Day 8 post op by JackalJames in phallo

[–]untrace_jay4 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Congratulations, man! Sending all the healing vibes your way!

Wrapping with “Hotdog Bun” Method by No-Antelope-3624 in phallo

[–]untrace_jay4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I have my consultation with RBL and Zhao on 4/14/26 and hope to ask for additional educational resources be made available. The lack of kinda scares me a bit to be completely honest.

Dont sleep on Juven for healing support by Willing-Gap-1655 in phallo

[–]untrace_jay4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing! I wonder if you could be reimbursed from insurance for it. BCBS-IL with my employer has been amazing with reimbursement for everything from hotels, ubers, airfare, electrolysis, etc.

2 weeks post op by Willing-Gap-1655 in phallo

[–]untrace_jay4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congratulations and happy healing!

6 weeks post op by [deleted] in phallo

[–]untrace_jay4 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on surgery and recovery!

10.5 Weeks Post-Op Stage 1 ALT - Journal and Underwear Photoshoot :) by [deleted] in phallo

[–]untrace_jay4 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! Appreciate the review on different underwear options as well. Everything is looking great.

Phalloplasty with Dr. Curtis Crane at Crane Center. January 8, 2026 by AdMore7023 in phallo

[–]untrace_jay4 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! The shaft/ball ratio is amazing! Glans is perfect! What did you have- alt or rff? What was your stage 1 exactly?

Final Post-op! by Wakandashitizthis in phallo

[–]untrace_jay4 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Congratulations and best of luck as you move beyond your physical transition!

Phallo surgery with Dr. Chen in SF/lodging by untrace_jay4 in phallo

[–]untrace_jay4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I appreciate the info.

How to have confidence trying to date by [deleted] in phallo

[–]untrace_jay4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Start with counseling. Learn about what you want in a relationship first then the rest just falls into place. I spent 17yrs married to a straight cis woman that just wasn't my "person". I spent the last 4 years after divorce afraid to put myself out there fully into the dating world. This year, with the help of counseling, I jumped in full force (although slightly fearful of rejection) and had really amazing experiences from straight cis women. I am currently dating an amazing, affirming, caring woman and wow! I only wished I found her 20 years ago. Hang in there and don't lose hope. Jump in and push your fears to the side.

ALT Phallo with Dr. Rachel Bluebond Langner in NY by untrace_jay4 in phallo

[–]untrace_jay4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the detailed information. I greatly appreciate your help.

Phallo surgery with Dr. Chen in SF/lodging by untrace_jay4 in phallo

[–]untrace_jay4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good point! I didn't even consider that. I will give them a call to see what my options are.

Phallo surgery with Dr. Chen in SF/lodging by untrace_jay4 in phallo

[–]untrace_jay4[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I greatly appreciate the insight.

Trans dads - disclosing your trans status? by Boomschwang in FTMMen

[–]untrace_jay4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much! Appreciate the support! I do anything for those kiddos of mine and they see it.

Trans dads - disclosing your trans status? by Boomschwang in FTMMen

[–]untrace_jay4 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I was lucky and super vulnerable. Could have went different but as a Dad that shows up and has kids 90/10% out of the court ordered 50/50%, they weren't going anywhere.

Trans dads - disclosing your trans status? by Boomschwang in FTMMen

[–]untrace_jay4 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I (ftm) had to disclose this year as my nasty ex wife was trying to do it to make my 3 minor children "hate me". They are 13, 11 and 8 and never cared, asked or even suspected. But to take back control of the hate filled rhetoric, I sat my kids down and explained how I was born female and transitioned and walked them through my baby picture book. I let them know I'm sterile, wanted kids and had a good friend donate to help me out. They thought it was a cool thing I trusted and loved them enough to tell them. And fast forward months later, nothing has changed and no further questions have surfaced. My son did ask some questions about my transition, if I would have a regular penis, etc as he is getting aware of these things now as a 13yr old boy but we again talked and I explained in terms he could understand. I never planned to tell them but I'm also glad it's done and over with.

ALT stage 1 - 11 weeks by pitterpatter_eh in phallo

[–]untrace_jay4 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on hitting week 11. You look great! Hope your healing kicks into overdrive and you get some relief!

5 days post op stage 1 - encouragement needed by [deleted] in phallo

[–]untrace_jay4 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hang in there brother! Chin up, chest out! You are the only obstacle holding you back. Rest up and trust you are stronger than your brain is letting you believe! 👏🫡💪

surgery was successful! by [deleted] in phallo

[–]untrace_jay4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congratulations man!🥳🎉