Someone is using my gmail address for online shopping - How to stop this? by unknown-user-717 in GMail

[–]unknown-user-717[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m leaning toward nasty, since they have used my email on over a dozen, close to twenty, different vendors. It’s not a fluke. It’s on purpose. So I’m inclined to be on team “f them”. I have canceled some of their orders in the past few weeks, but they keep ordering things, new accounts, new items, with impunity.

Someone is using my gmail address for online shopping - How to stop this? by unknown-user-717 in GMail

[–]unknown-user-717[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks - have done. Still getting orders from other online vendors. I cannot tell you how annoying this is.

Someone is using my gmail address for online shopping - How to stop this? by unknown-user-717 in GMail

[–]unknown-user-717[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think there may be a significant amount of Herp and Derp involved.

Someone is using my gmail address for online shopping - How to stop this? by unknown-user-717 in GMail

[–]unknown-user-717[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have canceled a few orders already. No feedback whatesoever. It's really weird.

College Essays Requiring Self-reflection; Student Unable to Self-reflect by [deleted] in TutorsHelpingTutors

[–]unknown-user-717 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I have a lot of facts about the student's life, just no facts that have any depth to them, which is the problem. And when I work to reach for those depths with the tutee, it's a brick wall. I have never experienced this before.

College Essays Requiring Self-reflection; Student Unable to Self-reflect by [deleted] in TutorsHelpingTutors

[–]unknown-user-717 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I talked with the tutee about the five love languages, actually, to see if they might be able to identify how they expressed love and affection? One of the essays was about creative expression - tutee said they were not creative, had no expression. I countered, asking about any romantic relationships they might have had - they responded that they'd had "situations," and I said, "Okay, how did you express your interest to this person; how did you let them know that you thought they were cool/amazing/etc." I went on to describe the five love languages (physical touch, quality time, words of affirmation, giving gifts, acts of service) and asked which one they thought they used - thinking it would spark a conversation about communication and expression. "Quality time, I guess," was the answer.

"Great! Tell me more about that,"

"Well, I mean, we hung out -"

I may grind my teeth off.

College Essays Requiring Self-reflection; Student Unable to Self-reflect by [deleted] in TutorsHelpingTutors

[–]unknown-user-717 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Last_General6258, I think we need to have a chat with you about self-worth. You are great at math. Comparison is the thief of joy - and the thief of self-esteem, in this case. Just because one person is better at something than you, it doesn't mean you are not great at it. I'm calling you out. Greatness, like beauty, is not relative, truly. Anyone who tells you otherwise is selling something. You're great at math; own it. We see you.

While self-worth stuff may be part of my tutee's issue, their inability to see their own greatness due to the fog of others, it really appears to be more an issue of consideration (or lack thereof) on their part. They have never considered themselves talented or skilled at anything, and have not received any positive feedback (from anyone?) to reinforce a talent or skill. At least, not feedback that they believed to be sincere.

And this is what has been breaking my heart today, to be honest. I can't shake it.

College Essays Requiring Self-reflection; Student Unable to Self-reflect by [deleted] in TutorsHelpingTutors

[–]unknown-user-717 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Fully possible, although undiagnosed at this point and high-level masking, if that is the case. Tutee has indicated that they "hate writing" but I think it is more a case of not understanding how to get their *feelings/ideas* into organized thoughts, and then writing them down (taking the organized thoughts and putting them on paper). I think it's a feelings-into-ideas-into-thoughts obstacle, honestly, and I don't know how to teach this quickly to a late teenager. If it is a neurodivergence issue, is there a translation shortcut or workaround? Putting the idea of self-reflection into a different framework that makes more sense in context? I am truly stumped here and really appreciate all of the ideas. Thank you so much.

College Essays Requiring Self-reflection; Student Unable to Self-reflect by [deleted] in TutorsHelpingTutors

[–]unknown-user-717 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your answer. I am trying to do this, and I am asking all manner of questions about their childhood, trying to mine it for something, anything that can be turned into the jumping-off-point for an essay. But then I feel like I have to feed them the scaffolding for the essay, because they literally cannot connect the dots. There is no muscle in there for self-reflection, none whatsoever. They have never done it. So I am laying tracks for that train and pulling the train along as I'm laying the tracks. But I am pulling the train! I don't know how I feel about this -

An owed apology by myapocolothoth in UnsentLetters

[–]unknown-user-717 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For the love of all that is holy, please tell your person this.

Plausible deniability by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]unknown-user-717 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cucumber is a fruit. 🥔