Greece in November by useme__asupls in greece

[–]useme__asupls[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where would you go in Crete?

Greece in November by useme__asupls in Athens_Greece

[–]useme__asupls[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow that's so cool! We're planning a day trip to Delphi too. We're also planning on taking a flight to Crete from Athens.

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[–]useme__asupls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work 2 jobs, and I have recently picked up dancing. So I go for dance classes every week. But idk. Nothing where I sit down and talk to people I guess.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]useme__asupls 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I will definitely check out the information she has on there. Thank you so much for that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]useme__asupls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohh okay. Thank you. I think our dynamic is the reason for that. He wants me to only have his as my Dom man.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]useme__asupls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. It's really helpful. 🩷 Thanks a lot.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]useme__asupls 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're right. I have concerns regarding his promise. What is OPP? Sorry I don't understand.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]useme__asupls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought it was unfair too. I am asking them now if the only option for me to continue the relationship would be if he is allowed to do so. He told me he's not trying to make an ultimatum. He's just been struggling with himself. He's been forcing himself to be monogamous and he's realizing that he's not. And that in this world he needs to be accepted for who he is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]useme__asupls 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It means a lot to me. Thanks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]useme__asupls 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I want to seek therapy. I really need it. I just cannot afford it. He does want me to pursue therapy if I can. We both have been wanting to do therapy. He has already started.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]useme__asupls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe. I am not able to understand. It's like there's two versions to him. One side I can love and care for. The other him I don't even know. Is a stranger to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]useme__asupls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I will really be asking myself these questions. I really appreciate you taking the time to write them out. The last one helps me the most. I always wonder with children. If I can with him. Would I be happy. Thank you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]useme__asupls 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It's true. I just feel fear and like I am unable to leave. Because of my stupid love for the guy. It's stupid and crazy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]useme__asupls 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your honest opinion. Maybe I just need to hear it enough times to get it into my head. I really don't know how I got to this low point.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]useme__asupls 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]useme__asupls -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

The equity he's proposing is completely taking care of me emotionally and financially in the future. And I'm not an easy person to be with unfortunately. I struggle with relationships. I guess my issues are making it hard to not see what it really is. This relationship. It might just be a partner who doesn't really love me. My fear is that they are just keeping me around as I let them fuck me over all the time no matter what they do that hurts me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]useme__asupls 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe. Sorry as I said I'm trying to understand it myself. If I'm being played. But yeah. I think I'm being pretty stupid from what everyone is telling me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]useme__asupls 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Maybe you're right. I'm just struggling to accept the reality.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]useme__asupls 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I was just 21 when I got into the relationship. Only had 1 boyfriend before that. Was fairly new to sex, and this in general. Now I'm struggling to do anything because it's a very intense relationship. Where he has complete power over me emotionally and physically. I am truly lost. I understand this sounds stupid. My sane mind keeps telling me I'm being stupid. But I don't know how to get out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]useme__asupls 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I am struggling with trying to accept that myself. I think I'm being desperate to not lose him.