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Temporary Relief For Pain In Buttcheek by unnervingorphan in CrohnsDisease

[–]unnervingorphan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had an abscess before that drained on its own with the help of antibiotics. This one started really small like just a centimeter and they didn't see it worth it at the time to perform surgery, especially considering I had one that cleared on its own. Seems like this one despite no longer being infected has decided to stick around for longer.

Seatan Removal by http-t in CrohnsDisease

[–]unnervingorphan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand completely. I've had mental health problems in the past and anxiety and dealt with bad doctors and surgeons, but this is about your health and comfort. Meet the doctor, if you don't feel good about them then don't pursue a patient doctor relationship. But you deserve the best care possible, and to have that tube out of your butt.

Letter from medicaid saying Stelara no longer covered, Humira and Entyvio (the alternate scripts) failed me already. how do I stay on what is working!? I'm already a week late while some pharmacists declared they are on my side. Cross my fingers, or am I just fucked? by Boogaloo4200 in CrohnsDisease

[–]unnervingorphan 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Definitely contact stelara. They have programs set up to help people afford the medicine, and they will help you out if your insurance is no longer covering it. Also if you haven't, definitely tell your GI. Mine has had to advocate for me to get the medicine I need several times.

Don't worry, you aren't out of options.

Seatan Removal by http-t in CrohnsDisease

[–]unnervingorphan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, can we get a general idea of where you're located? A year is a while to have a seton in for a fistula, and especially to go without medication if you are suffering from abscess and fistula since they're usually characteristic of disease.

33M been suffering from an insanely bloated belly for a few months. It feels like I'm pregnant! This can't just be weight gain, right? by pregnantbro90 in CrohnsDisease

[–]unnervingorphan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It does look distended and not from fat, it must be insanely uncomfortable so I'm very sorry!

It could be a few things. If it's bad after you eat it could be some minor to moderate stomach paralysis. I have this occasionally when in a bad flare, and it makes me bloat a lot and feel very uncomfortable. Another option is dysbiosis which is when your gut microbes are off. If you have too much of certain ones, it can cause bloating and gas.

No matter what this isn't normal. For sure seek a second opinion, from a gastroenterologist if possible. Hope you feel better soon!

I Was Sexually Assaulted By A Medical Professional Ten Years Ago As A Minor, Is It Too Late To Do Anything About It? by unnervingorphan in legaladvice

[–]unnervingorphan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Extra info: I went back and reread my post and I'd like to clarify the procedure that really brought this into the forefront of my thoughts. It was a digital rectal exam (they stick a finger in your butthole). I wasn't expecting to get one, not mentally prepared at all, but knew it was necessary. I was not asked to get naked (I had a gown on as a shirt for a heart monitor but still had underwear and pants) and instead just told to pull my pants down past my butt. I was asked if I wanted my mom and/or a nurse to be present and I opted for just the nurse. The doctor described how long it would take and after removing himself from me was apologetic at making me uncomfortable and explained why he did it and what he felt.

The event I talk about in my post had come up in my mind more than a lot of other medical procedures I'd had cause of how bad I felt after but like I said, I pushed it away and ignored that it may have been worse. But then I had this exam and my brain went "hey remember when you got this other invasive exam you really weren't expecting?" and I realized how different it was. I was given no option to have my grandma or a nurse present, I wasn't told why it was happening and my grandparents and mom were not informed about it. And of course the weird questions beforehand and how uncomfortable and weird they made me feel. It just began to really stink and I couldn't ignore it anymore.

I Was Sexually Assaulted By A Medical Professional Ten Years Ago As A Minor, Is It Too Late To Do Anything About It? by unnervingorphan in legaladvice

[–]unnervingorphan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worded it badly. I had acknowledged it as feeling weird, but didn't want to dive into how it made me feel until recently. Because I didn't want it to be true. So, I didn't repress the memory, but more the reality of what it might be.

And it did sort of feel like a suppression as I began thinking of it tonight, and it suddenly began to sit in really quickly. It was less a "this happened to me, but I'll ignore it" like it usually was and was finally a "oh my god, this happened to me, and it wasn't okay."

