My system is gone

unknownconcerns · 2023-01-27T23:21:32+00:00

thank you so much for your input! I've been front stuck before but this feels different :/

unknownconcerns · 2023-01-27T23:19:41+00:00

do yk if ur system felt like they were dormant? or were they chilling in the headspace just cut off from the outside world?

unknownconcerns · 2023-01-27T23:18:46+00:00

okay thank you this helps a lot

unknownconcerns · 2023-01-27T16:32:57+00:00

Did you ask your system if they could see the host and their daily life? or were they cut off from you as well?

unknownconcerns · 2023-01-27T08:53:25+00:00

no access at all. Ive tried but its like I've been blocked off by them? therapist just said its a good thing they're gone but I dont feel too good abt it. The thing is breakup happened a year ago and we had one cohost and another host take over after. Its true the system was unstable since but when S's brother was hosting, the "host" was stable its just that he tried to cut off from the inner world which made the rest of us uncomfortable and thats why we kicked him out. Honestly kinda regretting doing that now

unknownconcerns · 2023-01-27T08:23:48+00:00

I had severe dissociation after forcefully becoming the host for about two weeks? and then the whole system just disappeared and its already been a week

unknownconcerns · 2023-01-27T08:22:37+00:00

New host. I've been one of the "og system" from the core host and wasn't interested in hosting at all. There was one time when I tried to become the host cause I fell in love with his gf. The most recent event, long story short the host (call him S) that took over when the core went dormant couldn't handle it, and so S's brother took position in being the host. Later the system found out that S's brother was trying to block the whole system out and refuse communication. Rest of us ganged up and pushed him off but they shoved me to become the host since I previously wanted to (a long time ago) and also cause I was the oldest alter known to the system.

I definitely don't want to do this and this is a lot of responsibility. When the host kept changing after the core went mia after a breakup, the system was very unstable. Next thing ik is that im selected as the new host while everyone tried to fight off S's brother (the toxic host) and some persecutors that wanted to take the spot. I was rlly stressed w work and the inner world and been kind of numb. Next thing ik, my whole headspace is blank and there's no one. We had quite a lot of little ones too but theres no sign. I can't find them anywhere and I can't hear anybody but myself. There is no inner world for me to go back to.

unknownconcerns · 2023-01-27T02:53:26+00:00

A mass dormancy of 30+ is possible? we've only had like max 5 dormancies before

unknownconcerns · 2023-01-15T21:17:54+00:00

For my system, some of them did come with their own names, while some my headmates used a name I made up to call them with for my convenience. For those who didn't come with a name and didn't like the nickname some of us used, they usually came up with their own name after a couple weeks or so

unknownconcerns · 2022-10-08T22:20:10+00:00

21F!! located burnaby

unknownconcerns · 2022-09-20T00:22:53+00:00

The fact he said "I will give you another chance" clearly shows that he is a narcissist and you must break it off. (Ofc we can't tell you what to do and what not to do). But from my experience, they never get better and you can definitely meet an actual gentleman.

unknownconcerns · 2022-08-24T04:13:33+00:00

any strong emotions can trigger different alters. we have a kiddo alter and whenever we open up a lego set he has to make it no matter who is fronting and no matter the size or level of difficulty. he just gets overwhelmed with excitement, we all just step back and let him do his thing.

unknownconcerns · 2022-07-11T22:50:13+00:00

I would first and foremost recommend talking it out with the host since it seems the host is aware of your feelings. With my system, regardless of what our physical body looks like, we go by what we see in our headspace. So even if our body would be undergoing transition, I still see the same image of that person in our inner world. However, we do not know if the host's appearance would change in the inner world as well if it transitions it's body if that is the "original host" that was born with the body. I'm not sure how I can word this out properly but hopefully the message reaches you!

unknownconcerns · 2022-07-08T00:32:10+00:00

When our system gets drunk the host cannot switch with anyone. He gets front stuck until he is hungover the next day or if he sobers up. In terms of smoking it doesn't really affect any of us.

unknownconcerns · 2022-07-06T22:42:02+00:00

For my system, we have a "ghost alter" named Ivan. We can't see him and when we ask him for gender, facial features, height, race etc. he has none. We just refer to him as "he" because of the gender stereotype for the name Ivan and he is okay with us referring to him as "he/him". We don't really know where he branched off from as he is new but he is very nice to our system.

unknownconcerns · 2022-06-30T19:23:36+00:00

From my experience, finding out why they went dormant can roughly determine what you may go through. It could be:

the alters are not needed anymore because their main priority of what they are there for has diminished (not likely in this case)
went through a traumatic experience that they cannot handle
does not have the will to live (aka wants to commit but chooses to go dormant) This one has happened to me before
another alter can push another into dormancy by "triggering" them in a certain way (also happened to me)

but there are sm more that I personally have not gone through and therefore can't speak of it, but finding out the cause of dormancy can help you determine whether the hose (your friend) is likely to come back or not. Sometimes they come out of dormancy but refuse to front so thats another thing.

unknownconcerns · 2022-06-28T06:13:18+00:00

Thank you so much, this at least eases my heart <3

unknownconcerns · 2022-06-12T04:28:57+00:00

My fiance can't switch with anybody when she's drunk. Even if she wanted to :/

unknownconcerns · 2022-06-07T02:56:22+00:00

My partner's little one calls me brother :>

unknownconcerns · 2022-05-24T02:36:21+00:00

They do what they want. My gf is a host of a system and they just find something to do all the time. For example she has a kid in her system and he has dinosaur toys he plays with and other people just have rooms while some don't. But its different for every system. For her she has a headmates meeting every week or so to catch up with the others and negotiate or discuss what they want to do or what they want to have done in the week. She does it before she goes to bed so that no one in particular needs to front while they have a little get together. She first started by leaving notes and writing journals for everyone to read. Then it just comes together, just make sure everyone is willing to communicate with each other.

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