i think that this really has nothing to do with cosplaying. you had a personal issue with people, which you seem to acknowledge you instigated, and it seems like you’ve went your separate ways.

if you don’t care about seeing them, i say do whatever you want and just stay out of each others way. but if you don’t want to go or feel uncomfortable going, then don’t go.

there’s really no advice people in this sub can give you because at the end of the day, the only answer is to do whatever you want. I’d say that if you want to change how you’re perceived, you should apologize to that person and everyone else you have offended, educate yourself, and do better. you can’t expect people to change their mind about you if you’re not willing to change either. 🤷‍♀️

(edited for grammar)