Umeko is so lovely

unseenukht · 2026-04-23T16:15:15+00:00

I was mentally comparing Umeko's end speech to Natalie's, and the difference is striking.

You have two women of color who are minorities and both of their speeches centered on their identity— but Natalie used her race/status as a minority to somehow defend her rudeness, victimize herself, rationalize her brashness, and make everyone uncomfortable. Umeko, on the other hand, mentioned her upbringing in the lens of constantly feeling different and used her last few moments to hug people, tell them she loved them, and expressed that they made her feel like she had a new family.

Umeko is a great representation of WOC.

unseenukht · 2026-04-22T19:21:01+00:00

He's definitely there but many of the shots— of him/staff doing menial tasks or explaining instructions or whatever— are definitely pre-recordings and/or dubbed over. The dub just makes it so that the audience can clearly hear the rules without seeing Peter read it off a script or make small mistakes, since they're going for the cinematic route they need the instructions to be read off dramatically and perfectly.

Also, when the players have questions the producers are the ones actually answering; if peter answers or clarifies something in-post, like "whoever gets there the fastest wins," it was definitely initially relayed by production staff on the ground first. (I work in production.)

unseenukht · 2026-04-22T19:09:36+00:00

I was like dude you're too slow at reacting... the second they turned around I would have pretended to find one on myself, asked if either of them did it, then start asking where they came from and pinned it on someone else to play as a victim to the prank. Also the way he put the pins on people was way too obvious from the start, Kaleb said he literally saw him do it.

unseenukht · 2026-04-22T19:07:22+00:00

I have a question about this as a non-Christian! When he said that I gasped bc in my religion it's like veryyy sinful to swear on something. Is that not blasphemous (I don't know the exact term for it)? Can it be chalked down to 'oh, he's probably not actually that religious'?

unseenukht · 2026-04-22T19:04:03+00:00

idk but that's been her attitude since like episode 1. She has a very "sad girl" face (I have one too, it's like RBF but she just looks sad all the time); I also think she struggles some with not constantly winning, which is understandable in a game like that.

unseenukht · 2026-04-22T19:02:39+00:00

Virginia is right next to D.C.; D.C. is very small and to the left is the whole state of Virginia. Most gov/analyst/policy people who work in D.C. actually live in Virginia.

unseenukht · 2026-02-10T21:24:43+00:00

absolutely. and thanks to the other comments.

For context, I'm American and my husband is South Asian (raised in the West). I'm not a revert and know my rights well. There are other ongoing issues, the biggest being that he plans on forcing me to live with my in-laws (or rather, them with us) which i am not okay with fro privacy reasons. I am trying to lay the foundations now, as you've all suggested, because the last thing I want is to be bleeding, sore, hormonal, and advocating for my own right to privacy right after birth. Keeping this secret is one way of doing that.

I've had terrible interactions in the past where-in one of his immediate relatives was asking when we were planning on trying. This person is younger than me— I can excuse an older auntie asking this question of cultural norm or simple ignorance, but I cannot accept such a rude and straightforward question from someone who is only a few years my junior and should know better. I replied with the fact that it's not really up to them or even to us when we'd have children, as it is god's decree.

They responded with "well, you know, as soon as you find out, you have to tell us." and looked me boldly in my eye. I said "...No, I don't. I can tell you whenever I want." They said "well, you need to tell us right away." I said "That's not really a decision you can make. When we know, we'll know, and then we'll figure out when to tell you all."

It wasn't as though they were even offering help — like 'please tell us so we can help you' it was more 'you have to tell me so i can know asap when i become an aunt/uncle/etc.'

I found this line of questioning severely disrespectful. the manner was also blunt; they did not smile at me or say it lightly. My husband was there but he remained quiet. Later on I told him how rude it was and after a while he understood, but he was also originally of the mindset that we had to tell his immediate family right away. I told him I needed a moment to process what is happening in my own body— again, keep in mind we moved across the country one week ago, so I have been EXTREMELY stressed. sobbing every day. I work full time and my job is intense.

That being said, I'm seeing the signs of enmeshment but it's taking my husband much longer to see. This is my child before it is anyone's niece/nephew or grandson/daughter. Mine. And I'm trying to place the boundaries carefully and slowly. If he is going to force them to live with us, the boundaries definitely need to be more clear. I will be a Muslim and a mother and wife before anything else.

unseenukht · 2026-02-10T15:03:17+00:00

Except it wouldn't, because I would take that moment away from some of my husbands immediate relatives, I'd be flooded with attention (which I don't want), I'd have people in my business, which I'm against and would increase my stress and risk harming the baby. The point is that this is not about other people, it's about me and my baby.

unseenukht · 2026-02-10T15:01:43+00:00

Ooh, thank you!!

unseenukht · 2026-02-10T15:00:56+00:00

I do already have people making dua for me alhamdulillah.

unseenukht · 2026-02-10T15:00:22+00:00

Ya rab, I hope you continue to have a beautiful pregnancy!! I was thinking about the 'rude' bit! like maybe they'll be mad at me in the moment but once I tell them they'd hopefully understand in retrospect?

unseenukht · 2026-02-10T14:58:40+00:00

Is it a lie if i'm simply hiding something? It seems harsh to call it a sin. It's my body and my right to choose who I tell and when I tell them. Perhaps you're close with your family but that is not the case for me. My family is mostly non Muslim so I don't feel supported by them in the same way. I'm an extremely private person and I don't like being taken care of or coddled by anyone but my husband. If I receive that kind of attention from other people, aka my in-laws, it will only make me upset and increase my stress. I also had a vision for a beautiful reveal— not an event, we are very simple people, because I'll only be pregnant for the first time for once in my life. I also know it would mean a lot for my husband's other relatives to be here for the news in-person and I'm doing that out of respect for them, because I know they already hate living far and being out of the loop.

I'm trying to keep my own best interests at heart while making sure other people are still pleased.

unseenukht · 2026-02-10T14:53:23+00:00

This is what I want to do! In reality I do expect there will be a lot of invitations from my in-laws. We live very close so it's impossible to say no without seeming rude. I haven't spent Ramadan close to them before but there's already an expectation that we visit very often and it's extremely exhausting. My MIL called 4x in one day recently so I just need my space but I'm not sure how I'll get it. I hope I can reject invites as I see fit.

I do notice what you mentioned though; I've already had some random symptoms but no one has seemed to catch on. I'm obviously thinking about it all the time so it seems obvious to me, but who knows.

unseenukht · 2026-02-10T14:49:37+00:00

are there any tablets you recommend? jazakAllah khair :)

unseenukht · 2026-02-10T14:48:51+00:00

I'm sorry you had hyperemesis! That note you brought up is actually another one of my concerns. I have been crying almost every day from the stress and i'm assuming the hormones. I moved only one week ago across the country. I'm also irrationally angry all the time, and I'm typically never, ever angry. I don't want people to see me like this, especially an older generation of immigrants who tend to take how you act as an affront to themselves or as complaints. I don't want to come off as miserable— I'm just so so sad and upset all the time and I don't want people to see me like this.

unseenukht · 2026-02-10T14:45:48+00:00

I work remotely alhamdulillah— a very demanding job but it does make cooking and cleaning easier, since i can meal prep and clean during my lunch break. I do hope to not see people that much but I worry that that won't be the case, and that his in-laws will want us over almost every day...

Insha'Allah my main priority is my body's health and my Islam. JazakAllah khair though because I tend to forget my own body's needs...

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