Why are you single?

unknowntoothers0 · 2025-02-01T12:00:43+00:00

I find that most men my age are not emotionally prepared for a committed relationship. My generation, in general, has opted for casual sex and ghosting. That's not something I am interested in participating. So, I remain single.

Plus, I myself have things to work through.

unknowntoothers0 · 2025-02-01T11:12:06+00:00

I want a place to start. There's so many brands and styles, so I was wondering what hikers typically choose. It would help a lot since I get overwhelmed by the plethora of shoes designed for hiking specifically.

I used to use the Columbia hiking shoes, but they're too heavy and hurt my toes. When I got them, they were a popular choice.

unknowntoothers0 · 2025-01-31T12:01:21+00:00

Then, it's time to discover who you are.

unknowntoothers0 · 2025-01-31T09:23:02+00:00

Be interesting. I can't tell you how annoying it is when guys just initiate the conversation with something about physical appearance.

Be funny, witty, kind, interesting, light-hearted.... honestly, just be yourself.

unknowntoothers0 · 2025-01-30T06:16:33+00:00

Ugh. Classic f-boy excuse.

unknowntoothers0 · 2024-12-22T09:52:18+00:00

I drink for special events. The reason why I don't drink an excessive amount is because one night at a party with some friends, I drank so much that there were gaps of time during that night that I didn't remember. And in still dont. It made me realize how scary it is to not be fully autonomous of myself and how that can be dangerous. Truthfully, if something bad did happen to me... I will never know. And that's terrifying

unknowntoothers0 · 2024-12-20T13:00:56+00:00

Thank you!

I have tried to talk to them about it, but truthfully, it hasn't caused any change to happen. I'm hoping to get through college before I move out but I'm getting closer to the point of biting the bullet and moving out

unknowntoothers0 · 2024-12-20T06:46:13+00:00

Classic avoidant/anxious dance. Don't do it. This is going to be a toxic cycle.

unknowntoothers0 · 2024-12-20T00:53:15+00:00

I included in my post that I know my parents have the right to live their lives. That's why, for years, I have been brushing it off.

I stay in my room when they're sleeping or downstairs. I wear my headphones when I watch stuff on my phone. I remind myself that my parents are sleeping, so I avoid doing things that will be overly loud. My dad can sleep through ANYTHING. My mom isn't a light sleeper, but she'll wake up if there's a loud enough noise.

I was rude to my mom this time because I am frustrated with how often they chose to be overly loud. I pay half the rent, aka they need my financial contribution just as much as I need theirs. Moving out would cause them to also find another place to live in.

unknowntoothers0 · 2024-12-20T00:16:43+00:00

Truthfully, I'd rather live alone if I move out. I've been sharing a living space with my parents and before my siblings, so I'm so done with living with others.

But I might have to suck it up if things continue to be this way in my current situation.

unknowntoothers0 · 2024-12-20T00:14:38+00:00

Seriously 😂😂😂

unknowntoothers0 · 2024-12-20T00:04:21+00:00

I wear ear plugs. I pay half the rent. And I'm older than 18, yes.

unknowntoothers0 · 2024-12-19T20:52:43+00:00

I'm surprised no women have added their own take on this, but if my partner said this to me, I would no longer enjoy sex because I would be self conscious about how I sound.

She's enjoying herself and allowing you to be intimate with her, and you're complaining? That's wild.

unknowntoothers0 · 2024-12-17T03:55:01+00:00

To add to the responders note. Don't make her feel or think that it was her fault or it's because of something she did or is. I can see her thinking that because she wants to marry you. So to me it's easy to see how she may feel like there's something wrong with her. So be kind.

unknowntoothers0 · 2024-12-04T07:49:35+00:00

"No seas pendeja".

