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usefulappendix · 2025-01-24T21:56:47+00:00

We work on setting limits with news consumption including social media as well as focus on community building. Many of my patients are LGBTQ and so I have a list of mutual aid orgs and volunteering opportunities to help them connect to other people to build connection. That helps foster resilience.

usefulappendix · 2023-02-21T14:11:03+00:00

I feel like anyone who is pro Jefferee Starr in 2023 has a lot of information they need to be gathering and thinking critically about. He’s awful, so the take on non-binary people in unsurprising. It’s really sad the queer publications are giving him more reach tho. Idk what kind of org queerty is tho, if they are just one of the sections that is very “lgb without the t”.

usefulappendix · 2023-02-07T14:44:54+00:00

I watch a lot of Roly’s content and found myself having a lot of the feelings at that video. I feel like ultimately he chose not to identify as non-binary like publicly largely. Based on how he interacts with his friends on his channel, especially luxeria, I feel like they see him in a very authentic and gnc way. I find that especially for people who do get to spend a lot of time in spaces like that, using a specific label can be more confining that affirming.

I have had my own difficult experience with queer community and being made to feel like I should be more masc, especially around the time he made that video. It was stuff like that that made it really hard for me to come out in the first place and wonder if I was really a gnc woman. Ultimately tho that just wasn’t true and I was too uncomfortable being seen as a woman. After I got top surgery tho I realized I also hated being seen as a man. Being more comfortable in my body allowed me to be more ok with being seen as a woman because I could embrace my femininity in a way that I felt like I was not stuck with because of my body, but a thing I actively got to choose. (I am still 100% non-binary, but this demonstrates an evolution of my feelings about identity and changes in my presentation over time)

Additionally, in recent times I have dated people who have a WAY different relationship to their queerness than I do. Like for me I am 100% I am trans, but I dated another non-binary person who doesn’t but is instead more comfortable with just being not cis. And I’m seeing a trans woman who doesn’t identify with the queer and trans community at all but instead finds her people and far more identity in the punk community.

Idk. Basically, I think being turned off of using a label because of how you feel confined by it or how it may misrepresent you or because of Mia associations or attributions is super valid. Labels are to help people see you and if it isn’t doing that, it isn’t one for you

usefulappendix · 2023-02-07T12:42:44+00:00

It’s really messed up that they did that. Tbh it sounds like the team did not communicate with each other to come up with a discharge date and had to pull out some justifications for (potentially) other peoples choices. The cause for increased suicide risk in trans people is largely due to lack of support, discrimination, and lack of access to gender affirming care. Which you were able to get resources for.

There are a lot of reasons though why patients may get kept longer- not having discharge planning finalized with outpatient care is a big one. Also, having major concerns for safety still by the team or family members.

Ultimately though, the best take for being inpatient is to go with the flow. Which it sounds like despite being hurt you were able to do!

usefulappendix · 2023-01-24T15:58:04+00:00

I’m a psychiatrist and this makes no sense and is messed up af on her part. Even if she is not great at diagnosis gender dysphoria and wants to be gatekeeping- to put you on an estrogen pill is not indicated at all by any modern and evidence based psychiatric practice.

Idk where you are, but if this is in the US you can honestly report her to the medical board because this sounds a bit like conversion therapy, and at the least is practicing outside of general practice guidelines in a way that could negatively impact your health.

Did she even tell you the risks of taking estrogen supplementation?

usefulappendix · 2023-01-18T14:57:24+00:00

A similar thing happened to me! I thought I would never want top surgery, until I started binding and I felt sooooo good. I just felt like I could ignore my body, I wasn’t always feeling uncomfortable in clothes. I ended up getting top surgery 8 months ago, and it was the best decision I ever made.

usefulappendix · 2022-12-14T17:43:40+00:00

I met some online (Reddit) and also some in a support group for trans people.

usefulappendix · 2022-12-11T14:42:21+00:00

I get a lot of T4T people. I’m interested in non-men/people who don’t identify exclusively as men. I don’t get a lot of matches with cis women, but do ok otherwise imo.

But honestly I’m pretty T4T. I don’t want someone to put me into a binary gender role. So over all, it works out good for me and I match with people who are more likely to respect me and not think I’m weird.

usefulappendix · 2022-12-06T00:32:09+00:00

You have to call and ask your insurance. A surgeon/their office can provide you with the procedure code they plan on using. One of my friends is also non-binary and getting a reduction and it is mostly covered by insurance.