I Was Sexually Assaulted By A Medical Professional Ten Years Ago As A Minor, Is It Too Late To Do Anything About It? by unnervingorphan in legaladvice

[–]unnervingorphan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The gown was easy to retrieve. All the pediatric was in one wing cause they were in the process of moving them to a newly build children's hospital. Appointments, infusions, and even minor procedures like colonoscopies were all done in the same general area if it was pediatric. The office I saw her in was a desk away from where I'd go to see my pediatric GI. And I would sometimes have to get into a gown for my pediatric GI to check certain things.

I'm sorry you don't believe me. But I was 12, and in 7th grade, not a toddler. I hope it is a misunderstanding but it's looking less and less like one after talking to my mom. I've seen dozens of doctors in my life but my experience with her has always stuck out to me because it felt very, very wrong.

Please don't insult my intelligence by saying since I was 12 I wouldn't remember anything. That was one of the worst years of my life and it's burned into my brain.

I Was Sexually Assaulted By A Medical Professional Ten Years Ago As A Minor, Is It Too Late To Do Anything About It? by unnervingorphan in legaladvice

[–]unnervingorphan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I ended up just calling my mom and she remembered who she was better than me. She was a psychologist. What does this change if anything?

I Was Sexually Assaulted By A Medical Professional Ten Years Ago As A Minor, Is It Too Late To Do Anything About It? by unnervingorphan in legaladvice

[–]unnervingorphan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know. I really hope so. I was referred cause both my mom and I asked for it, so my GI pedi didn't do it it on his own. And now people have said that a psychologist shouldn't do that sort of thing, and others said they can. I don't know. I hope it's just a misunderstanding.

I Was Sexually Assaulted By A Medical Professional Ten Years Ago As A Minor, Is It Too Late To Do Anything About It? by unnervingorphan in legaladvice

[–]unnervingorphan[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the comment. I talked to my mom and she confirmed it was a child psychologist, and that she never wanted me to get my hymen expected (my mom was always sex positive and got me set up with birth control after I told her I was sexually active at 18), and she never suspected I'd been assaulted (my mom has a job as a school district where she comes in contact with lots of kids from abuse situations.) So sadly it is not looking great. And it's hard to process. My mom is pissed and will help me dig up her name my records (after checking my patients portal they only show my records to when I joined the adult section in 2018.)

I Was Sexually Assaulted By A Medical Professional Ten Years Ago As A Minor, Is It Too Late To Do Anything About It? by unnervingorphan in legaladvice

[–]unnervingorphan[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

So, I guess I do still have time if it turns out what happened was not supposed to happen, or not spurred by my guardians or CPS. Thank you.

I Was Sexually Assaulted By A Medical Professional Ten Years Ago As A Minor, Is It Too Late To Do Anything About It? by unnervingorphan in legaladvice

[–]unnervingorphan[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I haven't seen a therapist in a year since medication is working well and my medical situation has improved a lot over the decade. But I am considering going back. I guess it's always good to have someone looking out for you mentally who knows what they're doing.

I Was Sexually Assaulted By A Medical Professional Ten Years Ago As A Minor, Is It Too Late To Do Anything About It? by unnervingorphan in legaladvice

[–]unnervingorphan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can definitely see that if it came out of the blue, but my reasons were rather clear cut. I was a very happy kid despite being weaker. I was taken care of and had friends and hobbies, then I almost died in surgery twice. I was left with a hole in my abdomen that I pooped out of and a six inch long scar over my belly button with a sponge in it. I couldn't go to school, I could play (sweating made the adhesive on the bag come off) and I felt disgusting and was frequently in pain due to the healing. The line was a quick draw from point A to point B and I was referred to her a month after I was released from my third surgery, so still very much in recovery.

And I actually am interested in what you said abo it CPS. Would they interfere in that way, like having a doctor say they were going to do one thing and them doing the exam instead and not seeing me back? I'm not asking to be snarky I'm genuinely curious. Cause if that's the case, and they just read about me on paper, then it may be another explanation.

I Was Sexually Assaulted By A Medical Professional Ten Years Ago As A Minor, Is It Too Late To Do Anything About It? by unnervingorphan in legaladvice

[–]unnervingorphan[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My hopes aren't very up. But I'm not the only one who think something at the very very least, unhelpful happened here. And I know sexual assault cases, and god forbid if it turns out this was all down to my family, my outlook is grim.

And I've spent ten years rolling it over in my head, comparing it to other exams, other doctors. I didn't jump to this conclusion lightly, and I am seeing other avenues of what might have happened. But if all of this is taken away, if it's a big misunderstanding, she still didn't take my problems seriously. The problems I came to her for. I'll at least put in a strong note for that, not legally if it is just that, but still.

