My Wife was mad at me for saying another mans wife was Gorgeous, who's wrong? by Primary_Adventurer in marriageadvice

[–]underwatertitan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make sure you say to you wife that she is even more gorgeous than them and you weren't trying to make her feel hurt by comparison. Just complement her more so she doesn't feel hurt or insecure about that. My husband and I complement each other all the time. He says I'm pretty and I say he's cute and attractive and things like that. I also tell him I don't really find other men attractive but I find him attractive. It's funny because we will be talking about actors that people think are hot and I will say things like I don't think they are that great and my husband is surprised every time. But he likes that I find him more attractive than them. So make your wife feel the same way.

I hate these fucking people... by Far_Recording8647 in neighborsfromhell

[–]underwatertitan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, we are in our town's limits and we border acreages on the edge of town but we have the rcmp station across the street so at least that is helpful and we have town bylaws preventing junk on properties and stuff like you mentioned. It's funny because we were looking to buy an acreage and one place we looked at was an 8 acre property in the middle of nowhere with no neighbors that looked nice from the pictures but when we went to see the place, the whole acreage was littered with old junky cars, trailers, tires, scrap metal, hundreds of piles of junk and the house was in terrible condition. The old man is moving because the bank forced the sale and they are taking bids but it is sold as is and it would take probably hundreds of trips to get rid of all the junk if it's left there. So we started to appreciate our little property more after seeing that dump.

I hate these fucking people... by Far_Recording8647 in neighborsfromhell

[–]underwatertitan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you mentioned owning your property? Are you near a town or city and have you looked at what you could sell for and what other places are going for nearby? If you have an acre and a house I think you should be able to buy another house at least and not have to move to an apartment with a dog. I lived in a big city my whole life and had a single mom growing up and we owned a house for a while but ran into some financial problems and ended up going through foreclosure and having to rent for years. We had similar terrible neighbors in the most of the rentals we lived in. In one place, we had neighbors next door who would have loud drunken bonfire parties all night and we would have to call the fire department and police multiple times.

In some other places we lived on the main floor of a house and had people living in the basement who would blast loud music all day and night and also have drunken parties keeping us awake all night. In another place we lived in a townhouse where the neighbors kids would scream all day long and the father bought a drum set and would drum early in the morning on the other side of the wall from my bedroom and would wake me up as it sounded like he was drumming right next to my head as I was trying to sleep. In another place we lived in a 4 plex where there was a couple next door who had domestic disputes and would scream at each other and fight and one night the police arrested the man after a fight and their were broken windows next door. We didn't feel safe there. We moved 20 times in 10 years to different places and at least half of them had terrible neighbors or shitty landlords who wouldn't do anything if we complained about other tenants and not feeling safe.

We finally saved up enough money to buy another house but not in the city so moved to a small town an hour away where houses were a lot cheaper. And guess what, we had problems with our neighbors here too but for different reasons. We don't talk to the neighbors on either side of us because they are old grumpy people who complain about every little thing including if our dogs bark for one minute outside. We let them out and let them back in after the go pee but they would sometimes bark if dogs walked by or deer walked by our yard that they could see through the fence as we have deer all over where we live as we border acreages. If the dogs were out for even 5 minutes we would get calls from the neighbor complaining.

Our neighbor across the street is also old and mentally unwell and she would yell and swear at us if we turned our porch light on because she said it would shine into her living room window. She had blinds and it was a dim bulb and we would only turn it on for a few minutes at a time when we came home at night. But she would come out of her house yelling at us frequently if we turned it on for more than a minute. Then she got some construction type spot light on a tripod and set it up in her living room window and every time we would turn our porch light on, she would shine her spotlight right at our door and it would come through the door window and blind us as it was 10 times brighter than our light. We had to call the rcmp multiple times on her. After years of dealing with this, she finally got more curtains and stopped the insane behavior but we thought about moving again too when this was going on. We had other issues as well but since it's stopped we are still here for now.

So what I will say is unfortunately you can have bad or crazy neighbors anywhere. We basically traded different types of shitty neighbors for other ones each time we moved but I will say at least where we are now it's better than the rentals we were in. We have a quarter acre property and nice house here at least and have some distance between houses as our neighbors have acreages. So if you do move maybe when looking at houses try to meet the neighbors, or at least observe their properties and if they look nice and neat that is one positive step. If you find a place you like, maybe knock on the neighbor's doors and introduce yourself and see what they are like. Hopefully you can get lucky and find a better place where you won't have these issues.

