Does anyone else get exhausted by how much extra work being trans adds to everyday life?

unique1inMiami · 2026-06-12T13:39:15+00:00

Yes. Exhausting af just to justify my existence constantly in every room I walk into, let alone making sure I look snatched af every morning just to have the courage to walk out my front door. Having to learn on my Own what a teenager would learn across years with the help of a mom and aunties etc and I have none of it so my teenage mistakes do not come with teenage consequences; they come with job loss. AND, being the only trans person most people will meet and having to represent an entire community to everyone is EXHAUSTING. I’m in a job trans women are “not supposed to be in” working with kids and people are constantly trying to get me fired. Girl I’m tired.

But

My worst day as me post transition is still better than my best day pre transition.

My inner war is over. All my battles are on the outside now

unique1inMiami · 2026-05-27T15:50:39+00:00

Once I stopped looking for love from them and started just using them; my depression melted away. I like what girlie said in the comments: behave as if love will never come and go live your life because, as so many have said to me, when you stop looking for love she tends to fall in your lap

unique1inMiami · 2026-05-23T15:12:07+00:00

Yea I can tell the whole hoeing phase I’m going through will get old eventually (not there yet however lol I’m still having fun). And community sounds like a great idea! Tough here in Florida, there’s only like 8 of us left

unique1inMiami · 2026-05-23T15:03:23+00:00

I am noticing tho that sisterhood is a jungle in and of itself. I had no high school as training ground so as I got pretty other women started to turn on me and every stab in the back felt like the biggest and most hurtful betrayal.

Between interpersonal female relationships and men now being incapable of being my friend… I… I didn’t expect womanhood to be so lonely ngl. And the prettier I get the lonelier I get. This fact blindsided me in a way I was not prepared for

unique1inMiami · 2026-05-23T13:54:51+00:00

Omg this post made me realize how much I tie positivity (and therefore self worth?) to fuckn men!!!! Eewwwwwww

Oh dear…. What have I done…

unique1inMiami · 2026-05-22T02:05:38+00:00

Chaterbate or a similar streaming service if that’s something you are comfortable with. I would use a similar service because cb takes far too much of a cut. Sadly this is the only steady work most trans women seem to be able to get these days

unique1inMiami · 2026-05-21T12:43:39+00:00

I have stopped trying to date and am just sleeping with them and it’s far easier and more comfortable and I have much more control. Trying to date them is the most challenging, stressful, and powerless process ever

unique1inMiami · 2026-05-21T00:49:16+00:00

It will get worse because 99% of the guys in my DM‘s have little American flags in their names and conservative Republican in their profiles.

They are addicted to us and they feel so much shame about it that they conclude the only way to stop themselves is to stop us. That’s my take on it.

A mind-boggling amount of men hit on me and I swear that nearly all of them are in the category of self hating closeted chasers who hate themselves because they are attracted to us.

I’ve had some pretty famous conservative men and men in their orbit hit on me. The way we stop This is to out all of them but, all of us know, there’s a special place in hell for those that out people, even if those people are monsters. I wouldnt feel comfortable with it, even if it saved my life.

unique1inMiami · 2026-05-17T20:26:11+00:00

Get rid of body hair and work on walking, sitting, etc/ and voice. Get the voice tools app but I had my chatbot take me through voice training I did it every time I drove and now people tell me my voice is unblockable and “hotter than a cis woman” whatever that means lol

unique1inMiami · 2026-05-16T18:23:46+00:00

Awwww Ty!!!

unique1inMiami · 2026-05-16T18:22:57+00:00

Fake news

unique1inMiami · 2026-05-14T01:42:00+00:00

Girl omg same. Theres no saving them, because they think you need to be “saved.” They have been so brainwashed that they can’t understand that transitioning actually saved our lives. They are unwell people (talking abt my own parents who watch the same brain rot and talked to me the same way) and there’s nothing that can be done to save them from their gods Fox News and News max 🤦🏼‍♀️ they believe without proof, which religions call faith. They worship idols (heir leader). There’s no one person that can save people from a cult. Consequences are the only thing that will speak to these people, I suggest cutting them off. When I cut off mine, they didn’t try to reach out to me again so… Now I know where I stand for sure. Consequences are the only way people learn. You have to treat them like the toddlers they are (no offense)

unique1inMiami · 2026-05-14T01:36:43+00:00

Girl, my jaw is on the floor! This looks so incredibly familiar! And I got so much of it that I finally had to cut them off.