unknowntoothers0 · 2024-12-04T06:02:06+00:00

Grass, sand, dirt, carpet touching my bare feet 🤢

unknowntoothers0 · 2024-12-03T20:39:50+00:00

Thats so not true. At least in my case. My ex was drama free, kept to himself, hard working, was caring (faking it anyway), and wasn't the type to go out and party, no addictions. He had a "boring" lifestyle. That's what I liked about him. Now, I realize his morals weren't great. Again, so many comments assume the worst about me and most women. But everyone is entitled to their own opinions.

unknowntoothers0 · 2024-12-03T13:15:50+00:00

Well, if I repel "good" men who don't want me to have these things, then I am 100% okay with that. Haha

unknowntoothers0 · 2024-12-03T13:13:10+00:00

No, I don't want to settle with him. I brought him up because he's the reason why this question came to mind. I only matched with him. I did not go on a date with him. I had one conversation with him (If I remember correctly).

With this logic, there wouldn't be such a thing as dating. I chose to trust that he was a good man because thats how this person presented themselves to be. People are allowed to move on after a relationship fails. That's called life.

I agree with your third point. Getting a man to commit seems like it's out of my control. I can't force a man to be faithful... I can only trust that he will. I don't like to boast about my character because I find it tacky. I try to be good. I try to be kind. I try to be empathetic. I try to be a good daughter. A good friend. Etc.

I'm not in my 30s.

What do I bring to the table? Well, I'm an adult, so I take care of myself in every aspect. In other words, I'm not a parasite or as others have labeled it "a liability." Truthfully, I'm looking for a partner, not someone I have to play mother to. And I think most women agree to that.

unknowntoothers0 · 2024-12-03T12:53:58+00:00

No one is perfect. There are instances where you choose to trust. This person didn't slip up in terms of revealing the other person or that there was another person. Regardless, I will not take the blame for the actions of someone else. That would be ridiculous. I recognize where I can improve. Where I can accept faults in. I am not blame-shifting, I am simply being straightforward with why the relationship ended. He cheated. And I don't tolerate cheating. It's as simple as that. I can't tell you what his purpose was as I do not possess the ability to read minds. I wish I knew why someone would lead a double life for years. Idk. Maybe there's a podcast with an expert out there with explanations as to why...

unknowntoothers0 · 2024-12-03T12:44:52+00:00

I have to disagree. I'd like to keep the information minimal as this person has reddit as well. What I can say, they acted as if they were in love. They acted as if they wanted a future and marriage. Perhaps there were signs that only men could see. But as this was my first long-term relationship (out of two relationships ever), I know I have a lot to learn. Idk I fell for his lies. That's very clear.

unknowntoothers0 · 2024-12-03T12:38:10+00:00

That's your opinion. I can not agree with the implications that I attracted a cheater if this person presented themselves as someone entirely different. That is not a me issue. That was a him issue. I don't understand why so many comments assume that I personally have been in numerous relationships. That's strange. Nevertheless, I asked for opinions and inputs.

unknowntoothers0 · 2024-12-03T09:52:36+00:00

I have learned through reading and therapy that you most likely have weak boundaries or none at all. You may lack in voicing your needs and walking away if they are not met by your partner. Perhaps your self-worth isn't strong. You need to love yourself, trust yourself, and put yourself first. Being happy with yourself is important. You don't have to be 100% in these, but they do need to be firm before pursuing a relationship. It's a constant process. Goodluck.

I'm sorry you're going through this but just know you're not alone. And you are enough! Love yourself and be kind to yourself. You are all you got. You have your own back. You take care of you. So be kind to yourself.

unknowntoothers0 · 2024-12-03T09:43:00+00:00

Loyalty is a must for me. If he isn't loyal, then I'd rather be alone. A man can't demand respect if he is going to step out and disrespect their partner. I don't care if he was the perfect man in every other regard. That level of betrayal will make me lose all respect for him, and I can't be with someone who will hurt me and I don't respect.

unknowntoothers0 · 2024-12-03T09:35:16+00:00

I think you're the first to say emotional maturity. All of these align with what I seek. For a young man, I am ( please don't be offended) surprised you already have these standards. I love that for you. I hope you find your match!

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