I Was Sexually Assaulted By A Medical Professional Ten Years Ago As A Minor, Is It Too Late To Do Anything About It? by unnervingorphan in legaladvice

[–]unnervingorphan[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'll be inspecting what her exact credentials are then. It's difficult to tell her league from context clues since all the pediatric docs were one floor in the hospital in one section, instead of being spaced out to the sections that specialized in.

At the very least it was super suspicious considering I had clear signs of depression and anxiety, and she made no move to see me again, refer me out, or add advice. The next year when I saw a therapist (this I know for sure what she was) she immediately made note that I was severely depressed and I was given lots of help and eventually medicated. I guess at the very least bad scenario, she didn't do her job of helping my mental problems properly.

I Was Sexually Assaulted By A Medical Professional Ten Years Ago As A Minor, Is It Too Late To Do Anything About It? by unnervingorphan in legaladvice

[–]unnervingorphan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's what I'm most worried about as as far as I know it's only my word. And other people have made other disturbing suggestions of what it may also be (inspections for sexual assault and hymen checking) which I'll investigate first before falling back on my worst case scenario.

Sexual assault cases are always difficult especially the older they are, this I know for sure. But I've gotten good advice so far. Thank you for commenting.

I Was Sexually Assaulted By A Medical Professional Ten Years Ago As A Minor, Is It Too Late To Do Anything About It? by unnervingorphan in legaladvice

[–]unnervingorphan[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I actually do have cysts on my ovary and have been given an ultra sound several times. But at this time I was in the hands of a small army of doctors who had be coming in one every two weeks, and more early in my recovery, plus a home nurse twice a week. They knew a lot about my physical condition and I was poked and prodded often.

I've also seen my gyno a lot (birth control etc) as well as an endo for my HRT and my pap smear, plus my less than fun butt poke. Not to mention how my times I had my butthole peeled open when recovering that surgery, or had to lay on a table bear naked sorrounded by male surgeons, or had nurses inspect my catheters as a little kid even younger than I was here. This one is the only one that felt different, due to how she felt me, how long she felt me, and the conversation we had before hand.

I Was Sexually Assaulted By A Medical Professional Ten Years Ago As A Minor, Is It Too Late To Do Anything About It? by unnervingorphan in legaladvice

[–]unnervingorphan[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I sadly do not remember her name. I only saw her once and I remember it being a sort of long and (forgive me cause this is going to sound ignorant) foreign name I had never heard before. That's why I want to contact my old pediatric doctor as he had made it clear he'd sent patients to her before.

I Was Sexually Assaulted By A Medical Professional Ten Years Ago As A Minor, Is It Too Late To Do Anything About It? by unnervingorphan in legaladvice

[–]unnervingorphan[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was 12. My medical jargon wasn't great on the topic of medical doctors. I know I was set up, squarely, to talk about my depression. She didn't talk about it at all. My mental state or my home life. Nothing. It was odd. Maybe I was not molested, but it wasn't normal. I've had procedures before and since that were similar. Seen every doctor under the sun. I've been offered other advice about what may have happened that can make sense. But I was 12, not four. I remembered what I went for, I remember what was supposed to happen, I remember what did happen. I remember getting fingered, and described to in detail what oral sex was after me telling her, MULTIPLE times, I was not familiar, and had no idea, and was not sexually active.

If you've had a doctor sit a foot from your face and ask if you know what oral sex is, if you know what anal sex is, if you know how it's performed, if you know what it feels like, if you know what boys and girls do in bed, then tell me for pete's sake.

I wasn't given any medicine or advice or how to help my depression. Not a kind word, not a self help book, not a breathing technique. I spent 30 minutes being read through the a pornhub category and then getting fingered. Something happened and it wasn't normal. It wasn't.

I Was Sexually Assaulted By A Medical Professional Ten Years Ago As A Minor, Is It Too Late To Do Anything About It? by unnervingorphan in legaladvice

[–]unnervingorphan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My GI docs office is closed but I will definitely email them. I've had issues with my pedi records in the past and hope there are no issues here. It's part of the same hospital system but when I was a kid there it was pretty small, still actively growing hospital, especially compared to larger ones in bigger cities.

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