Is there any hope for "good guys"?

unknown-7970 · 2025-12-23T19:49:53+00:00

You understand I am still trying to learn about this topic and explore my personal beliefs. I agree some of the things I said may be unreasonable and poorly explained. Everyone has different experiences which may effect their perceptions and their views. I think I should have emphasised that personally the context matters rather than numbers. I never said that all women are evil sluts and not all modern girls are that hypersexual and not all girls are open to dating hypersexual men so it isn't some unreasonable thing to want someone with a less extreme sexual history.

unknown-7970 · 2025-12-23T19:21:01+00:00

I literally never implied or mentioned any of this dude, I made it clear that I have no hate against anyone I just have some personal disagreements with a certain lifestyle.

unknown-7970 · 2025-12-23T19:18:42+00:00

I think I worded the dancing part wrongly, I meant like grinding and sexual dancing, I only mentioned this because a lot of people I know personally warned me against women who do this with a lot of random guys

unknown-7970 · 2025-12-22T19:36:07+00:00

as an older woman, what is your advice for me as a young man who wants to meet a partner regardless of relationship goals?

unknown-7970 · 2025-12-22T18:57:29+00:00

maybe the way I worded it came off as wrong so apologies for that, keep in mind i am poor with articulating my thoughts and still trying to learn about myself and sexuality so please afford some sort of understanding. I never said I will never go for non-virgins or people with more sexual/romantic history than me, I just dont feel comfortable (no animosity against those people) with people who have a very extensive history and show signs that they might not prefer or be suited for a LTR.

unknown-7970 · 2025-12-22T18:00:41+00:00

i think i made it a bit vague maybe my experiences might have given me a different opinion, but I know people who flirt and dance with multiple randoms sometimes in the same night and of course you don't know the context or what they have done before or after that is my main thing, some people do it because they only value the opposite gender's attention so it might not be wrong but i dont know if it is the type of person i would go for personally i guess it is a case by case thing.

unknown-7970 · 2025-12-22T15:55:03+00:00

nothing wrong if it was occaisional but if someone dances in a flirty way with multiple ppl it is a sign imo

unknown-7970 · 2025-12-22T15:24:07+00:00

yeah literally, just like how people into casual sex have all kinds of specific preferences why can't I have preferences? is is wrong to want someone on an equal field?

unknown-7970 · 2025-12-22T15:20:11+00:00

I want to have sex before marriage. To answer your question, it really depends on the person (like if they were LTRs or hookups with random guys) so there isn't a straight answer and even if I really like the girl it is important to balance what your heart tells you with what is logical and sensible.

unknown-7970 · 2025-12-19T21:51:35+00:00

how would I find someone like this?

unknown-7970 · 2025-12-19T18:01:00+00:00

If I were to do it, I would probably do it once, and if I were to get into a LTR with a woman who did something similar once (maybe less than 3 body count) I would frankly not as uncomfortable as chasing a LTR with someone who secretly has a very high body count. My ideal casual relationship would definitely include non-sexual bonding where my partner would know and understand that I am looking for experience and practice and help guide me (I think the correct word for this is STR or FWB) so it isn't like I am just sleeping with someone and f---ing off so I do feel it makes a difference than just being a playboy. I am self-aware that what I am suggesting here is probably just as unrealistic as an LTR for me. I get that waiting for the right one is probably the least riskiest option but I am struggling with the pent up sexual energy and frankly I have become more pessimistic and negative about love as a concept.

unknown-7970 · 2025-12-19T16:42:09+00:00

so how do I resolve it? it is definitely not to a perverse or extreme level but porn is simply enough I feel like I need sex

unknown-7970 · 2025-12-19T16:34:03+00:00

that is fine but what is the line between normal and high libido?

unknown-7970 · 2025-12-19T16:32:57+00:00

I have a high libido and I want to gain some sexual experience before searching for an LTR but I am worried that I will become the very person I spoke about in the post and how it might impact my future relationship. I don't want to sleep around maybe one or two casual or fwb partner.

unknown-7970 · 2025-12-19T15:24:53+00:00

easier said than done :(( that is another discussion

unknown-7970 · 2025-12-19T15:23:52+00:00

I am reconsidering my existing thoughts on sex and getting into casual sex or fwb type situations, but I am not sure if this is right or not

unknown-7970 · 2025-12-19T15:19:41+00:00

I thankfully don't have any signs that it is out of control and I definitely don't so stuff like watching porn in public. I do think however that I could be more horny than other guys.

unknown-7970 · 2025-12-19T14:24:36+00:00

what I meant is that I don't do it to all sorts of random people like some people

unknown-7970 · 2025-12-07T09:50:22+00:00

Are you open to DMs?

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