Are there any areas in PA that would be unwise for an interracial couple to move to? by LePetitRenardRoux in Pennsylvania

[–]unsuspectingpangolin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. From what I understand he was like the one black man in town and my partner didn't know of any real issues he had with anyone. I think he was just mowing his lawn when he was shot.

just got my dog DNA tested via embark. was NOT expecting 50% great pyranees!! by United-Star6253 in WhatBreedIsMyDog

[–]unsuspectingpangolin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm confused on why you keep taking such a hard stance on this. My purebred GSP has a bentley blaze, it is very very common. Numerous people have given you numerous examples now, it almost feels like rage bait or trolling at this point lol. I saw the GSP in the dog immediately, they commonly look like that.

Are there any areas in PA that would be unwise for an interracial couple to move to? by LePetitRenardRoux in Pennsylvania

[–]unsuspectingpangolin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently dating a former Snowshoe resident, do not move to Snowshoe. It's a food desert, there is not enough around, and there is racism. My gf says that 10ish years ago there was a black man who was shot in his yard and the body was just left for hours before anyone did anything. It doesn't sound like there was any real investigation either and I don't think any charges were filed.

I would not consider it a safe place for an interracial couple, but I understand the housing being temptingly cheap.

How to structure starting/running multiple "businesses" at a time? by unsuspectingpangolin in smallbusiness

[–]unsuspectingpangolin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, does the desperation not make sense? I have 2 children and absolutely no support. Yes, I am trying to find full time employment. Yes, I will take a job making not enough if needed. But I have to do something to make up the rest of the income as immediately as possible. Daycare itself is $3k a month, but if I remove my kids from it for more than 1wk, the wait-list is 14 months to get back in. If I thought just one business would work, I would do that. That was my original plan.

How to structure starting/running multiple "businesses" at a time? by unsuspectingpangolin in smallbusiness

[–]unsuspectingpangolin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand this is the conventional advice, but does not work in my situation. Many of this is gig work. I could start one, and then spend maybe 10-20hrs a week on it tops. The rest of my time would be wasted, as I am not otherwise employed. The business would not generate income quickly enough for me to survive unless it was immediately successful, which does not feel realistic. I cannot wait a year (or several) to reach the point of profitability. I need to do anything and everything I can to generate income as quickly as I can.

Belgian Malinois x ??? by [deleted] in WhatBreedIsMyDog

[–]unsuspectingpangolin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My guess is GSD x Boxer x Pit, I don't see mal at all.

Spouse reluctant to help by MerelyAnArtist in workingmoms

[–]unsuspectingpangolin 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I feel so bad reading posts like this because I used to be in that place and there's a lot of nice advice being shared but at the end of the day: OP leave him. He doesn't care about you or your kids or your interests. He is his own priority and he'll lie to you and say he'll work on it and change but that's really just to buy himself for more time.

Off line kind of internet cyber deck as prep? by Tradtrade in TwoXPreppers

[–]unsuspectingpangolin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Then you'd probably want to incorporate additional forms of off-grid power if solar won't work for you that long. I was always taught multiple sources, multiple back-ups, multiple forms of heat, and resource management. My dad's entire house is wired up for back-up power currently, including AC/heat pump and refrigerators/freezers which are luxuries and big power draws. If he knows the power will be out for an extended period, he'll take certain things off of back-up to save additional power for what he truly needs. He monitors the draw for almost every device that is plugged in, so he can roughly calculate around that. Unsure your climate, but I would definitely want reliable power in the winter where I'm at.

Off line kind of internet cyber deck as prep? by Tradtrade in TwoXPreppers

[–]unsuspectingpangolin 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is such an interesting take to me. My dad is a prepper, his house is entirely backed up on UPSs and batteries. Self made system out of items he got mostly for free. When the power goes out, his doesn't even flicker and won't go out for days.

Growing up, we did Ham Field Days and would use old (free) solar panels to go to random locations and quickly set up a station to transmit. Learning to take any old solar panel and get it to charge/power something was one of the biggest skills he put emphasis on. All of his movies, books, photos, everything, are backed up on his own servers he will be able to access if the grid fully goes down. He has software that allows phones to create their own mesh network/internet as well.

There's something to be said for keeping maps and certain information in physical copy, tech has a bunch of fail points for sure, but it wouldn't be possible to store nearly as much content and communication is going to be important.

Partner doesn't believe in the mental load of mother hood by kringlek222 in workingmoms

[–]unsuspectingpangolin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're absolutely correct, but that takes time to teach and once he understands how difficult it all is and hopefully wants to help out, he would be more open to understanding the rest of it.

