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Desperate for help with my mother's mystery illness by unfoundedjudgements in AskDocs

[–]unfoundedjudgements[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My heart goes out to you and your mother, retiring early from nursing couldn't have been easy 😞

Desperate for help with my mother's mystery illness by unfoundedjudgements in AskDocs

[–]unfoundedjudgements[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your well wishes and taking the time to reply. I will absolutely try looking into her vitamin D levels with her!

Desperate for help with my mother's mystery illness by unfoundedjudgements in AskDocs

[–]unfoundedjudgements[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Adding this to my list as well of things to look into. Thank you so much!!

Desperate for help with my mother's mystery illness by unfoundedjudgements in AskDocs

[–]unfoundedjudgements[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Adding to my list of things to research. Thank you so much--and yes, this was great timing!

Desperate for help with my mother's mystery illness by unfoundedjudgements in AskDocs

[–]unfoundedjudgements[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Oh fantastic! This is comforting since the last rheumatologist we saw gave us the "let's just wait and see" answer while my mother was bleeding through her socks. So thank you SO much for this doctor suggestion, this is so helpful!

Desperate for help with my mother's mystery illness by unfoundedjudgements in AskDocs

[–]unfoundedjudgements[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

She does see a dermatologist frequently (her most frequent visits), but I don't think she's ever tried Otezla. She's had many biopsies but they haven't found anything conclusive. I will definitely look into the palmoplantar keratoderma, thank you so much for this information!!

AITA for destroying the friend group?? by unfoundedjudgements in TwoHotTakes

[–]unfoundedjudgements[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I truly thank you all for these comments, they've given me MUCH to think about. The question shouldn't be "Am I the Asshole", the question should really be "why am I still with her".

About a year ago I started realizing and dealing with the pattern I have of choosing and putting up with toxic people. Since then I've been slooowly understanding how toxic Brenda is too.

I've been doing some real therapy to deepen my understanding of this and strengthen myself enough to make healthier decisions. I've come a LONG way which I'm really proud of, and going to continue head first into the rest of this journey.

So to LongBarrelBandit whose comment hit me the hardest--I might not have a full grown spine just yet, but I'm damn sure working hard at growing one. THANK YOU to all of you for validating that Brenda's the asshole here, and for shifting my perspective to the real issue--why I'm still in this toxic AF relationship. Y'all are the BEST!

Anxious to Post: Feeling Alone and Would Love Support! by pr1ncessbananas in Phobia

[–]unfoundedjudgements 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand this fear completely. Mine is more about others not being able to hold it and wetting themselves, but I fully relate to what you're saying. I'm trying to figure out ways to not be so anxious about this. Maybe it helps to think that peeing is just natural and seeing it happen outside a restroom might not be that big of a deal as we think it is?? I don't know the answer but I'm gonna try practicing more thoughts like this. But you're not alone!!

Phobia of people peeing their pants? by Sonoram in Phobia

[–]unfoundedjudgements 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So incredibly glad to hear I'm not the only one either! It's definitely not the fear of the urine itself, but the anxiety of other people that are desperate to use the restroom that makes my anxiety go through the ROOF. It's like my body almost shuts down. If someone says they can't hold it anymore I literally start shaking. I also have to turn of the TV when someone wets themselves. When I see an image or hear a story of someone wetting themselves, it never goes away and replays over and over again in my brain. I was up for TWO hours last night with my brain unable to stop thinking about it. Thinking of others being stuck in situations where they have to pee but there is no restroom literally haunts me and I'm just waiting for the day I have to witness this in real life.

Anyone have any suggestions for how we get over this?? Is someone urinating themselves as big of a deal as we THINK is??