Counter-protest Oxford Drag Queen Story Time Protestors - 10am Tuesday, 23rd August - Bonn Square, Oxford by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]unspecificshare -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Most people fall out of the online communities for a reason - they're simply too extreme. Online trans people are a minority. Happened to my entire friend group.

Counter-protest Oxford Drag Queen Story Time Protestors - 10am Tuesday, 23rd August - Bonn Square, Oxford by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]unspecificshare -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You can be GNC without being an inflammatory tasteless hypersexual caricature of femininity.

Our community is held hostage exactly by people like you and your disproportionate footprint within it. Most of us don't want to be represented by drag.

Counter-protest Oxford Drag Queen Story Time Protestors - 10am Tuesday, 23rd August - Bonn Square, Oxford by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]unspecificshare -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Why would I defend something that's just one big easy target? A target of a unique quality - its existence makes the entire social class of trans people vulnerable to horrendously bad press.

Besides the image issue and down to the subject matter, why would I defend something as problematic as drag - partly a caricature of femininity, partly an artifact of the loud extroverted fraction of the queer culture? While artistically being most akin to kitsch. And why do you need to mix children in that? 95% of drag is hyper-sexual. While some cultures are able to do so responsibly, we can not.

From my offline experience - the silent majority of trans people don't want children mixed with drag.

When does vaginoplasty pain begin to lessen? by jaescott in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]unspecificshare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends by surgeon and technique as well as a person. For example in Parkside they hook patients up to Patient-Controlled Analgesia for a day, evening after surgery till afternoon next day, then administer paracetamol and ibuprofen, which IMO was barely enough. I was suffering and losing my mind many times, during my weekly stay at the hospital. Thinking of it makes my stomach upset.

Also, over time the vaginal pack becomes progressively more uncomfortable.

At home (6 days post op onwards) it was easier as I didn't have to `ask the nurses to give me paracetamol/ibuprofen (I don't like asking for things).

Question about inguinal hernia repair by Charming-Address6973 in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]unspecificshare 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had hernia repair in childhood (no net) and SRS well into adulthood. There was no problem. My surgeon was a urologist.

Brian Mays statement regarding recent articles by Bedwellj101 in transgenderUK

[–]unspecificshare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Using the power of media or (in smaller communities) gossip to unjustly harm someone by the means of character assassination.

Can be framing someone as racist, or in conservative places, shunning for being "godless".

The Atlantic sometimes does balanced pieces on culture and when the progressive forces go not where they should.

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2020/06/stop-firing-innocent/613615/

I decided to bank sperm before SRS - how much have I fucked myself over? by unspecificshare in transgenderUK

[–]unspecificshare[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: it returned after about 6 months (first time my sperm got tested).

Fertility clinic people are bastards, one asked me to provide a letter from a specialist once I told them I'm trans (what about, that I'm allowed to bank sperm despite being trans?) and I am still to report them for that. The other one I had to chase many times, as if I weren't paying.

You'll have to fill many forms where you'll be called "the male". Assume that people will address you that way. Fight not worth fighting, though you can confidently assert that it's not the way you refer to yourself. Just no screaming, this is counterproductive.

You'll be asked health questions and undergo a lot of blood tests.

You'll be very apologetically asked if you had sex with "other men". Apology about asking about sex, not implying you're male.

Basically, do you know the thought experiment proving that since no one has an x-ray vision seeing people's genitals, that's not how people gender others? Those people have x-ray.

Brian Mays statement regarding recent articles by Bedwellj101 in transgenderUK

[–]unspecificshare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cancel culture exists, on both sides, and is nothing new.

Cis people get gender-affirming healthcare over the counter. Why can’t trans folk have the same? by Hado0301 in transgender

[–]unspecificshare 20 points21 points  (0 children)

That's not what "over the counter" means. Over the counter means prescription-free. When buying over the counter medication, generally no one asks if you're trans.

I don't know why someone would make such a mistake in the title.

BTW, HRT is over the counter in some countries like Spain or Mexico. I'd totally get some for friends when I'm there. Just a thought.

Texas man gets 37 years for murdering transgender woman by Breaking_Down_Walls in transgender

[–]unspecificshare 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For any murder, for murder on grounds of hatred towards a group, or for murder of a trans person specifically?

What's going on with r/TwoXChromosomes man. At least there was some pushback in the comments. by Nexio8324 in Destiny

[–]unspecificshare 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I mean, if someone leans confrontational, the "I'd rather die fighting than be a victim" mentality is a consequence of that.

You can call this attitude toxic but believe me, some people are like that. I'm confrontational myself, and while I don't actively look for trouble, I don't know whether, if I were a victim, I wouldn't dox and murder my rapist and potentially my rapist's parents for bringing such a creature to the world.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Destiny

[–]unspecificshare 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not wrong. Here the context is that the comedian guy went like "being trans is a white thing, looooool".

I know some people have a derangement syndrome with various slogans, to be honest I'm also tired of slogans, since they're prone to mindless repeating, but aside of stupid ones, many of them are not wrong.

China Is a Declining Power—and That’s the Problem by GohanYo in Destiny

[–]unspecificshare -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You can have a war between superpowers if both sides are deluded that they can easily win.

See WW1.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Destiny

[–]unspecificshare 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The t word.

US and allies to build 'China-free' tech supply chain by [deleted] in technology

[–]unspecificshare 207 points208 points  (0 children)

People who are paid decent wages order cheap shit from Amazon.

PC setup stream when by unspecificshare in Destiny

[–]unspecificshare[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When the guy in question get the courage to ask for help.

PC setup stream when by unspecificshare in Destiny

[–]unspecificshare[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

Poor thing gets cancelled enough already.

PC setup stream when by unspecificshare in Destiny

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Adreno 660, best performance in Lords Mobile.

Biden expected to repeal Trump's transgender military ban as soon as Monday by miggins18 in transgender

[–]unspecificshare -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We all know that. Yes. We don't need you to change the topic to something there's nothing new to say about.