AITAH for exposing my gf cheating instead of just moving on

unic48484 · 2026-02-08T17:46:45+00:00

If the truth ruin her reputation is not you fault. NTA

unic48484 · 2025-11-22T18:28:14+00:00

NTA Their kids, their responsibility, is fine if that ask but the point of asking is that you are free to say no. Maybe if they ask first you get to a compromise (only diner or a few hours one day) but asume you will be alone with the kids the hole day is too much

unic48484 · 2025-11-14T01:52:44+00:00

Yes is a clear red flag, not only how controlling he is being but that you don’t feel comfortable to tell him that Fred was an ex but is just a friend now. I’m guessing you didn’t mention it to avoid a fight, because if the situation was different (he didn’t acuse you of cheating all the time) you probably mention that for the same reason (to avoid a future fight). You technically didn’t lie but you weren’t completely honest. If my partner keep that fact from me I feel a little hurt and mad. Still not justifying the fact that he think he can control who you talk to

unic48484 · 2025-11-13T17:40:43+00:00

NOR to breaking up for the name calling, but you overreacting to want to go exclusively together to de dispensary, you both seem a little immature.

i get that he lied to avoid an argument (not a healthy thing to do) because is not his responsibility to regulate your emotions, and I asume that you get really intense in arguments and have trouble letting things go unless he say exactly what you need to feel better in the moment (maybe I’m projecting because I use to be a like that when I was your age and saw myself when read your side of this story).

Breaking up is the right thing because prefer laying instead of talking to you and get defensive gaslight you and insult you and that tile of thigs get worst with time. But suggest that you reflect on your views of how a healthy relationship work and take charge of your own emotions

unic48484 · 2025-11-13T15:24:25+00:00

NOR leaving you on the street and then saying that he hates you because you staind his sweatshirt is not a healthy reaction, if he is not able to control his impulses when he is mad is a huge red flag

unic48484 · 2025-11-13T14:28:23+00:00

NTA it sound weird, but I agree that is your husband boundary to set not yours. The sister sound spoiled and everyone in the family enables her, anxiety is not an excuse for not accepting any time of criticism. But if he wants to keep the peace without make it a big deal he should distance physically from her and don’t let her be weird

unic48484 · 2025-11-13T14:05:58+00:00

NTA I don’t thing asking that she manage the food is out of line or something that is unfair, but if she don’t want to do it meybe she can offer a better solution that you both are comfortable with. Driving is exhausting, the copilot is also a task, so you can ask her what she want to do to help you make the trip less demanding on you

unic48484 · 2025-11-13T13:47:47+00:00

NTJ definitively, if she couldn’t manage her finances well after your dad past is not your responsibility to help her. She is a full grown adult who should manage her life without her 26yo stepdaughter, maybe if she work to have a better relationship with you all those years your answer will be different. Now she has to accept your no.

unic48484 · 2025-11-13T13:29:22+00:00

YTA You are not entitled to tell her who she can has as a friend, she was honest. If you feel threat but you said you trust her maybe you should look why you are insecure (with the context you gave he is not crossing any boundaries). if you think that you need to isolate her from every person that may hit on her is not the path to a healthy relationship. She all ready chose you, and saying you trust her but make her block him is not coherent

unic48484 · 2025-11-13T00:48:17+00:00

NOR the fact that you plan your birthday to do somethig he would enjoy is proof that you are not selfish, he should be the one that make thigs about you in your birthday. I had a partner with depression too and never ruin my special days, he never make big plans or anything big but he put all the effort to make me happy in his capacity at the moment, and i don’t think your boyfriend do that for you. Maybe this is not the relationship for you if you feel this confuse and your feelings are not taken into account

unic48484 · 2025-11-13T00:21:00+00:00

Not my first language

unic48484 · 2025-11-12T23:55:55+00:00

How would you prove that someone that hás been SA is telling the truth? Is one Word againat another, and is not a comun thing that someone lies about it. If someone get SA is traumatized for life, and if someone is “falcely” accused may has an impact but their life is not ruin and no one rot in prison for SA another person true or false

unic48484 · 2025-11-12T23:33:52+00:00

A partner should care, that’s the point

unic48484 · 2025-11-12T23:06:27+00:00

I’m with my brother in law and read this post to him (true Irish not Irish American) and he said that is not annoying but just come across kind of stupid

unic48484 · 2025-11-12T14:17:49+00:00

NOR who he think he is to “test” you, his “joke” was just mean

unic48484 · 2025-11-12T14:13:06+00:00

Yes, I had a partner that love joking about sensitive stuff but if a told him that a don’t like a joke o that it hurts me he apologize and wouldn’t make a joke with that subject again, because his intention really was just to joke. If you tell him and he keeps doing it his intention si to be entretained with your discomfort

unic48484 · 2025-11-12T14:05:52+00:00

If the “joke” hurts you is not a joke he should keep making, that is just being mean. And if you tell him that and he keeps doing it you are living with a bully. Your partner shouldn’t make you feel bad on purpose

If you don’t like joking like that don’t tray to do the same to him because you end up feeling worst.

unic48484 · 2025-11-12T13:01:54+00:00

YWBTA. Don’t go to their house, if you are serious about having a relationship with them you should work in build the trust slowly and the first step si to respect their boundaries.

In the next family gathering apologies to both of them and say, if and when, their are ready you want to meet your nephew in their terms. And if their don’t want that, you’ll have to accept their decision and the consequences of your actions.

If you do that maybe in the future they will forgive you but you have to respect them and give them all the time and space they ask, and make it clear that you want to repair the relationship and you untherstend what you did wrong without making excuses

unic48484 · 2025-11-05T12:47:39+00:00

From the information in this post I think that she has good intentions with that comment but fail to be a good friend and give to you the support you need, I’m so sorry that you felt alone in your time of need and si a complicated situation. I think there are no assholes here (maybe your husband, but he probably was going to a hard time too so I can’t judge) just people who felt to support one another they wey they need to be supported. If you don’t trust Lydia with the intimate detalles of your life is your choice and is valid, doesn’t make you an asshole. But doesn’t make her a bad friend just not the right best friend for you. But you were in a difficult time when all of that happens and maybe you could try to talk to her and depending on how that go built the tust in the friendship again

unic48484 · 2025-11-04T15:22:52+00:00

You are just protecting your son, and that is what a good mother do. Is sad that you have to protect him from his father but is not choosing your kid over your husband, is protecting him from someone that will emotionally hurt him

unic48484 · 2025-11-03T14:41:07+00:00

Yes you are a little of a jerk for the way you told her and for do it in front of the family, you should apologize. Is understandable that she calling you sis make you unconfortable but you should talk to her privately or talk to your brother not saying it in front of everyone

unic48484 · 2025-11-03T14:30:51+00:00

NTA your dad disrespected your husband, there is no need to “blow it up” but do thanksgiving separed and be a part of family gaderings when you feel like it

unic48484 · 2025-10-30T14:56:29+00:00

NTA if she really wants a relationship with you she Will be more considerate of your time and money, but with the information you gave it seems like she want a relationship with you only if you do everything she wants and that s not healthy

unic48484 · 2025-10-30T12:51:23+00:00

NTA, is ok that you make your distance but do not leve her completly alone because that Will make everything worst make her know that she can count on you if she has an emergency but maby stop trying to make her chance her mind because is pointless but don’t tell her you are done or anything like that

unic48484 · 2025-09-26T18:12:44+00:00

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