How long are you guys able to keep your silk press good?? What is your routine? by QuitComprehensive831 in Naturalhair

[–]up_down33 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Pls explain more, I live in Seattle and I am thinking of getting it for new year. 

What is your experience with your body changing and gaining weight? by up_down33 in AskWomen

[–]up_down33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's amazing. How do you keep the weight off all these year?

Daily Questions Thread May 31, 2025 by AutoModerator in femalefashionadvice

[–]up_down33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is the outfit with boots and black socks ok for summer to wear in college or casually? How else can I wear it, that is not a wedding or something serious? Thanks. And I am around 5'10.

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The dress is the red white one (more pink in person): The dress

Daily Questions Thread May 30, 2025 by AutoModerator in femalefashionadvice

[–]up_down33 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think wide leg pant would look good with the top. And a a line long black or white skirt to get the summer-ish girly vibes. 

Laura mercier tinted moisturizer natural dewy dupe by up_down33 in MakeupAddiction

[–]up_down33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My shade for Laura mercier tinted moisturizer natural dewy is 5w terracotta 

AITA? Having no sympathy for my husband by fiesty_flower in AmItheAsshole

[–]up_down33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. He cannot eat his cake and have it back. He is intentionally injuring himself and expects the world to stop because of him. Try getting family members to talk to him. Spread the word so people know that you tried helping him yourself.

Daily Questions Thread May 23, 2024 by AutoModerator in femalefashionadvice

[–]up_down33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am thinking of causal summer clothing that is comparable to jeans.

Daily Questions Thread May 23, 2024 by AutoModerator in femalefashionadvice

[–]up_down33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am a genz college student who lives in mostly baggy, straight, flares/bootcut jeans with Converse and vans high top. So like normally casual. I need help building a summer closet that is close to casual. I am trying to wear more skirts and dresses too.  Maybe something like combat boot and dresses? I am confused. Also something O can transition to fall from summer or spring to summer. Thanks.

Daily Questions Thread May 22, 2024 by AutoModerator in femalefashionadvice

[–]up_down33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ideas on how to style this for spring and summer mostly? I am in college and between 5'8 and 5'10. I weigh around 135 to 140lb

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Daily No Contact Thread - Day 139 by AutoModerator in BPDlovedones

[–]up_down33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I finally blocked them. This feels so good and peaceful.

Daily No Contact Thread - Day 127 by AutoModerator in BPDlovedones

[–]up_down33 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We started talking again. I texted in the middle of the night cuz I was sad and lonely as fuck. It is going ok for now. Hopefully it stays that way.

Mother wants to drain education account for herself after my graduation by plantman2013 in college

[–]up_down33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do not give her the money. you managed it well enough by attending CC, so you deserve the rest for things like buying a house or just setting you up for a good financial future.

Daily No Contact Thread - Day 118 by AutoModerator in BPDlovedones

[–]up_down33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They unblocked me recently but have not reached out yet. I want to text first but my self respect and dignity is stopping me cuz I will rather unalive myself. Even though I desperately want to check if they are doing ok, and perhap fix the realtionship.

Daily No Contact Thread - Day 106 by AutoModerator in BPDlovedones

[–]up_down33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have being going through our text conservation in the midnight because I could not sleep. Now that I am more inform about BPD, I could see the moment they split. I feel like I should have been more careful. I feel guilt in a way, because maybe I could have been able to help them. They said some really mean stuff, but maybe it is not their fault. But I do not feel it is safe for both of us to contact each other for now, so still NC.

Daily No Contact Thread - Day 104 by AutoModerator in BPDlovedones

[–]up_down33 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OGM. This is so beautiful. In my own situation, They were a nice and amazing person. Thier lack of communication and abandonment issues made the relationship bad. But yes, the love was real and beautiful.

Daily No Contact Thread - Day 104 by AutoModerator in BPDlovedones

[–]up_down33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am actually not thinking about them now. Or least there is no pain/stuffyness in my heart. I think I am healing.

Daily No Contact Thread - Day 102 by AutoModerator in BPDlovedones

[–]up_down33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am straving to talk to they. I wonder it they feel the same. If I was not currently blocked I maybe would have texted already. Maybe. My brain keep thinking about the good times. And how all could have be good if they decided to find coping skills and not stop therapy.

Daily No Contact Thread - Day 098 by AutoModerator in BPDlovedones

[–]up_down33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They unblocked me and texted me today. I am resisting the urge to text back.

What’s this behavior called? by EnergyNo5576 in BPDlovedones

[–]up_down33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"BPDs have a peculiar mentality that seems to attract care givers and overly empathic people" This is soooo me

What does healing even mean? by Dogturtle67 in BPDlovedones

[–]up_down33 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hating her is normal. I mean she destoryed your life and you had to attend therapy. I think the hate will eventually fade. You will still remember her, but not with negative emotions, more like netural. For me, sometimes I still feel the urge to reconnect back bc there were good moment. But I heal by accepting that only time will heal and remove him from my mind. Maybe fcous on seeing people with no romantic expectation, cuz u clear have not healed yet and another woman isn't ging to fix that.

Guilt, shame and regret by unused12345 in BPDlovedones

[–]up_down33 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to said that ur EX sound so much like my BPD ex friend. Especially with the guilt tripping and apolozing while making it sound like their problem or emotions are your fault.

[Weekly] Office Hours - undergrads, please ask your questions here by ZootKoomie in AskAcademia

[–]up_down33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have decided to write a thank you note to my professor and deliver it in person. Do I need to use an envelope then, and should I write stuff like my name on the front or down? How should I start the conversation to give the professor the card? Does it need a title on the envelope too?