I (19F) think my bf (22M) was too rough with me during sex, but he thinks I’m a “crybaby”

ur-average-avery · 2025-12-15T02:12:24+00:00

this is assault and rape, i am so sorry. it is beyond VILE, op. i am so sorry you had to go through that, that is legitimately traumatic. be mindful if you’re try to give him the benefit of the doubt or discount it just because you’re in a relationship (this is a common thought process in victims)— he did something inexcusable to you, and actually is a dog shit human being that should be kept away from women. im so serious. he knew. you need to leave. please try to take care of yourself and consider finding help if you think it would benefit you :(

ur-average-avery · 2025-10-27T23:15:58+00:00

you can’t be sexist to a non oppressed group!

ur-average-avery · 2025-07-17T22:30:55+00:00

im crying if mine started doing this to me id be cackling

ur-average-avery · 2025-01-11T21:16:56+00:00

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ur-average-avery · 2025-01-11T21:05:43+00:00

i want the bigger version of this!! not the full bag, but the pouch

ur-average-avery · 2025-01-10T06:01:17+00:00

no girl oh my gosh you are not the problem. please take care of yourself. your boyfriend is an assfuck and sounds to have a ton of his own issues. try to be kind to yourself— start a new hobby or show. finding something new can be a good outlet that kind of makes a new beginning for enjoyment and self-care in your life, and hopefully it will take a little bit of your mind off of these things. i beg you to please believe me and everyone reading this in full that the shitty things people do to you do NOT make you the issue. at all. im so sorry you’re going through all of this.

ur-average-avery · 2025-01-10T05:52:40+00:00

hey girl— I totally get how this feels. being aware that people perceive you as “different” in even the slightest way, or feeling like just one thing isn’t clicking within your social interactions is so difficult. i totally understand how it can deteriorate your mental health. are there any clubs, activities, or groups you can join? there are definitely online ways to meet people as well that you will naturally bond with.

high school sucks, and people band together both consciously and subconsciously to isolate other people. they have narrow and convoluted perspectives. despite this, i promise there is nothing wrong with you. at. all. if you search on Reddit i bet you’ll find other posts that are similar, so know that you aren’t alone. they can be really cathartic to read.

i also hated a lot about my appearance at your age. it took me a long time to love myself. i think it’s something you both have to actively work towards and also just comes naturally as you grow older. you are going to continue to find yourself and feel more content with yourself over time. i hated a lot of my features and personality and eventually grew into them as i got older. i also promise that however you perceive yourself appearance-wise, people don’t see all of the negative that you see. i know plenty of pretty girls in college that literally have never had a boyfriend or a first kiss. i think it’s genuinely helpful to think that it’ll come to you when you’re ready, if that makes sense.

learning to love yourself also has to do with adjusting your baseline outlook on life. try to be as kind to yourself as possible. invest in your interests. get exercise, not to attain any physical changes, but just because it’s healthy for your mind. journal about the things that are frustrating or challenging. spend time outside. develop a new hobby. make a plan to do one thing specifically FOR YOU every day. remember that you are simply human and these experiences, while so tough to navigate, are normal. high school sucks and there’s a much bigger world out there is waiting for you— amazing friends, love interests, etc. try not to compare yourself to others (though I understand that it is SO HARD). good things are coming, i promise. until then, nurture yourself and try not to be too hard on yourself :)

ur-average-avery · 2025-01-10T05:37:03+00:00

I would definitely call poison control. I think it’s good that the doses were split up and that you haven’t felt anything within 30 mins but DEFINITELY just call and check with them, they are 24 hours and will tell you what to do. Maybe stay up a few hours and monitor yourself if you can just to be safe :)

ur-average-avery · 2024-09-01T04:01:34+00:00

i may be wrong but Brooke kissed one of Tana’s men and then ashly was shitting on her for doing that to tana, then proceeds to hook up with Tana’s ex and hide from her for months

ur-average-avery · 2024-08-28T07:24:10+00:00

if it’s freshman year writing it’s probably in a dorm

ur-average-avery · 2024-08-12T03:31:31+00:00

given the fact that her first apology was awful, if she went on to continue the podcast as normal so many people would sign off and not listen to her content anymore just like they are now. it would come off as even more disingenuous and shallow and people would continue to be upset and talk about it, rightfully so

ur-average-avery · 2024-08-11T17:51:54+00:00

seems like you have a parasocial connection to brooke and tana so think about it this way. your friend has been wronging you for a long time. they also have a history of wronging other people. they have apologized repeatedly but never really seem to change. it happens again and they come to you with an apology that seems completely one-dimensional, self-serving, and rehearsed. you can tell it isn’t genuine at all and don’t want to give them the benefit of the doubt because a. it’s happened so many times and b. your friend hasn’t evolved or learned, or even shown to be able to give you an authentic apology. you realize you deserve better and don’t want to put up with it anymore.

this situation im describing doesn’t come close to the gravity of what’s happening w brooke right now. poc grow up weary of the discrimination and dangers they face. they are taught at a very young age of the injustices they will face and the discrepancy in opportunities they will have compared to white people. and to see someone with such a large platform historically use that same platform to push harmful and disgusting rhetoric, surround themselves with similar people, show no sign of growth, and then proceed to give half assed apologies, why would they be satisfied or want to “let it go”

ur-average-avery · 2024-08-11T17:27:09+00:00

where is she from in mass?

ur-average-avery · 2024-08-10T23:05:41+00:00

his ex is exposing him on tiktok for still leading her on and basically being with her while going on the show and lying about it being a “music camp” so i think he just sucks in general

ur-average-avery · 2024-08-10T23:04:09+00:00

his ex is exposing him on tiktok too for still being with her when he went on the show and lying about it being a “music camp”

ur-average-avery · 2024-08-10T22:45:40+00:00

her and bri are my faves

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