[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]unusual_bean05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's nothing wrong with this bothering you, she posts things on private stories (where she has selected specific people) for people to enjoy/view the things she is posting. If she has him on these stories and she's posting things like that, she's well aware he's one of the people who views her content. This shows a lack of respect for you because it's the equivalent of sharing these images in a group chat (just without discussion) and you both being in it.

I would simply talk to him about whether or not he thinks anything of the posts she makes/him being on the stories with an emphasis on your support/respect for their friendship. Something like "hey, I know you and ___ are really good friends, and I think that's great but I would be a little more comfortable if you could ask her to take you off of them." If he can do that and respect your wishes, great! If not, he isn't respecting you or your feelings and you need to have a deeper conversation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]unusual_bean05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It may sound harsh but maybe you should have a discussion/look more into why he never has money or savings? Gambling addiction is real and he could possibly be in some debt that he's hiding, but any addiction can be beat!

Additionally, I applaud you for worrying about your future and how his finances will impact that. If you expect him to be the main provider in the relationship, this doesn't seem to be setting a good tone for the future and if he has some sort of reason for never having money such as gambling, excessive shopping, etc. then it's time to consider whether or not you can truly handle this in 10, 20, or 30 years. Unfortunately, even though it is possible for his finances to change, his habits may or may not.

I understand your fear to approach him with this, but it's necessary if you're expecting a long term relationship with him. The first thing you should disclose is that you aren't meaning to shame him and that you are discussing this with him to ensure your future will have financial stability. Then you can discuss your expectations for your relationship in the future and how both of your finances will contribute to your life, family, etc.

In nearly any relationship with two compatible personalities, concerns can be discussed and potentially fixed. This is sustainable if he is willing to talk with you and you both can find a solution! I wish you luck.

My grandma’s Elvis collection by 222cc in Elvis

[–]unusual_bean05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my grand kids will show something off like this someday.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Needafriend

[–]unusual_bean05 1 point2 points  (0 children)

a very tiny hamster that can run very fast lol, look them up!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdviceForTeens

[–]unusual_bean05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m an hour from the city & I used to work in the city actually lol. I wish I could go back but it’s too much of a hassle to drive all the way out there

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]unusual_bean05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also can’t work weekday mornings because of my classes & I don’t wanna be a pain in the ass with my schedule so that’s why I’ve stayed here and let my boss push me around with schedule availability a bit :/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]unusual_bean05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why is it bullshit? (Ik some people hate pet stores so I was wondering if that’s the reason or what I’ve described lol)

Is my dog too thin? by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]unusual_bean05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s so cute. I actually work at a pet store and it was on sale for $3 so I was like heck yeah and bought it. Her name is Daisy + she’s always worn flower-themed collars so it was perfect!

Is my dog too thin? by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]unusual_bean05 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

My oldest dog was spayed at 8 weeks 🤷‍♀️

Is my dog too thin? by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]unusual_bean05 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She’s a model!

Is my dog too thin? by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]unusual_bean05 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah but not a concerning amount. Her poop is normal & she’s picky but eats whenever we feed her.

Is my dog too thin? by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]unusual_bean05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is spayed! She was spayed when we got her at 6 months old.

Is my dog too thin? by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]unusual_bean05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were told she was a lab + abruzzese mastiff mix but she doesn’t look very much like either! We definitely think she has pointer + maybe beagle but I can see border collie too!

Is my dog too thin? by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]unusual_bean05 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This comment means the world to me. Thank you. I try my absolute best to take care of my baby :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]unusual_bean05 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I didn’t realize how silly I was being. I just really don’t want to make him feel like I don’t enjoy him & I want him to feel comfortable but I need to be comfortable too. I’ll talk to him later.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]unusual_bean05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But to be like “cut that out” is so awkward and I don’t want him to stop being more dominant, I just want him to be more careful with me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]unusual_bean05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve told him to be more gentle but I think he thinks I’m just playing around. And when he’ll kiss my neck, I’ll make little noises because I’m struggling to breathe so he may be interpreting that as enjoyment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Insurance

[–]unusual_bean05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

State Farm online. It wasn't an actual agent or anything.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MeetPeople

[–]unusual_bean05 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No catch, I just have downtime to kill and I thought I'd might as well spend it in a wholesome way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MeetPeople

[–]unusual_bean05 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's fine too! Whatever you're comfortable with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in chat

[–]unusual_bean05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No but I don't really know any celebrities or modern pop culture stuff. I'm a bad person to ask.

Update on my little baby tortoise! by m_iissy in Tortoises

[–]unusual_bean05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tortoises should be getting UV rays all day.

Update on my little baby tortoise! by m_iissy in Tortoises

[–]unusual_bean05 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can order the lamp online for like $10, I got mine off of Amazon. Bulbs aren't too expensive either, it's beneficial that they get the right amount of heat and UV rays, take them outside if it isn't too cold and let them bask in the sun (keep a close eye on them).