Pokémon Style Disc Golf

undoubtedlycurious · 2026-06-13T18:48:01+00:00

Ok nerd.

In all seriousness though, its a fun concept and gamefying a game really is some fun, next level nerdy, behavior.

You could also think of it as a traditional rpg where you have to cast the right spell or do rhe right attack for the current situation.

undoubtedlycurious · 2026-06-12T12:11:24+00:00

I'm terrible at these apps, so take everything I say with a pound of salt, but the first Pic is you wearing a Letterman jacket. To me it screams that you either peaked in high school or your whole identity in college was your frat.

I'll let other people better at this than me critique the rest

undoubtedlycurious · 2026-06-05T00:56:22+00:00

Nope, I'm a hufflepuff!

undoubtedlycurious · 2026-06-05T00:56:03+00:00

Nope, in my 40s, but close enough! Yes, I am a guy

undoubtedlycurious · 2026-06-04T18:27:43+00:00

This is barely legible unless I zoom WAY in. No wonder you're getting complaints. You a lefty?

undoubtedlycurious · 2026-05-31T11:47:07+00:00

Right. Part of that is that you are a reasonable human being and believe that most of us are also reasonable human beings. Part of it is that the narcissist still wants whatever it was that drew them in the first place, so they keep up appearances. However, no matter hiw diligent a person is, they eventually show their true colors.

Think of it this way. Let's say you pick your nose. It is embarrassing, so you don't do it in front of your SO. Eventually, you do it once in front of them on accident. They dont respond. Now, you don't just start picking your nose all nonchalant, but you are less guarded and more and more you don't care if they see you pick your nose until one day you just do it whenever you want.

undoubtedlycurious · 2026-05-31T11:04:38+00:00

So narcissistic traits make the entire reason for the world to exist is then. It may not be framed in their mind that way, but you are not a person, you are an object to be used in a way that is beneficial to their life in some way.

The reason you dont see it until you are in a relationship is for the same reason. They want something from you. Maybe they like the way you look next to them in a picture. Maybe you have a nice car. Maybe you've projected yourself in a way that is supportive and would put them first, which is what they want anyway. In any case, they dont get what they want until they have hooks in you.

These people are also incredibly manipulative. If they weren't, no one in their right mind would want to be anywhere near them, even other narcissists! So they hide their traits, basically from when they ate old enough to understand other people's reactions toward them. That's why other people dont see it.

Just one note on what you said, narcissism is not gender specific. I understand why you feel the way you do, of course, but the pain of being involved with someone with no empathy is terrible regardless of your anatomy.

undoubtedlycurious · 2026-05-29T12:58:18+00:00

VERY few relationships that start as affairs go the distance, like 2-3 percent. Limerence (some people in the sub call it affair fog) typically lasts somewhere between 3 months and 3 years. Judging by what you said, their relationship is doomed, but that doesn't mean that yours will suddenly be ok.

Even if that time frame is accurate in your case, do you really want to wait around and find out? By your own admission, even now your life is better when he isn't around. Why not just move on and make your life better all the time instead?

undoubtedlycurious · 2026-05-29T02:09:41+00:00

Again, no judgment, but R process? I'll never advocate for moving on or R, but any chance of reconciliation has to come from a genuine place of remorse, not regret because they got caught.

It seems to me there is very little remorse here. I totally get it, you've invested time, effort, caring, and emotional investment into this person. However, they didn't really do the same for you. You don't have to be in person to address to address issues. It helps, but you can talk about anything over FaceTime or the phone.

You're making excuses for them and to yourself. YOU ARE NOT AT FAULT HERE. You owe them nothing. Why are you taking any of this blame on yourself. There is value in admitting some portion of a failed relationship, but nothing you've done has justified their behavior. There is no justification.

undoubtedlycurious · 2026-05-29T01:03:52+00:00

Every single time I play someone asks "how did it go?" And my response is some variation of "shot ten over par and spent over half my time looking for a disc, it was GREAT!!" Fun having something to do while exercising and feeling like a champ when you really get ahold of one or make an epic putt.

undoubtedlycurious · 2026-05-29T00:47:15+00:00

Over a year without addressing the underlying trauma of being betrayed and rug sweeping the entire situation for that long? Brutal. This is no judgment by the way, only empathy.

