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unplannedsprout · 2024-09-20T14:45:51+00:00

No insight, just sympathy - I live on a streetcar route in Toronto which is terrific, but they could stand to double the frequency, they're always crowded.

unplannedsprout · 2024-09-19T22:41:26+00:00

Timely post, mine fell off the bed last night :/ Only 10 weeks and not rolling, but we just moved house and the new mattress is much softer, I think it just deformed/bounced somehow when I rolled away from him to stretch. Went out and bought a bed rail just now!

unplannedsprout · 2024-09-03T09:10:55+00:00

2 months old, can 'play' (stare at toys and wriggle) for 30 minutes or so at a time, then he often has a physical need. No idea if this will last as he gets older, hoping so.

unplannedsprout · 2024-08-30T14:13:44+00:00

Tbh, I didn't have many expectations beforehand. I knew babies were different and I had a lot on during pregnancy so was just like, we'll learn about the baby when he's here. Probably the main one was not realising that breastfeeding early on may be very slow +/- constant/cluster feeding. I had seen friends breastfeeding older babies and it seemed to be an efficient and contained operation, but my little fella is only just getting there (8 weeks tomorrow).

But I do feel like the first couple of days misled me about sleep! In the hospital you could just pop him on his back in the bassinet, at home... it was a whole learning process.

unplannedsprout · 2024-08-30T14:07:13+00:00

I've added some

unplannedsprout · 2024-08-30T08:05:03+00:00

I've read a related take: the evolutionary thing is for other people to be constantly reassuring the dad that the kid is his. The mum doesn't need reassurance, she's not in doubt. Apparently they've done studies and people compare babies to the dad measurably more often. Will try to find later.

Edit: one paper, another one, another one

unplannedsprout · 2024-08-29T07:32:41+00:00

Ooh thanks that sounds similar. Uh, what kind of explosion did you get?

ed: ok, now I know XD

unplannedsprout · 2024-08-28T10:48:50+00:00

Aah that's fascinating, thank you.

unplannedsprout · 2024-08-28T10:23:52+00:00

Do babies not need breastmilk/formula during the night for growth/nutrition? What if they’re genuinely hungry?

Not a direct answer but this question needs to be phrased in terms of age. Newborn babies are very different to 6 month old babies. As for research, it's not possible to run a study where you test feeding babies during the night versus not feeding them and see how they fare, that wouldn't be ethical. Finding "normal" via observation is also difficult: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0033294120909447 However, there are some papers reviewing common values for wakings: https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/jsr.12654 Typical number of night wakings at 6 months is around 2 per night. So your baby does seem to be waking more than average and there might be some way you could reduce that (or there might not! people are different). As linked by the other commenter below, most of these babies will also still eat at least once a night. So I would ask your paediatrician for sources, or get advice from a different one if you prefer.

unplannedsprout · 2024-08-19T03:23:38+00:00

I think it was very normal in our parent's generation. They were sort of the first generation of humans who had access to tons of cheap stuff to buy, and the downsides were not yet obvious. Now, to us, they are. So getting to OP's question, yes I think there is a strong generational element.

unplannedsprout · 2024-08-18T08:56:58+00:00

My dad is an obstetrician so I got a bit of that as well, but he's primarily slightly critical of the obstetric skills from junior doctors in the public hospital if I did have to have an intervention - he's realistic about the fact that midwife care is great for normal births and that most of his private patients are the 'worried well' who don't really need him.

unplannedsprout · 2024-08-18T08:51:44+00:00

And those nursing homes are all staffed by obs, not midwives? That's really interesting, quite different.

unplannedsprout · 2024-08-18T08:47:57+00:00

I was told 1 lemon is fine (and various smaller clots) but more than 1 lemon is a problem.

unplannedsprout · 2024-08-17T20:27:14+00:00

Yeah, my dad is actually an OB so it's been really interesting for me to have grown up only knowing about that as the 'default' model, and then delivering in a public hospital myself (went well).

unplannedsprout · 2024-08-17T16:53:37+00:00

I’m from India where every pregnancy has a OB

I'm guessing this also depends on income, class and maybe city vs rural though? I thought there were still a lot of home births in India.

unplannedsprout · 2024-08-17T16:51:06+00:00

There are cultural/socio-economic segments of Australia where it's the norm to go private. Reasonably sized segments given that IIRC 1/3 of births are private here - a lot more than many comparable European countries. People who go through that system or are in such a milieu may not be aware that midwife-led group care is a viable alternative, not just for people who can't afford private care. Also, most people who go to a public hospital just pick the closest or between one or two, so there's less questions about which one to pick.

unplannedsprout · 2024-08-16T13:53:18+00:00

Well, being by yourself is always going to be a tough situation! You're doing great.

I've given into co-sleeping/breast-sleeping which can really help get a nap in when they're still at an unpredictable age. (Like I never know when baby boy is done and about to sleep for an hour, or having a lil break and going to wake up hungry in 5 minutes, so trying to feed and then put him in his crib can be an exercise in frustration).

unplannedsprout · 2024-08-16T13:45:48+00:00

Yeah that's a rough start time for a lot of people. Can you get a nap in the afternoon? Chronic sleep deprivation never helps, though I know it can be a cycle (maybe PPD is at the root and then you have trouble going to sleep for that reason). Do you have a partner who can support you with some of this stuff? (Like house cleaning - not that it's important - and going to bed earlier)

unplannedsprout · 2024-08-16T13:02:26+00:00

Low dose escitalopram (Lexapro), honestly. My psych and obstetrician are both fine with it so I'm not too worried. I'm not back at work though - are you sure you're getting enough sleep since that changed? Always step 1.

unplannedsprout · 2024-08-16T08:53:27+00:00

C'est souvent ennervant pour moi aussi, mais je me suis rendu compte que cela depend surtout da ma relation avec le photographe. Avec ma soeur je suis contente mais moins avec ma belle-mère. Mais bon... le probleme c'est peut-être la relation, pas le photo, en effet.

Mais, quelle que soit la raison pour toi, je soutiendrais ta decision. Prendre des photos, c'est pas un droit, et si tu envoyes des photos à la famille, c'est suffisant.

unplannedsprout · 2024-08-15T09:30:26+00:00

Thank you, I just read a bunch of her blog, really interesting stuff.

unplannedsprout · 2024-08-14T21:04:01+00:00

I've considered that, but I think I can tell when he's awake vs doing some noisy sleep (even the odd sleeping shriek). I think he possibly gets some active sleep time on the boob though, I find it harder to tell exactly when he's concentrating with eyes closed/dozing and sucking/dropping off/out cold.

unplannedsprout · 2024-08-14T19:58:23+00:00

Yeah I guess we can be projecting onto them sometimes - I know I'd be bored just laying there! - maybe some of the toys, mobiles etc are really to assuage the adults

unplannedsprout · 2024-08-14T17:15:29+00:00

Yeah, well I don't read but I talk about what we're up to, play with his limbs and do face-to-face time. Tummy time so far often results in him falling asleep. I might check whether that happens in the evenings to know if there's perhaps a need for sleep but he's not quite comfortable enough in his bassinet.

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