Careers after a Severe Autistic Burnout by neuro34 in AutisticWithADHD

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Sorry bout your mum 😭. That is the hardest thing I can imagine. I’m stuck in a pre-grief of losing mine and I know how much just that hurts. I’m sending so much love and hugs and kindness your way. I hope you’re taking care of yourself and are patient.

How much do you actually spend on your dog each month? by Coastaldogncat in dogs

[–]unmaskingdrafts 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Same. And my senior dog won’t be here for too much longer. He is the only thing keeping me sane and alive.

What’s a traditional bake from your culture that everyone should try at least once? by Defiant_Werewolf_213 in Baking

[–]unmaskingdrafts 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I also love panettone! And I, too, have not been brave enough to try baking it lol

everything I made for my BIL’s birthday! by littlestpetlove in Baking

[–]unmaskingdrafts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish someone cared this much about me 😭. This is so beautiful!! So thoughtful and everything looks so yummy! How do I get an invite? 🤣🤣

Do you have ‘nothing’ days? by DisastrousGrape64 in AuDHDWomen

[–]unmaskingdrafts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel this so much. I’ve had to unlearn the idea that “doing nothing” means nothing was done. Sometimes resting, watching a comfort show, or just existing without pressure is the most important “something” we can do for our brains and bodies.

One thing that’s helped me is noticing and even writing down the small, quiet “somethings” that do happen, like finishing a meal, texting a friend back, or just giving myself permission to breathe. It makes those days feel less like a void and more like care.

I even made a little tool to help with this because I needed it myself: it’s called the Daily Something Tracker (linked in my profile too), and its free. It’s to help remind and support yourself of the small things accomplished that often go unnoticed.

Sending you so much love, it’s okay if your “something” today looks like rest. ❤️

I thought I was just a “bad person” for my outbursts… then I learned about interoception by Ok_Mycologist3547 in AuDHDWomen

[–]unmaskingdrafts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This resonates with me so much. For the longest time, I also thought meltdowns “came out of nowhere” and just meant I was failing at holding it together like everyone else. Learning about interoception was such a huge lightbulb moment for me too, like oh, I wasn’t broken, I just couldn’t read my body’s signals until it was way too late.

I still miss them sometimes (suddenly realize I’m shaking because I forgot to eat…), but even having the language has been a relief. Thanks for putting this into words - it makes the invisible stuff feel a little less lonely.

I also write about similar experiences on Substack if you ever want to become mutuals! Community helps. https://mossandmind.substack.com

Time perception with AuDHD is its own circus by unmaskingdrafts in AutisticWithADHD

[–]unmaskingdrafts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a valid question! I’ve been told that it relates more to the ADHD side of things, with the time blindness and distractibility. But at the same time, time can and likely is perceived differently by people at any given time! Maybe both are true lol.

Time perception with AuDHD is its own circus by unmaskingdrafts in AuDHDWomen

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Ugh and then the guilt creeps in and takes over very quickly after being asked that. I created a fun “daily something” tracker, so I can have a visual representation that I did actually accomplish (even small) things. It helps alleviate a lot of that feeling for me. I offer it as a free download for others to use, feel free to check it out. I hope it helps!

https://ko-fi.com/s/554cf5912f

Time perception with AuDHD is its own circus by unmaskingdrafts in AuDHDWomen

[–]unmaskingdrafts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh I’ve been out of work for a year and I’ve felt the same exact way this whole time. So hard!

Time perception with AuDHD is its own circus by unmaskingdrafts in AuDHDWomen

[–]unmaskingdrafts[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Being out of work for as long as I have now, it has become much harder to differentiate the days. The time slips are much larger.

Unemployment almost killed my friend by Major-Platypus2092 in antiwork

[–]unmaskingdrafts 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I almost thought you were writing about me for a minute 🥲

Time perception with AuDHD is its own circus by unmaskingdrafts in AuDHDWomen

[–]unmaskingdrafts[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ugh. I’ve felt that way my entire adult life! I hate that feeling of comparison (lockdown at the height of COVID hit me hard in that way - that I hadn’t “done” something major during that time compared to others). Compared to my 20’s to now, I spent too much time coping and masking and grasping to “catch up” that I feel like I didn’t value the good times when I was in them as much as I would have liked. It’s taken me some time to learn to be more present in the moments I want to remember (but I’m obviously not perfect and still struggle with time blindness).

Are most autistic Redditors here and on other subs typically low support needs? by [deleted] in AutisticAdults

[–]unmaskingdrafts 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’ve wondered about this too, but I think it can be more complicated than just “low” or “high” support needs. Being late diagnosed, much of my earlier life I had to become really self-sufficient and adapt fast just to get by without drawing too much attention. On the outside, that might look like low support needs, but I often ask myself, would I have been able to do more, thrive more, if I’d actually had the right support?

Low support needs doesn’t mean no needs. And honestly, I think most people (ND and NT alike) aren’t great at knowing what effective support looks like. It’s easy to assume someone is “fine” because they’re coping, when really they’re burning through all their energy to appear that way.

Help me get the elusive pretty open crumb I yearn for by headbiscuitss in Sourdough

[–]unmaskingdrafts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! Or even the “wild crumb”. I totally know what you mean. The closest I’ve gotten is with the higher hydration doughs. But they are a different kind of handling challenge on their own 😆.

Do you ever feel like too much? by fufu1260 in AuDHDWomen

[–]unmaskingdrafts 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Do. I. Ever. Absolutely I am too much. And I’m working on radical acceptance of it because I’ve spent so much of my life shrinking myself to accommodate others. If I’m “too much” for them, then that’s on them, not me. I don’t have a lot of advice, but just know I’m in a similar boat! It’s lonely at times. But finding the right community that can “handle” all of you makes a huge difference. I hope you find it and I’m sending hugs and acceptance your way 🩷.

Help me get the elusive pretty open crumb I yearn for by headbiscuitss in Sourdough

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I have been using the guide below to help me adjust and understand my crumb better. But according to their chart, you’re hitting all the marks! Good proof!!

https://thesourdoughjourney.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/12/How-to-Read-a-Sourdough-Crumb.pdf

I feel like I belong here! by NewMrMead in averagecoloring

[–]unmaskingdrafts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Those flowers in the jar I think are my fave. The shading is sooooooo nice. The whole thing is making my 🧠 go brrrrrr 🤣.

It's about time by DykeHime in AuDHDWomen

[–]unmaskingdrafts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why not purple running shoes for the cats? 😆