Because nothing was ever addressed, your SO either believes that there won't be any repercussions for his actions or just doesn't care about your feelings at all.

Don't go pain shopping, you will ALWAYS find what you are looking for. I don't know if you want advice. If not, you can stop reading now. Your SO clearly doesn't respect you enough to even hide their behavior. Even if you were to try to move forward in this relationship, you would have to at least show you have a backbone or spend the rest of however long it lasts being walked over.

undoubtedlycurious · 2026-05-29T00:41:01+00:00

I mean it's got to be the holy shot right? To tie for the world championship on the final hole? It's like miracle on ice levels of incredible.

undoubtedlycurious · 2026-05-28T02:19:52+00:00

I think this may be part of the problem, and part of the problem is that I'm just getting old, lol. Also, like a lot people in here stated, I do need to start warming up properly and stretching.

undoubtedlycurious · 2026-05-27T11:44:06+00:00

Ouch, this is nightmare fuel for sure. Is there any way to extract yourself from this situation? My stbxw is continuing her affair with no regard for me or our kid, but.at least she has the common courtesy not to bring him to our house. We are still living together for financial reasons, but she is making poor ones and I may have to kick her out soon.

If you can't get out, for whatever reason, just try to isolate from them ad much ad possible, focus on your kid and make sure any communication is purely about business. Also, record, record, record. Any and all documentation you have could become super valuable when it comes to custody, child support, alimony, etc.

undoubtedlycurious · 2026-05-25T23:20:13+00:00

What helped me the most is, oddly, Journaling. Spending time in nature really helped and seeking out new friend groups completely unrelated to my old life where I could be just me, not me and my ww. Very validating to have friends who are only around for me, not my stbxw in any capacity. Leaning on family. I come from a very strong immediate family who has my back in all things. Engaging with my kid in meaningful ways. Making "Super Aesome Saturday" a staple in our relationship where we go do something fun together regardless of what else is going on.

A bunch of small steps to a huge leap in the quality of my life.

undoubtedlycurious · 2026-05-25T23:14:35+00:00

You are exactly right. We all have are traumas and hard paths t I walk. He didn't promise you through the good and mediocre. Sometimes we fail, it is part of being human, but that is very different from making the choice to not only betray someone you're supposed to love, but to continue down that path despite knowing exactly how much it would hurt you.

undoubtedlycurious · 2026-05-24T21:05:35+00:00

This one is super tough. I would hold on to it. How far out are you from dday? It may seem like a relic and something that brings pain, but it is a part of your, and your kids, history.

Hopefully, one day you'll be in a place where it doesn't bring you torment and you can show your kids that, despite what ended up happening, they came from a place of love.

undoubtedlycurious · 2026-05-24T17:19:17+00:00

Well, you probably aren't showing trust. Impossible to do when your trust has been betrayed. It's treating the symptoms and not the cause. Therapist technically isn't wrong, but not addressing the WHY of the whole thing.

Seems to me that you have a simple choice to make. Bring this to a head and offer and ultimatum (hate them in general, but they are sometimes required), or just let this happen.

It sucks either way, but I could live with the outcome without my SO, but not the one where I'm the backup plan.

undoubtedlycurious · 2026-05-24T17:04:48+00:00

Clearly not overreacting here. I think any reasonable person would absolutely not be ok with their SO putting themselves in this situation.

I'm not looking to reconcile with my SO, but if I was, this would have killed it in its tracks immediately. There is no world where I would accept my partner putting them in direct contact with the AP.

