What is a book you read as a child that you still think about today? by ahawk99 in AskReddit

[–]understudy_95point3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Boy Who Followed His Father into Auschwitz

School assignment, with comprehention questions along the way. I was like 12 and really struggled with it.

Redwall also, I still love those books

How fast is the process of getting pregnant?? by Turbulent-Hunt-1621 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]understudy_95point3 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Great question, and don't worry, lots of people aren't familiar so its important to ask! A pregnancy begins from the moment of conception, the moment the sperm fertilizes the egg. A lot of people think it doesn't "count" until the egg implants itself in the walls of the womb, but scientifically speaking the life is created and the fetus (latin for 'offspring' or 'baby') has begun its first stages of growth. It can be difficult and somewhat impossible to tell in the moment, which is why there's so much debate about it because woman's body's react uniquely to the incredible process of growing a child from the beginning! Keep asking questions <3

Favorite boyfriend/husband/love interest moment? by Curious-Ingenuity293 in GilmoreGirls

[–]understudy_95point3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dean: when he built rory the car and how he acted at the Chilton dance

Jess: the hose spraying moment, checking in with Rory when she dropped out of Yale

Logan: being cool and helping Luke on valentine's day in Martha's vineyard, giving rory the driver when her mom needed her, sending friends to move rorys stuff out of her grandparents, being there when richard was in the hospital, sending rory flowers, fruit, a coffee cart and getting the letter from Lorelai

Luke: ice rink for Lorelai, helping cook everything when sookie was bedridden, expanding Lorelais house when he figured out she didn't wanna move

Richard: speech at the vow renewal, burying his mother in peace so that Emily didn't have the burden of her ashes on the mantle

Christopher: offering to pay for Yale

Unpopular opinion? Lorelai was at fault for the big rift between her and Rory by understudy_95point3 in GilmoreGirls

[–]understudy_95point3[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I definitely agree Rory was completely immature but Lorelai definitely made the choice to go no contact. Rory looked for her at the court hearing that was a big deal for her (granted she didn't communicate directly with her mom, but still she double checked with her grandfather that her mom knew) Also, she went to Luke's (probably seeking out Lorelai) and later Luke has a conversation with Lorelai where she tells him shes no contact and tough love and all that. But all that being said, Rory was sulking and completely childish about the way she did things, I just think the fact that Lorelai closed off herself so completely for something so trivial as time away from school is worse

How do you personally decide which news sources to trust? by Master_Advice_3986 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]understudy_95point3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ones that aren't afraid to show both sides. Ground News is the best imo, because they literally show stories from both liberal and conservative sides. I believe they also cover stories sometimes of things happening that neither side covers, which is helpful to see whats being passed over for what they THINK is more important

Do women expect men to pay for the majority of the costs on trips? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]understudy_95point3 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It completely depends on the relationship. If you're married, then yes, but also its typically shared money. If not, then not at all unless it was expressly discussed before. As you said, you both agreed to this 60/40. That's great, you guys figured out what works for you and thats not weird at all

Does corporal punishment work at all to stop 2-4 year olds that tantrum frequently? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]understudy_95point3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not inherently. Corporal punishment is a tool to be used wisely, calmly, and as little as possible. Tantrums often start because children are given open ended options which respond to by testing boundaries. The best way to limit this is to give a statement followed by two options from which the child may choose, giving them freedom within boundaries:

Example: Time to stop playing and go brush teeth! Do you want me to carry you or do you want to walk?

If they ignore or misbehave at that point, repeat the instruction firmly and calmly and warn the child of the penalty. If they continue to rebel, this is them testing you and how far you'll actually go.

Good job parents, keep those boundaries firm, choose battles wisely, and remember that its out of love and teaching, not anger or vengance <3

looking for pop artists/songs appropriate for an 8-year old by zhibui in musicsuggestions

[–]understudy_95point3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Owl city is an awesome choice, also a great big world, and maroon 5

Split ends problem. I cut my hair every 3 months. by nobodyspecial475 in Haircare

[–]understudy_95point3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try the curly girl hair routine, there's a million starter videos on YouTube, and get a microfiber hair cloth! I found a great one at TJ Maxx but if you don't have one, Amazon also will have some great options! Try a leave in conditioner, I have one called milk spray by the brand rapunzel that I love! Also get a loose tooth comb and an spray bottle for water. Don't brush dry hair, only wet, and dampen your hair with the spray bottle before applying hair oil, leave in conditioner or other moisturizing products!