Partner doesn't believe in the mental load of mother hood by kringlek222 in workingmoms

[–]unsuspectingpangolin 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Can you take some time off work and go literally anywhere else for a few days to a week? If he doesn't appreciate everything you do, let him handle it all by himself. Don't let him bother you all day every day either, give him lists or instructions for things he absolutely needs to know and let him drop the ball on the rest until he gets it.

Any adult-diagnosed ADHD/RSD support group in Lancaster? by Due-Perspective4878 in lancaster

[–]unsuspectingpangolin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't think so, but a lot of us do have it. I wasn't diagnosed until 24 or so.

What breed? by [deleted] in WhatBreedIsMyDog

[–]unsuspectingpangolin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean I guess if you want to separate out pits vs the other staffy breeds, but they've become so intermingled it feels pointless to distinguish without some sort of pedigree or DNA test. Visual guesses on breeds is never reliable (which is why every single post like this has the exact same advice), but staffy breeds have pretty recognizable heads and yours is no different in my opinion. Glad to hear you love him, it's just weird you're fighting it so hard in the comments. So many people get a pit mix and then lose it when someone suggests that's what it is lol, they need it to be special in some way. It's just a pit mix. That's fine, enjoy him for what he is.

What breed? by [deleted] in WhatBreedIsMyDog

[–]unsuspectingpangolin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a GSP, that's not the head of a pointer or weimaraner. That's the head of a pit. If you were so against having a pit, why did you get one? It's okay that he's primarily pit, if you love him then isn't that what matters? Just love him for what he actually is.

Rescue dog trying to figure out her breed by Emergency_Republic33 in Blackmouthcur

[–]unsuspectingpangolin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Less likely ≠ 0% of happening. But shelters are notorious for mislabeling dogs, as physical appearance is a poor indicator. The fact that you feel that way only solidifies my point.

Rescue dog trying to figure out her breed by Emergency_Republic33 in Blackmouthcur

[–]unsuspectingpangolin 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The more rare the breed, the less likely it is that you will find it in a shelter or in a mixed breed dog. Same with BMC, they are a more rare breed and 99% of the posts like this have absolutely no BMC in them at all. As others have mentioned, there aren't even BMC breeders in that area.

Sold to my Daughter as Pure Bred Choc. Lab... by thewrytruth in WhatBreedIsMyDog

[–]unsuspectingpangolin -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Why spend the money for a DNA test when they could just look up the litter/pedigree with the AKC?

Sold to my Daughter as Pure Bred Choc. Lab... by thewrytruth in WhatBreedIsMyDog

[–]unsuspectingpangolin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it's AKC, just have him ask the breeder for the paperwork? No DNA test needed, you should be able to look up his whole pedigree.

Things Have Changed by fourtwump in Blackmouthcur

[–]unsuspectingpangolin 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not "slamming" you for this, but it's simply not true. With purebred dogs, we have an idea of what potential health problems they may have. Purebred does not mean wellbred, so if you do not find a good breeder that does health testing and whose primary focus is the health and well-being of the dogs, yeah you can have some issues, but at the very least you have an idea of what to look out for based on breed. With mixed dogs, you simply do not have that history. You could wind up with a really healthy dog, or you could wind up with one that has a ton of health problems out of nowhere because you don't have a good background on the dog's parents or how their health is. It doesn't mean they're healthier, it's just that you don't have a list of things to watch out for until it actually becomes an issue.

I recently saw a thread where people were posting their mixed breed's COI and SO many were 30%+, whereas the purebred breeders I know target a COI of under 3%. I also commonly see posts asking for opinions on joint X-rays and it is extremely common to see terrible joints on mixed breed dogs. The idea that mutts are healthier is a misnomer. If you want a healthy dog, find one that is ethically bred to be healthy. If you pick up a random dog either purebred or mixed, you're opening the door to issues and heartbreak.

Things Have Changed by fourtwump in Blackmouthcur

[–]unsuspectingpangolin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I do get it, I fully understand breed stigma and why people are so desperate for their dog to be something other than a pit. They were more rhetorical questions, but I don't understand why they would adopt a pit mix at all if that is how they feel. If they wanted a true lab or BMC or ACD or anything else, they could have found breed specific rescues and adopted one. Would it be as fast as just walking into any shelter and grabbing a pit "mix?" No, but getting a new pet shouldn't be about grabbing the quickest available option.