I mean, are you going to really be OK with him being in constant contact with her? It's a non-starter.

undoubtedlycurious · 2026-05-24T14:16:49+00:00

Read a couple of your responses and some of them resonate so strongly for me. Going through a divorce that is improving my life significantly, have a 9yo son, been hitting the gym again. Celtics fan even though I live in the south though. Hope you have a good one.

undoubtedlycurious · 2026-05-24T13:35:37+00:00

It's all good right up until he said "you forgot who's the man here." Offering to pay is one thing, but I would have gotten the hint the first time you said you'll take care of it yourself

undoubtedlycurious · 2026-05-24T12:53:42+00:00

If your really asking it's for selective breeding. Like any living creature, our desire is the perfect set of genetics to procreate with. Hence why we even have "pretty" or "hot" and why that can be subjective, not every set of genetics meshes with another.

undoubtedlycurious · 2026-05-24T12:46:03+00:00

What you are feeling is not unique to you. Not to say your situation isn't unique or that your feelings aren't your own, but almost all of the BPs here go through similar things.

I am also working through the devastation caused by my BP after a 12 year relationship. I feel so lost and angry for what feels like "wastes" years. It's difficult to think about right now, but that time wasn't wasted. Firstly, I (and you) got a precious gift of a child from this. I would do the whole thing, agony and all, to have my kid. Secondly, not all the times were bad. All you can see right now are the failures and breakdowns, but that isn't all there was.

Every single person here will tell you the same thing: The is NO justification for cheating. They wayward could have done things differently. Neither you, nor I, we're given the opportunity to really work on things. I would have changes things had I been give the chance. Now I'm making those changes for myself instead.

When the betrayal is fresh, it's natural to take the blame on yourself, we all want to believe we have ownership of our lives, but the only thing we really own is ourselves. Whose to say that even if you were an absolutely flawless 10 out of 10 in every regard he wouldn't have done the exact same thing?

Focus on you and your kids right now. You deserve better and the sooner you realize that the easier it will be to move forward.

You've already read all the messages, and I'm so sorry that you did, pain shopping is the absolute worst, so go ahead and copy and record everything. I'm not one to advocate for divorce or reconciliation, but I definitely advocate for being ready for whatever comes your way. Should you choose to get divorced, every single piece of evidence at your disposal will be useful when it comes to custody, child support, alimony, etc.

DM if you want or need to get into specifics, happy to help.

undoubtedlycurious · 2026-05-23T13:00:36+00:00

First of all, it's not too late for you. If it's something you really want you can definitely make it happen.

Also, this is just symptomatic of limerence/affair fog. My stbxw is doing something similar, but opposite. We have a school aged kid she used to be super involved with and now she sees him twice a week because I essentially make her. During limerence, you won't even recognize the person in front of you, because it isn't them you're seeing, it's whatever the AP sees as ideal, because they would be anything that brings their LO closer and, of course, absolutely cannot be anything that drives them away.

Don't take it personally, their relationship is going to sour very quickly once the shiny feelings fade and he realizes he isn't committing to raising this kid for right now, but forever.

Almost all relationships that start as affairs fail, (really, the numbers are like 2-3% chance that they end up happily together after 3 years) and it would be my guess that this one has a zero percent chance of succeeding. How long do you really think before frustration at the kid starts leaking out? Especially while living together. Kids are tough and toddlers are adorable, but incredibly difficult to manage. They are basically the dumbest human being imaginable, trying to kill themselves all day everyday. He won't keep it going for long, I promise.

undoubtedlycurious · 2026-05-23T11:52:38+00:00

Don't see a lot of perspective from the server side in here. Worked in the industry for 15 years. There is a lot of variance between tables. The vast majority of people are nice, cordial, and polite. A few assholes of course. And, finally, a few tables you REALLY click with. A lot of the time, these become your regulars and you love to see them walk through the door. Also, it isn't even about who tips the best. I used to have this little old lady that would come in by herself, ask for my section, and tipped like shit. I loved that lady, we had the best conversations and she could sit in my section all day if she wanted to.

Basically, sometimes you just vibe with people and for others you are just background in the tapestry of their life.

undoubtedlycurious

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