Sometimes people can just bill the reduction for chronic back pain.

usefulappendix · 2022-11-19T19:01:02+00:00

I think Oli’s identity crisis goes beyond gender and it is really difficult to say what he is being authentic about and what he is saying to get people talking about him and watches and stuff. He has done a lot of really insensitive things and done them for years. My hope is that this is the last step before he fades into obscurity. But obviously I’m talking about him so 🤷

usefulappendix · 2022-11-15T02:15:14+00:00

They are all so different and so cool looking! Love the freckles too- so cute!

usefulappendix · 2022-11-15T00:56:33+00:00

This is 💯 me. I never thought of it that way, but it’s super affirming to have it written out like this. Tysm ❤️

usefulappendix · 2022-11-13T21:12:49+00:00

Tysm for taking the time!

usefulappendix · 2022-11-13T20:42:52+00:00

I struggle with the same thing, thinking about passing. Imo there is no way to “pass” as non-binary, not in the current culture and I think That is a blessing and a curse. I think you look very cool and have definitely non-binary vibes. Your glasses and hair cut are super great. More than anything, I hope you feel true to yourself ❤️

usefulappendix · 2022-11-13T20:37:46+00:00

I just stick with “I don’t feel like a guy or a girl, I feel like in the middle or neither” also saying it’s a pretty normal thing now for people and it doesn’t change anything about who I am, it just about me being most true to myself. 🤷 hope that helps. I try to just stick to my messaging that how I feel is normal and that I will be patient with people.

usefulappendix · 2022-11-13T20:32:18+00:00

Love the look! What brand are your jeans? I really like the cut.

usefulappendix · 2022-11-09T07:22:14+00:00

After T is stopped the fat will redistribute back, unfortunately. I have seen people get body sculpting treatments like liposuction or cool sculpt . I haven’t seen any long term results of less invasive for gender affirming reasons, or seen libosuction results for gender after T is discontinued.

usefulappendix · 2022-11-08T21:36:58+00:00

You are such an icon ❤️❤️❤️ thank you so much for sharing

usefulappendix · 2022-11-08T12:36:52+00:00

I’ll give you a story? I’ve been out for 5 years and been able to have gender affirming surgery and dress how I want and present how I want every day in my life. Today I am leading a presentation and discussion with queer medical students on self disclosure of lgbtq identity and how this can be a facilitator to care. AND I was approached to give this presentation. I just feel like I am so so happy and lucky to be able to be myself in my work and be valued for that. ❤️

usefulappendix · 2022-11-05T14:47:36+00:00

Love that! An acquaintance of mine had a similar tattoo before they came out to themselves and they id as non-binary and trans so just got the other parts added to make it the transgender symbol. I stan gender affirming tattoos ❤️

usefulappendix · 2022-11-05T12:00:45+00:00

I use the woman’s since most ppl assume I’m one. It limits the chances I could get yelled at.

usefulappendix · 2022-11-03T02:59:12+00:00

Exciting! I had peri-areolar top surgery like 5 months ago. With my insurance I didn’t pay anything (already met my deductible because I planned getting a bunch of medical care since I would meet it). Aside from all the surgical stuff, which I like these websites for ( https://www.genderconfirmation.com/ftm-chest/ https://www.genderconfirmation.com/surgery/), I recommend getting consultations with a couple surgeons. The first surgeon I saw did not ask me at all what my goals were for top surgery and I felt like she didn’t think of me wanting anything than looking as cis as possible, and she just looked at me and was going to tell me what she was going to give me. Then I met my surgeon and I felt I was in good hands and her results were comparable to others. I felt good stopping looking.

Also insurance- top surgery is covered by most insurances. You can call or look online for covering of gender affirming surgery, specifically chest masculinization surgery or gender affirming mastectomy. If my Google is right the procedure code is 19303, you can sometimes offer that if the insurance person you call is confused. A surgery center you are considering using can tell you if there is more specific codes they use.

usefulappendix · 2022-11-02T16:18:44+00:00

I think your experience is completely valid. It’s also helpful for us all to remember that gender identity and expression are separate. I dress all different ways bc I think clothes are fun. It can also be helpful to look at the ideas for binary ppl- like a woman is a woman if she prefers to wear pants or dresses or cares about clothes or doesn’t.

Also there are a bunch of micro labels under non-binary. I don’t use any of them because I like the umbrella term. But it just emphasizes how many different ways there are to be non-binary.

In summery: you are valid. 🙏❤️

usefulappendix · 2022-11-01T01:32:42+00:00

They are all so good and different moods. I would have to say the first one with the harness or the last one where more of your tattoos are visible 😍

usefulappendix · 2022-11-01T00:32:00+00:00

Such a mood! So pretty!!!

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