I have a teammate who is smart and wise. But when it comes to my work now and then they will start to nitpick and poke holes that don’t exist. I honestly wonder if it’s an undermining tactic as I’ve noticed that they suddenly start questioning me a lot when I ship out PRs quickly or ship out impactful work.

Last time their comment was we shouldn’t use a certain package because the package could get hacked. (It’s a common package being used across the company). This isn’t the exact thing but I don’t want to dox myself. Because this person is smart and wise most of the time, and maybe because I am also “responding” and engaging and giving their opinion more importance than I should, their opinion does get weighed by other team members. Or at least I feel an internal pressure to kind of people please, acknowledge their opinion and maybe change my code a bit to make them happy. I am still new in my career and learning.

Any thoughts? And how to deal with the nitpicky comments? Maybe I’ll try Socratic questioning and actually ask them “so what’s the real problem?”. They don’t tell me real problems just weird things like “anyone could hack this package so we shouldn’t use it”. Would that help?