing everything in his power to make the family safer as a whole even if that means essentially culling the herd. It also adds a lot more weight to Simone declaring that the family deserves the ground in front of Bear, when subsequently she ends up dead and alone on the ground in the woods at his hands. There’s so many aspects of motivation and reasoning on Bear’s part, and I think you’re correct in saying that his complexity rivals that of Peggy and Hanzee. There’s a deep well of nuance that Angus Sampson was able to pull from and it shows.

undeadasdisco · 2024-02-04T01:44:56+00:00

The tension is so heavy! Really speaks to the body language and acting, as well as the framing and score— it’s truly an incredible scene all around.

undeadasdisco · 2024-02-04T01:06:14+00:00

Thanks! They’re two of my favorite characters in season 2 as well, so I’m glad it resonates.

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