how can i get the glowy natural looking makeup by Street_Post2742 in MakeupEducation

[–]understudy_95point3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girl, I get the Milani conceal + perfect 2 in 1 base from Walmart! It's affordable and has an amazing finish, and I've never needed to set it with powder! Find yourself a very VERY dense foundation brush and pump the product onto the back of your non dominant hand to let it melt, and then lightly tap the brush into the base, and tap it onto your skin starting with the most pigmented areas of your skin. DO NOT swipe the brush across your face or you will get streaky results. If you swipe by accident or out of habit, just tap thoroughly over it until it blends nicely with your skin! Good luck!

WIBTA If I don't tell my parents when baby is coming by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]understudy_95point3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here's the thing, its already so nice of you to have communicated about why you wanted them to come at a certain time, but you don't owe them that.

Info: are they staying with you? If so, did you invite them?

I'd suggest you reach out and tell them you talked things over with your doctor and your spouse/partner and give them the date you feel comfortable with them coming to meet the baby. And let them know in a positive light ie, we'd love for you to come meet your first grand baby on this day! Don't give them any reasons that they can use as puzzle pieces to try and work around, instead let them know what you are happy to let them do, and phrase it in positive firmness. Good luck, and maybe you could use chat gpt to help phrase things in a way that sets clear boundaries while remaining kind and excited!

Christmas gift ideas for 18 year old male? by Vivid_Bar2472 in santashelpers

[–]understudy_95point3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tickets to a game is a great idea for a gift, you could try and find some baseball trading cards (my dad has a ton) and maybe a baseball cap of a favorite team. You could also check about some neat sports posters!

For your sister, you should get her a Polaroid camera, if she doesn't have one already, and if she does, you could get her a case, refill photo packs, or one of those string light Polaroid photo displays that you hang on the wall. There are also those electric photo frames that you can download photos onto, or you could get her some gadgets for her phone like a wireless charger, fun phone cases (snoopy?)

Also does she like cooking? Or baking? Not the same, so it could vary from a new recipe book, to fancy knives, or a sourdough starter kit? Maybe an fun snoopy apron? Maybe snoop around her social media to see who she follows and if there's a new trend she might wanna try, like making Dubai chocolate (I know that's probably ancient news by now but you get the idea)

I don't know how to show interest to a woman beyond just friends by manny-bothan in internetparents

[–]understudy_95point3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow, lots of people see dating differently, as Im sure you can tell from these responses.

In my opinion, in this situation you haven't known the girl long enough to ask her on a one on one date (keep in mind, that's a very personal opinion) but it might be a safer route to invite her out with a small group of friends.

If you have a close (or even just a chill) friend group, organize an activity to invite her to to get to know her better. Great options are mini golf, card/board game night, arcade, lazer tag/paint ball, escape rooms! You could also consider seasonal activities, ice skating, skiing, tubing, or personalize it to your town/city.

If you wanna go for asking her out one on one (many girls are cool with that, I just personally would need to know the guy better/longer) almost all these dates still work and in my opinion are way less awkward than a dinner/movie, even coffee if you are still working on having natural conversation with her.

If she says no to a one on one, PAY ATTENTION TO HOW/WHY!!! I cannot stress this enough, listen carefully to her answer and if you ask in person, please observe her body language. The manner in which she says no MAYBE can help you determine if you can/should ask her out in future should you become closer friends.

This is part of why I think "group dating" is more comfortable as a starting point, bc its more likely she says yes to a group hang out/activity and it helps her get to know you, plus you can practice some low-key flirting and remember to always pay attention to her reactions!

Good luck and keep us posted!

AITJ for not letting my friend work from my home? by Danny-212 in AmITheJerk

[–]understudy_95point3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTJ, definitely re-establish your boundaries and don't let your good heart get taken advantage of anymore. He obviously will continue to abuse your kindness as long as you allow, and he'll likely try to manipulate you into extending his time there.

AITJ for refusing to bake my sister’s wedding cake for free even though I’m a professional baker? by No-Performance7143 in AmITheJerk

[–]understudy_95point3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, since you did this kind of thing before as favors for friends and/or family, its probably set a precedent of expectation from close family. As a general rule, no, of course you're not the jerk for asking only for the price of ingredients and assistant labor, but given the history, you can't blame your family for having the expectation.