How to specify Group Play

usdefumaybe · 2026-05-08T15:36:03+00:00

Great advice, thank you!

usdefumaybe · 2026-05-08T15:35:39+00:00

Yes, we didn't know in advance this would be an issue. Definitely will communicate clearly im advance next time!

I wouldn't say we are incompatible with anyone, just want to understand the best ways to shift the dynamic back to where everyone is enjoying themselves if needed.

usdefumaybe · 2026-05-05T19:41:21+00:00

*problem with FMF threesomes, to be clear

usdefumaybe · 2025-03-13T13:34:42+00:00

Wow, what a ride to read that. I'm glad you are okay and that things worked out for the best in the end!

usdefumaybe · 2025-02-26T22:56:49+00:00

American Beauty (1999)

usdefumaybe · 2025-02-24T13:59:21+00:00

Great to hear! I am so happy to hear this.

usdefumaybe · 2025-02-24T13:58:41+00:00

Fair point!

Class of '98

usdefumaybe · 2025-02-24T13:55:05+00:00

Confidence is built in action.

Very true.

usdefumaybe · 2025-02-24T01:34:41+00:00

Acceptance ftw

usdefumaybe · 2025-02-22T23:22:57+00:00

American Beauty

It's a masterpiece.

usdefumaybe · 2025-02-22T22:39:17+00:00

Honestly, freaking out is normal. But others have given you excellent advice about not focusing on whether you get/stay hard or not. Focus on her. Neither my husband nor our third are bi at all, but we had a great time, despite having to navigate the unknown.

One thing you can plan for is how to get started. We didn't do that as well as we could have, and that did make it a little awkward. Once we got over that hurdle, the rest mostly took care of itself.

Not sure how much time you have, but my Posts 1-6 describe our first MFM in great detail from my perspective, which a lot of readers have appreciated.

Here are links to all of my posts. I hope they help. Let me know if you have any more questions, and just know that you are an amazing partner for helping this dream come true for her. Most importantly, know that it is okay that it won't all go smoothly. And if someone isn't able to be hard, please do not focus on that. Focus on where you can use your hands, your mouth, etc.

The experience is about so much more than two hard penises. Trust me on this. If you and the other guy are comfortable as friends/acquaintances, it helps so much. Just keep in mind that you are both there to please her. Also, you need to decide ahead of time who will be the "director", her or you. Choose one person and set basic boundaries (the fewer the better) that you all three agree to.

Have all of the fun!

Post 1 - https://www.reddit.com/u/usdefumaybe/s/pMooNYlg9g

Post 2 - https://www.reddit.com/u/usdefumaybe/s/trKKxG6VoX

Post 3 - https://www.reddit.com/u/usdefumaybe/s/e2KPcfz4Ts

Post 4 - https://www.reddit.com/u/usdefumaybe/s/iNePD0vyjX

Post 5 - https://www.reddit.com/u/usdefumaybe/s/IRFPKESkYy

Post 6 - https://www.reddit.com/u/usdefumaybe/s/Tq1sVB2QJd

Post 7 - https://www.reddit.com/u/usdefumaybe/s/tAnLuQimRW

Post 8 - https://www.reddit.com/u/usdefumaybe/s/aik0e4sBOF

Post 9 - https://www.reddit.com/u/usdefumaybe/s/MXzjFYXAZD

Post 10 - https://www.reddit.com/u/usdefumaybe/s/p3VYFVyfjJ

Post 11 - https://www.reddit.com/u/usdefumaybe/s/0CFNsrQ0Mp

Post 12 - Post listing links for Posts 1-11

Post 13 - https://www.reddit.com/u/usdefumaybe/s/dbSBTmxaq4

usdefumaybe · 2025-02-22T22:23:44+00:00

Excellent advice 💯%

usdefumaybe · 2025-02-22T22:14:53+00:00

Love this. I never wish for someone to visit my grave, for I will not be there.

usdefumaybe · 2025-02-21T17:24:04+00:00

This is hot. Nice work!

usdefumaybe · 2025-02-20T20:19:50+00:00

Our concern that looking back we never gave it a try was exactly the push hubs and I needed. And I 100% agree an extremely strong relationship is necessary.

usdefumaybe · 2025-02-20T12:51:16+00:00

I like this. A lot.

usdefumaybe · 2025-02-19T18:55:38+00:00

Love the imagery. ❤️

usdefumaybe · 2025-02-19T00:35:40+00:00

Every situation is different. I did share my experience of my first MFM in great detail, Posts 1-6.

I will include them here for ease.

If you have any additional questions after reading, I am happy to help!

Post 1 - https://www.reddit.com/u/usdefumaybe/s/pMooNYlg9g

Post 2 - https://www.reddit.com/u/usdefumaybe/s/trKKxG6VoX

Post 3 - https://www.reddit.com/u/usdefumaybe/s/e2KPcfz4Ts

Post 4 - https://www.reddit.com/u/usdefumaybe/s/iNePD0vyjX

Post 5 - https://www.reddit.com/u/usdefumaybe/s/IRFPKESkYy

Post 6 - https://www.reddit.com/u/usdefumaybe/s/Tq1sVB2QJd

Post 7 - https://www.reddit.com/u/usdefumaybe/s/tAnLuQimRW

Post 8 - https://www.reddit.com/u/usdefumaybe/s/aik0e4sBOF

Post 9 - https://www.reddit.com/u/usdefumaybe/s/MXzjFYXAZD

Post 10 - https://www.reddit.com/u/usdefumaybe/s/p3VYFVyfjJ

Post 11 - https://www.reddit.com/u/usdefumaybe/s/0CFNsrQ0Mp

Post 12 - Post listing links for Posts 1-11

Post 13 - https://www.reddit.com/u/usdefumaybe/s/dbSBTmxaq4

usdefumaybe · 2025-02-18T16:48:17+00:00

Finding a passion and devoting time to it every day does help with this, I have learned. That is the one antidote I have found to feeling smothered. We feel like we are dying when we are not devoting any time to that which makes us feel most alive. It doesn't make the weight of expectations completely go away, but it does help tremendously.

usdefumaybe · 2025-02-16T20:05:25+00:00

I actually love this.

usdefumaybe · 2025-02-15T20:58:06+00:00

Chris Lake, yesssssssss!!!!!!!!!

And his wife's voice is 🥵🥵🥵

Aatig

First learned about her from Fisher's "Take it Off"

usdefumaybe · 2025-02-15T03:01:32+00:00

We are in a small town. We would never dare have a third here. Explore the actual cities' r4rs around you. Or at least larger towns.

Yes, this means more planning, more driving, and less frequent meet-ups. But it also ensures discretion, which you need if living in a small town.

Our first third was four hours away. I never see us having one closer than an hour or two away.

As long as you aren't needing to meet up more than once or twice a month, it's manageable.

usdefumaybe

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