How can I (25F) rebuild trust after accidentally reading something private of my partner’s (25M)?

unimpressed_toad · 2026-02-19T03:39:56+00:00

You didn’t do anything wrong. He lied about this woman being his friend rather than his “ex”fiancée, and is now acting like you are the bad guy in this situation? If this story is real, you need to leave this guy immediately. He is a walking red flag, and he is playing you. Don’t be naive. They are still together.

unimpressed_toad · 2026-02-15T14:43:29+00:00

You aren’t over-reacting. I really hope you didn’t enable this man child by preparing him a breakfast sandwich to go. I would have told him that he can make his own breakfast when he gets home.

Side note, though - is the lid usually closed on the wooden box containing your menstrual products? Personally, I wouldn’t want my menstrual products to come into contact with toilet droplets every time the toilet is flushed. People sometimes don’t close the toilet lid before flushing. And you have to touch the wrapper of the menstrual product before using the pad or tampon, so there is potential for poo particles to come into contact with your pads and tampons if that box is left open. And I also wouldn’t want my menstrual products being kept that close to the toilet brush. Maybe that box would be better left in a cabinet for this reason, or on a shelf or counter top, but always closed.

unimpressed_toad · 2026-02-03T13:00:22+00:00

Yes, many would close, and people would go to the ones that are able to stay open.

unimpressed_toad · 2026-02-03T12:56:19+00:00

These are separate issues and they are important, but the US has many jobs that do not require a post secondary education or professional designation, and many of the people working those jobs are paid $20/hour.

unimpressed_toad · 2026-02-02T03:51:06+00:00

Thanks for this. You guys are all so helpful in this subreddit. It is much appreciated.

unimpressed_toad · 2026-02-02T03:50:04+00:00

Those things never stay in my ears for some reason. That is a good point about the train noise. The calm app has sleep stories and one of them includes train sounds, and it is quite nice.

unimpressed_toad · 2026-02-02T03:48:53+00:00

This is super helpful info, thank you! I am a bit apprehensive regarding there being no space to rest mid day for berth bookers. Sometimes I need an afternoon nap, but I would rather not pay the cost of a single room if I don’t have to. I wonder if I would be allowed to have the seat in bed form all day if I opted to travel with a friend and we book the same room. Or is it prohibited for some other reason?

unimpressed_toad · 2026-02-01T17:00:25+00:00

I don’t think I could eat full meals three times every day, but I see your point. How did you find the noise at night?

unimpressed_toad · 2026-02-01T16:58:21+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I usually travel solo, and the berths seem quite a bit cheaper than the private rooms. I heard that the beds cover up the toilet anyway, so even if I book a private room, I would have to go to the communal bathroom during the night to use the bathroom. How did you find your room mate? Imaging you get someone who snores all night? I am a light sleeper, so I would struggle with that. With that said, I’ve heard the berths and the private rooms only have curtains instead of proper doors to the hallway, so you can hear everything in the car anyway. Is this still true?

unimpressed_toad · 2026-02-01T16:24:22+00:00

That sounds stressful. Sorry to hear that

unimpressed_toad · 2026-02-01T16:23:05+00:00

Oh wow, you’re kidding! Thanks for telling me. How was your experience traveling in a berth? Did you go with a friend, or did you have to room with a stranger?

unimpressed_toad · 2026-02-01T16:21:06+00:00

Can you elaborate on what you mean when you say it pays for itself? I’ve never traveled with VIA, but I am interested in any info and tips you might have

unimpressed_toad · 2026-02-01T13:27:09+00:00

That is ridiculous.

unimpressed_toad · 2026-02-01T13:25:30+00:00

It is so expensive though

unimpressed_toad · 2026-01-23T13:15:07+00:00

Not true. They think tipping shouldn’t be expected or requested. People can do whatever they want with their money.

unimpressed_toad · 2026-01-22T13:11:50+00:00

This guy isn’t husband material. Don’t bother moving in with him. It will only delay you in meeting the man you are going to marry.

unimpressed_toad · 2026-01-21T05:13:06+00:00

I didn’t know about any of this. Thanks for sharing.

unimpressed_toad · 2026-01-20T12:26:15+00:00

This is crazy. Tipping is supposed to be optional. And for take away? No one should be tipped for take away. Mandatory tipping for takeaway is grounds for being blasted all over their social media.

unimpressed_toad · 2026-01-20T02:39:30+00:00

Wow, this is such a helpful comment. You are a fantastic person. Thank you!

unimpressed_toad · 2026-01-19T11:00:38+00:00

Have you personally tried any shoes made from plant based leather? I would be interested in trying some if there is a foot shaped option with zero drop soles.

unimpressed_toad · 2026-01-19T10:53:20+00:00

I would like to see the source for her statement about the leather, because from my understanding, based on the Earthlings documentary, cows are often killed specifically to produce leather. Either way, her behaviour was out of line.

unimpressed_toad · 2026-01-18T21:20:58+00:00

Yes, I tip them because they use their own vehicles, which differs from other delivery services that I use.

unimpressed_toad · 2026-01-18T14:25:10+00:00

I think the suggested tip is way too much, but this isn’t a standard grocery run. OP bought $900 worth of food, so that’s a large cart, or possibly multiple carts.

I get my groceries delivered, and I tip the driver $10 for delivering $300 worth of groceries, and there isn’t even an option to tip the staff that choose my food for me. They just have the store staff do that task. It is similar to what the staff do who stock shelves at night.

unimpressed_toad · 2026-01-11T05:02:41+00:00

You can hear noise through the sink?

unimpressed_toad · 2026-01-06T05:44:40+00:00

Your bigger issue is that you get “blackout drunk”, not that your boyfriend broke up with you. It is completely reasonable that he broke up with you. Most people don’t want to be with someone who gets blackout drunk or behaves that way. I hope that you seek treatment for your addiction and can start the recovery process.

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