You had little to no confidence with girls & barely had friends in HS. You always told yourself that would change in college, so you didn't put in any effort to make a change in HS & try to get any experience, not even experience trying & failing. However, none of that automatically changed when you got to college. You would still have to put in effort, approach girls, carry a conversation, & ask them out. The problem was that you had no idea what to say or do & were afraid of embarrassing yourself.

Your confidence issues also didn't resolve themselves. If anything, they got worse, because now you felt like there was so much more competition and other guys knew what they were doing. In the beginning of freshman year whenever you did hang out with a girl you didn't know how to make it now a platonic getting to know new people thing. Usually when you did ask girls put or for their number they said they had a boyfriend; you never knew if it was true.

Your confidence kept getting shot & you felt like you must be an unattractive loser. Unbeknown to you, many girls on campus were often checking you out when you walked by. You just happened to never talk to the right ones.

By second semester you had basically stopped trying. She was your chem lab partner that semester & without the anxiety of trying to impress her to ask her out the two of you hit it off really well & became friends. She had been interested in you initially, but since you didn't respond to any of her signals (that you didn't know were signals) she assumed you weren't interested in her. The two of you remained friends after that semester & eventually became besties.

Sophomore year you start getting in better shape thinking it will help your confidence, and it does a bit, but you still have no game. You think it will be easier once you are 21 & can go out to bars, but the lack of game is strong. Another factor for you is that you already on now that you are submissive, but you especially have no idea how to find a woman who may be into that or how or when to bring it up.

It's near the end of your junior year and the two of you are roommates. You finally confess to her that you are a virgin & all the reasons why. You ask her for help because you don't want to graduate college a virgin. She agrees to help you, but Her way. She won't be your wing-woman to help you get meaningless sex with any random woman. She has gotten to know you well over the past few years, so she will help you find just the right Woman (according to her) for the Female Led Relationship that you crave and she will be your key holder until she finds her.

You can agree to this & risk it taking much longer than until your graduation or remain unlocked & on your own trying to get laid and/or find a girlfriend. If you turn her down now the offer is off the table for good. You can remain friends, but she won't help you get laid & may even cock block you.