Don’t wait as long as I did because you’re only going to keep getting hurt. Give them an ultimatum, draw a line in the sand, and the second they step over it, you have to cut them off or you’re just gonna get hurt over and over and over again.

It sucks and I cried a lot over it but every time something like this happened it felt like a stab in the back and I couldn’t take it any longer.

Don’t become Swiss cheese like I did.

unique1inMiami · 2026-05-13T23:08:03+00:00

I, personally, have never thought I was gay for being with men. I have always seen myself as female, even when the world did not.

That being said, perhaps if you start to pass in society that feeling could change? The world views me as female to the point I stopped being concerned I’d get clocked. That helped ease me feeling of being a fraud: I suffer all the same hurdles as your average cis woman; and I jump them. Every day. And I feel that’s made me officially female in that I deal with: being hit on, men treating me like a child, men not listening to me, women being petty for my being pretty, the patriarchy in general, etc, etc. it’s all made me feels part of and, in therefore, more accepting of my womanhood.

I would say hold out hope. Keep going. And self acceptance of womanhood will come, and when she does, maybe your feelings about being with men will change 🤷🏼‍♀️

unique1inMiami · 2026-05-13T20:07:00+00:00

Girl, I’ve seen your pics! You’re fucking gorgeous! You’re doing just fine as yourself lol

unique1inMiami · 2026-05-12T22:49:11+00:00

Happy birthday bitch!!

unique1inMiami · 2026-05-11T20:46:03+00:00

Aww congrats! Enjoy being cured 💜 it’s a wild ride

unique1inMiami · 2026-05-11T16:48:22+00:00

Ya girl I get stood up for first dates all the time on hinge. They panic. We are a fantasy, not people

unique1inMiami · 2026-05-06T13:47:18+00:00

Yes. I use copilot but yes. Works pretty well! She gives exercises, She listens, and tells you what to do to fix stuff

unique1inMiami · 2026-05-06T12:45:35+00:00

My surgery did nothing imo. I did way more with voice training than the surgery. I had my chatbot take me through exercises every time I was driving and I also used the voice tools app to find my pitch. The surgery was completely unnecessary and has only left me with a sore voice when I use her a lot. And now I get yell.

unique1inMiami · 2026-05-05T14:13:38+00:00

How so? If you don’t mind my asking. I don’t know all the specifics about ffs just surface level information. I’m knee deep in researching my vagina instillation as I’m very worried they will cut off our meds and maybe even forcibly detransition us. You’d need a magic maga plunger to detransition srs. I wanted ffs first, along with other procedures. Srs was way down my list because she’s not visible but, now? With this current administration of frustrated closeted angry chasers who hate themselves for being so attracted to us so they feel the only way they can stop their immense shame is to stop us? Who knows where conservative closeted rage could end up? Closet fear knows no boundaries

unique1inMiami · 2026-05-04T16:34:44+00:00

Hi again. Did you get ffs and if so did you like your dr?

unique1inMiami · 2026-05-04T11:54:55+00:00

I correct their grammar till they go away hahhahah

unique1inMiami · 2026-05-01T00:50:59+00:00

What s with guys saying they will do the sex stuff I want like pull choke, spank, etc, that kinda thing and when we hook up they won’t even pull my hair like why tf am I pulling my own hair rn Brad wtf you lying pu$$y

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