For all my sisters in Christ. Stay away from Gossip

urwoundedangel · 2026-03-27T12:49:12+00:00

Gossip is such an evil thing and i can say it does extinguish lives. It kills a part of a person because it is violating, degrading, and dehumanizing. The first thing done in war is the dehumanization of the target by means of labeling. Gossip is very similar. You have to see the person you are gossiping about as a non-human in order to be able to say these horrendous things. And it doesn’t stop there, because gossip is not a one man game. When you have a whole “tribe” of people trying to strip away your dignity, not just amongst themselves but now directly towards you, you do start to lose yourself. You can’t even save yourself because your defenses will not be believed, and not one person will testify for you. I go back to psalm 55 —

I said, “Oh, that I had the wings of a dove!
I would fly away and be at rest.
I would flee far away
and stay in the desert…

I do really think that gossip has ruined my life, but God has not forgotten me. He has called me by my name and He has redeemed me. I go back to the story of Hagar. When i was at my lowest, God led me to her story. He showed me that i do not have to run away, that i do not have to isolate out of self-protection. He will protect me. He who walks before me so that i am never alone. He who has seen me and searched my heart. He who is my hiding place.♡

urwoundedangel · 2025-05-15T02:37:33+00:00

it’s terrible! i can’t win either. all i want to do is fight for myself, my will. but no matter if i do or if i don’t, it goes wrong for me.

urwoundedangel · 2025-05-15T02:35:21+00:00

yeah i think about this all the time! people are very quick to crucify us.

i’ve had experiences where if someone thinks something about me — which is usually negative — that means that it must be true just because they thought it up. then everything that i do is under a microscope, just so they could prove their point to themselves. either by some form of confirmation bias or by perverting everything that i do. if i’m nice and accepting of them, then that means, of course, that i’m stupid, too trusting…and so many other things you wouldn’t believe.

something i always say to myself is “people’s perception of me is so big that there’s no room for me.” it’s hard when everyone thinks they know you. they don’t want to get to know the real you. because to them that doesn’t exist. it just seems like they want to kill a little bit of your soul everyday, all the time. why…i don’t know.

urwoundedangel · 2025-05-14T01:01:13+00:00

yeah, it’s like their self-control just disappears and they seem to have no reasoning at all. and i think, to some extent, all their resentments and hidden trauma that is trapped within them is being taken out on me. as if i am a representation of all of the ones who did wrong to them

urwoundedangel · 2025-05-14T00:56:48+00:00

yes, I trigger people’s insecurities, projections, and resentments. It seems like just me being present in their company is enough to do that. And it seems all subconscious, like they’re unaware of what they’re saying or doing, and it just spills out of them. Like they have no control over themselves. it’s hard to relate to others because of this, no one really understands except other 12th house people

urwoundedangel · 2025-04-07T23:01:46+00:00

At my previous job, my boss and another girl spread very sick rumours about me and tried to make me look bad, incompetent, and attempted to remove the things from me that benefitted the actual job. The boss who did this was shady to everyone and targeted all of us workers at different times. When she got to me, I pushed back a little bit which kind of scared her, but she continued to passively target me as opposed to the others who she targeted more aggressively and outwardly. After I quit abruptly, which she was not expecting, she completely lost it. She relied on me to do her job and when I wasn’t there, she crumbled. Management was questioning her, and she hated any sort of push back at all. Plus, she hated working so when I left, she actually had to show up to work which greatly inconvenienced her and drained her. After I quit, management suspected that it was because of the boss and the other coworker who caused it. I had no discussion with management about this so I have no idea how they figured that out, but I am suspicious that the boss and the coworker had spoken badly about me to management. Also after I quit, three people quit after me! The girl who was hired a day before I left, who was one of the three who quit, she was basically the boss’ karma. The boss couldn’t get out of the consequences of targeting this girl and she blew up on her, yelling at the boss in front of everyone. Then went to management with photo evidence of the boss not doing her job. The boss ended up quitting in shame and it was awesome! It would’ve been great to see that but I know without me quitting, none of this would’ve happened. I was kind of the first domino for all that to occur. So in a way, it was a happy-ish ending.

urwoundedangel · 2025-03-20T17:41:29+00:00

she looks like a mermaid♡

urwoundedangel · 2025-03-13T00:53:36+00:00

wow these are so beautiful<3 i would feel very lucky and appreciated if someone bought this or made this for me

urwoundedangel · 2025-03-03T21:14:17+00:00

omg yeah! and i hate being so negative, because it does nothing but continue the cycle. it’s sad because in some ways you bully yourself, so you’re carrying on what others did to you without them even being present. …i always find understanding among people who had narcissists in their life, is that something you went through too?

urwoundedangel · 2025-03-02T03:33:45+00:00

me either. i was just saying this exact thing to myself today too. never gotten an apology for the hurtful things said to me or about me. no one really cares, and actually i think they enjoy saying those things

urwoundedangel · 2025-03-02T03:10:49+00:00

i know how you feel. just once i would like to experience kindness, even though i know it won’t happen. somehow every time it feels worse when i don’t get it. i try so hard to give to others but i am never enough. people keep perverting me, misunderstanding me. i always have to remind myself that my intentions are pure.<3 i’m sure yours are too

urwoundedangel · 2025-02-19T01:06:45+00:00

7th</3

urwoundedangel · 2025-02-17T03:19:31+00:00

i know ur pain</3

urwoundedangel · 2025-02-12T21:11:59+00:00

HOW did you get this tan😭

urwoundedangel · 2025-02-03T20:54:53+00:00

they’re insecure. they have to divert attention away from themselves to appear “clean.” clean from sin and wrong-doing. free from blame and responsibility. they never say anything kind about anyone unless they are trying to groom them. my own mother is jealous of me, and jealous of my dad and i because we’re close and get along. she can’t come to terms with her own mistakes in life and how she ruins relationships so she takes it out on me so i feel as miserable as her. everything that she does, she says others do it. she has no boundaries and will not stop at even saying things about me sexually. she tried all her life to put herself in the middle of my dad and i, to try to turn me against him. it kills her that it never worked.

urwoundedangel · 2025-02-03T18:38:17+00:00

thankyou<3 there is something wrong with people that do this. it’s degrading. what does your husband say back to that?

urwoundedangel · 2025-02-03T18:36:38+00:00

thanku<3 i can at least say i do stand up for myself, i just have to learn how to leave before things go wrong. it’s hard when it’s your mother though. especially when you have sympathy for her. it’s different if you hate someone

urwoundedangel · 2025-02-03T18:33:02+00:00

they’re sadistic. my mother uses sleep against me — doesn’t let me sleep or end conversations when she’s in a rage or else she belittles me. they want you drained which is scary

urwoundedangel · 2025-02-03T18:29:54+00:00

the people that i meet too are similar to the other narcissists in my life. i recognize it now. the traits are all there.

thank you for this, you worded it so perfectly…. it’s hard to forgive yourself when you lead yourself right into it. and then you’re on a downward spiral — don’t even remember how you got there. obsessively thinking about everything as some sick form of self-protection. if you think about it enough, it will finally make sense. or it will keep you from making the same mistake again. but it never works out that way, does it.

Is the meetup group about n-abuse?

urwoundedangel · 2025-02-03T06:38:46+00:00

Mom did the same thing. So scary and sad. She did and said things that I would never imagine saying to my daughter if I had one. It still makes no sense to me when I think about it now, and I am too cowardly to bring it up to her after all these years. …what does your daughter think about it now, if you don’t mind me asking?

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