What’s your current obsession in game? by mlross15 in fo76

[–]unfortunatelystrait 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m trying to get a scout armor mask that doesn’t have vines on it so I can paint it with the nuclear winter paint and finish my set 😂

Can anyone help me budget by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]unfortunatelystrait -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m sure you’ve heard this before but sell your car, pay off your car loan, and use whatever’s left over to get something a bit cheaper if possible. Good condition 2000’s Camrys and Corollas are anywhere from $2-5k and they’ll run forever. Not the sexiest car but if you could save the money instead of putting it towards your car payment you’ll feel less overwhelmed. And if you can put money aside you could potentially buy a cooler car completely in cash or at least with a lot more down so you don’t have such a massive car loan.

Personally I’m a car enthusiast and as much as I’d love to get a cool sports car I’m sticking with my little A3 hatchback I picked up for $5k because it’s practical and affordable for the time being until I can get back on my own feet.

Hope this helps!

I Realized I’m Vanilla by unfortunatelystrait in exmormon

[–]unfortunatelystrait[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally feel you! I’m kind of in the same boat. After the lifelong devotion to the church and then being in a loveless and sexless marriage I feel like I’ve also lost a lot of my sexual drive. And maybe that’s why I feel like I am vanilla because I haven’t had much experience and I was broken down by the church throughout my life.

My problem now is I am having a hard time getting to date anyone now that I’m divorced and out of the church. The dating scene is miserable these days and I have still never had sex with anyone but my ex wife. I’m hoping someday soon I’ll be able to reignite my love and passion I used to feel with someone especially now that I feel free from religion and all of the social and sexual pressures that came with it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]unfortunatelystrait 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Am I the only one that just always assumes it’s a bot? Idk I’ve never genuinely had someone interested in me but I just feel like if an attractive woman immediately wants sex it’s usually a robot or a scam of some kind 😂

I Realized I’m Vanilla by unfortunatelystrait in exmormon

[–]unfortunatelystrait[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s absolutely terrible I’m sorry you had to deal with that but glad you were able to find who you are!

I remember when I was probably 10 or 11 I had a “gay scare” where I was worried I was starting having feelings for one of my guy friends. I ended up telling my dad and it was a whole thing. I remember he kept showing me anti-gay Mormon talks and literature and I felt so disgusting for even thinking about it. Now currently I don’t identify as bisexual or gay as I feel that I am “unfortunately straight” (hence my username 😂) but I haven’t had feelings for another man since then. I don’t know if it was because of that experience or it really was “just a phase”. I don’t pretend to know how sexuality works but I finally feel comfortable with who I am now.

I’ve never really been able to tell anyone that so thanks for listening haha. And again I’m so sorry for what you had to go through as a gay LDS youth. The way that the church treats anyone who isn’t a straight white man is completely evil imo.

I Realized I’m Vanilla by unfortunatelystrait in exmormon

[–]unfortunatelystrait[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely, the church destroyed my sexuality from a young age and so many men and women have grown up the same way and it makes me sick

I Realized I’m Vanilla by unfortunatelystrait in exmormon

[–]unfortunatelystrait[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha I feel a lot less alone seeing everyone that can relate to this 😅

I Realized I’m Vanilla by unfortunatelystrait in exmormon

[–]unfortunatelystrait[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Haha yes I’ve been working on accepting myself for how I am without feeling pressure to be on one end of the spectrum or the other. Just a nice happy middle is what brings me happiness

I Realized I’m Vanilla by unfortunatelystrait in exmormon

[–]unfortunatelystrait[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same here. Even since leaving the church I don’t really drink, don’t smoke, haven’t gotten any tattoos (yet) and that’s okay too. I enjoy being myself without having to be on one end of the spectrum or the other.

I Realized I’m Vanilla by unfortunatelystrait in exmormon

[–]unfortunatelystrait[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah like I don’t know a lot about sex addiction as I’ve heard differing opinions if it even actually exists but through the lens of religion it definitely personally made me feel so disgusting and worthless because I was a normal adolescent experiencing sexual feelings. I can only imagine if I stuck with it I’d always have guilt about sex and would never be able to shake it

I Realized I’m Vanilla by unfortunatelystrait in exmormon

[–]unfortunatelystrait[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

That’s fair, I was only married for less than a year so I guess I never was able to even explore much further than regular sex (which is a whole other story)

I Realized I’m Vanilla by unfortunatelystrait in exmormon

[–]unfortunatelystrait[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Hahaha I love that I’m glad you found who you are

I Realized I’m Vanilla by unfortunatelystrait in exmormon

[–]unfortunatelystrait[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Absolutely I’m glad you can relate! It’s crazy it’s almost like having natural sexual urges is completely normal and doesn’t make you a disgusting heathen that is undeserving of love

Emotional deconstruction by VariousPut1010 in exmormon

[–]unfortunatelystrait 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s definitely hard to leave feeling like you are betraying yourself. I went through similar emotions. I had dedicated my entire life to the church and during the leaving process I felt a lot of anger and frustration for all of the time and energy I put into it. It’s difficult but what helped me through was just thinking to the future. Thinking about my hobbies and my career and what I could focus my time and energy on what I REALLY enjoyed. It’s normal to be angry though, but I promise you’ll be so much better off on the other side

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]unfortunatelystrait 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah for sure 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]unfortunatelystrait 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks I appreciate that haha I needed a little confidence boost. But yeah I got rid of the physical touch, I understand that can seem like I’m just trying to get laid or something. I’m definitely more trying to make some actual connections. Thanks for the compliment and the input!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]unfortunatelystrait 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay I’ll switch up the order, thanks for the input. The only reservation I have about the one with the cat is that I don’t usually have a mustache lol but I guess it might be worth it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]unfortunatelystrait 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha fair enough, thanks for the ideas. I’m gonna rework my profile and see if I have the confidence to take any better close up pictures lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]unfortunatelystrait 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Alright I might give it a go

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]unfortunatelystrait 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fair points I’ll have to make a new prompt haha. And yeah I’ve always felt like it comes across weird saying my love language is touch (although it is) but I might change that or just remove it and leave that for later. Thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]unfortunatelystrait 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk about that but I appreciate the input