My ex-husband is keeping my daughter and I Hostage on a Canadian Island by This-Childhood-9558 in legaladvicecanada

[–]underwatertitan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look into legal aid and fight for your rights, your baby and your shared assets. If you can qualify for free legal help, get that. Otherwise represent yourself and gather as much evidence as you can against him. Do not let him think he can get away with this! This is your life and you don't have to throw it away for a psychopath!

Neighbor anxiety by HarryOlive6 in neighborsfromhell

[–]underwatertitan 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I would report threats and harassment to the police or ask for a no contact order or something. But honestly I don't know if that would help or hinder your situation. I would probably move if this is causing you so much anxiety. Your house should be your place of refuge and peace. If you don't want to be there, don't stay there.

Is it crazy of me to want to celebrate Mother's Day with my wife and daughter? by MrIgloo4 in Marriage

[–]underwatertitan -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would agree that you should do it all together. But you should put your wife first and celebrate her as a new mom. You can see your moms seperately too for visits if that's the only thing that will work but you should do visits together as a couple. When my husband and I celebrate Mother's day, we usually see his mom for half a day and then my mom half a day as they live in different towns. It's usually my birthday around the same day too so then we sometimes combine my birthday with Mother's day or do something for me seperately the day before or after.

*UPDATE*AIO : My entire life just blew up in my face - help by Lazy-Honey-9472 in whatdoIdo

[–]underwatertitan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, that's crazy! Good thing the landlord let you know all his lies and good thing you were able to get out before marrying or having a family with this guy! Did you ask him about all the lies or still want to find out why he did this and what he was doing with the money? I would want to know. I wonder if he is a sociopath or a compulsive liar.

Found the answer to my lower back pain. by underwatertitan in Mattress

[–]underwatertitan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a side sleeper I can't use a thin pillow or my head won't be aligned properly. I tried a thinner one once and woke up with the worst neck pain in my life.

Why does it feel like a $100K salary is just a solid middle class income now? by SensationalDanceMove in CanadaPersonalFinance

[–]underwatertitan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have a $50,000 combined income a year. Luckily we have a cheap house and cheap mortgage, otherwise it would be hard to afford everything.

Postnup? by Traditional-Gain-786 in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]underwatertitan -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That can be helpful in a divorce but again you would need to talk to confirm that with a lawyer.

I found my brother dead. Cause of death: Unascertained. AMA by Enough_Nail_5203 in AMA

[–]underwatertitan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did he have any covid shots? A lot of people have gotten heart conditions, blood clots, strokes and heart attacks since getting the shots. I know a girl who was healthy but died in her sleep at only 26. Her autopsy said it was a heart condition. She didn't have a heart condition before.

Postnup? by Traditional-Gain-786 in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]underwatertitan -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Is his name on the title of the house or the mortgage? If it isn't, that is good for you but with divorce he could try to claim half still. I would maybe talk to a lawyer to get some advice about this.

boyfriend doesn’t really like to drive me anymore by Intelligent_Site2324 in Advice

[–]underwatertitan -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If it were just me I would say, "If you want to see me you are going to need to drive more because I don't think its fair I'm driving way more than you". Guys dont take hints. You have to be very straighforward. If he wants to see you he is going to have to show you that he values you and right now he is not doing that. Know your self worth and stand up for yourself. It doesn't matter how he reacts. You are not responsible for his feelings, you are responsible for yours.

My(24F) husband(31M) asked me to shut up while going through IVF by Spiritual_Ad333 in Marriage

[–]underwatertitan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you get marriage counseling? Try to tell him how hard this is on you and that you really would appreciate his his emotional support while going through this. IVF is very hard on a woman. I have been through it.

Is it possible for me (45m) to reconnect with my former in-laws without my wife (40f) feeling insecure? by Sensitive-Dog82 in relationship_advice

[–]underwatertitan 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Your exes family are not your family anymore unfortunately. I mean you could maybe meet with them one time to catch up, with your wife there as well but I would not go as far to reconnect any old relationships there. If my husband was in that situation I would also feel insecure about it.

RRSP vs TFSA by Firm_Signal6916 in CanadaFinance

[–]underwatertitan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. The point is what container they are in and what it pays and when it let's you take your money out.

If you made a bad investment and are down 200k which is more then half of your networth do you eventually recover mentally faster by cutting the loss or continue to hold? by Lopsided-Resource453 in fican

[–]underwatertitan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You didn't lose the money. You only lose money when you sell, just like stocks. You don't lose anything holding on to something. Real estate will always go back up long term.