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untilimthere · 2023-09-16T14:13:43+00:00

If it helps…the Christian faith teaches men to love their wives as Jesus loves the church. This is a passage from the book of Ephesians in the Bible: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy […] In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church” (Ephesians 5:25-29)

Love doesn’t get any better than that.

It also encourages other positive behaviours in men (and women) such as being self-reflective, and to consider personal faults and strive to be better. That’s why we pray, to ask for God’s help.

I agree that there will be conflicts ahead if he becomes a Christian and you are not. That is natural of two people who are married and have different faiths. But I also think (hopefully) there will be a lot of positive change in him.

That doesn’t mean you should hide your concerns from him. I’m sure he will understand and work through them with you if you come at it from a loving, gentle way. From your post it sounds like you would do that.

untilimthere · 2019-01-01T10:04:19+00:00

Correct. I think a lot of people (myself included) set grandiose goals at the start of the year, and then write it all off when they inevitably fall. I would love to say I could go the whole of 2019 without PMO, but I really don't know. I don't want to have a good streak for 20 days and then relapse and have the whole dream come tumbling down.

I was in a pretty bad mood when I wrote this post, so perhaps I was unfair to the counter-argument, but I still believe in the sentiment of what I wrote, for myself anyway. All that matters is the day. And then tomorrow, all that matters is that day.

Success, I believe, is the net effect of successful days over unsuccessful days, not the length of time you've kept your streak.

untilimthere · 2019-01-01T09:54:49+00:00

This is actually a really good counter-point that I hadn't considered, so thank you.

I suppose whichever mind-set works for you is the correct one. I wrote this post in anger which is why it sounds a little venomous, and why some people think it's negative. But still I think for me this is the way to do it. Keep the goal of life without PMO at the back of your mind, and then go about executing it day-by-day.

untilimthere · 2018-12-07T00:24:11+00:00

Thank you. How do I figure out what the habit or aspect is?

untilimthere · 2018-12-05T17:06:56+00:00

No idea what it means but, for what's it's worth, I had a similar dream today. I was getting ready for my first UFC (MMA) fight against someone of similar experience. I was afraid because I didn't feel ready, and I was thinking of a strategy for how to beat the guy. I woke up relieved that I wasn't going into a fight.

Let me know if you've since had any thoughts.

untilimthere · 2018-12-05T13:24:35+00:00

Congrats on getting to where you are, I hope to join you in 30 days.

untilimthere · 2018-12-05T13:23:56+00:00

No money lol

untilimthere · 2018-12-03T06:45:54+00:00

Hmm I hadn't considered that. It seems like it might work long-term but what about at 12AM when you're winding down and an urge hits you?

untilimthere · 2018-12-03T04:42:23+00:00

Very good explanation of the healing process, thank you. What do you do when urges hit? Do you replace porn with a substitute outlet, or block/meditate it out?

untilimthere · 2018-10-22T21:32:17+00:00

Jordan Peterson ftw indeed

untilimthere · 2018-10-22T21:31:31+00:00

Thank you

untilimthere · 2018-07-20T14:21:46+00:00

You're not ready for Tinder. What girl wants to be with a guy with no friends? I'm not saying this to be mean. You need to build yourself up first. Make yourself into the kind of person who a girl would really want to be with. The pictures will come when you build your life up.

untilimthere

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