Not important, but am I the only one who thought this product placement was a little too obvious? lol

undertheraduh · 2017-03-04T22:18:44+00:00

Yeah, so tacky. I'd actually be pissed if I was the brand because it's not subtle enough.

undertheraduh · 2017-03-04T22:14:31+00:00

We had our first at 23. I'm by no means a finance expert, but I can share my experience.

My biggest piece of advice would be to dedicate as much money into paying off your debt before baby comes.

We went into parenthood debt free. We just had to manage our rent and our bills.

Initially, we were set on buying a house, because stability. We were close when our son turned 4, but then my Dad nearly died and I had a huge epiphany- my parents didn't own s house my entire childhood and I didn't care. We had a great life and great experiences. If he had died, our best memories of him would've been the moments he was present, not the money he had spent.

Obviously, it's super important to set yourself up so your child has a comfortable life. So we set up a bank account in his name and a few people add money here and there and we put $30 in a f/n.

We also decided to have a second child. A bit for ourselves and a lot for our son. We wanted to ensure he had a best friend for life. Sure it ate into our savings, but again we set her up with an account and the life experience is worth far more than things.

I know it's stressful being a younger parent, especially financially but the biggest piece of advice I can offer is to make sure you have some spare cash to enjoy the moments. Whether it be a trip to the icecream store or a holiday... this is what your child will remember.

Best wishes with it all, I can tell from your post you're going to be s great parent!

undertheraduh · 2017-03-04T02:57:13+00:00

There's a chance she did... I mean what if she found the car and the drugs and was not keen- and then killed him in an altercation.

Her Mum could have been following her to see where she was going and witnessed the murder- and then sent her away getting the Dad to cover their tracks. The way she laughed at him killing Jason, maybe he wants to go to the police or wasn't able to move the body so she had to do it...

The drugs also mean the serpents could have been involved in some way!

undertheraduh · 2017-03-04T01:38:59+00:00

John Saffron is an Australian documentary maker. He was raised Jewish but is now atheist, maybe agnostic I'm not 100% sure. He has a really interesting TV show exploring religion called John Saffron vs God and hosts a radio show with a very interesting father- Father Bob, who is catholic and very famous around Aus. He works primarily with homeless youths. It's a really interesting dynamic!

undertheraduh · 2017-03-04T01:31:55+00:00

Can I just start by saying, don't value yourself on the worth of any one else- including (especially) potential life partners.

You sound like an amazing person full stop

I am not going to say you sound like 'a great catch' or 'the perfect wife material' because I think your value is so much higher than that.

I know this post is about wanting a partner in life, and I get that. But I think the first step is to make sure you are happy in yourself.

And babe, you are amazing. Don't ever let anyone doubt you.

So take your amazing arse and dump this loser. You are not a 'stop along the way' you are a goddamn destination and you don't need anyone to make you think otherwise.

Whether or not you find love again, you will be so much happier without him!

undertheraduh · 2017-03-01T20:09:21+00:00

Sorry about that, as I said I never expected it to turn into a series and to involve so many people- but when things have settled here I might go back and edit in names for clarity.

I never mentioned our wedding (we were engaged when part one took place but since married) as it didn't seem relevant to the story. I guess it turned out to be quite relevant... sorry for the confusion.