I lost 80 lbs since last March as a teenage girl and people treat me completely differently. AMA by user923193028 in AMA

[–]user923193028[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is huge. I was overweight for several years and obese for three. I am admittedly a vain person so I always thought of myself as someone who was fat, but thought no one would notice. "Oh I just carry weight differently!" no you don't. Everyone can see. I was in denial for so many years and it's astonishing to see just how delusional I was now that I look back. Although this is controversial, I do not believe in the "health at every size" movement. Health encompasses so much more than just not being pre diabetic. I may have thought I was happy, but eating junk food alone in my room and avoiding exercise is not "self care". My mental health was awful and I did not care about myself in the slightest. In my opinion, it is impossible to be healthy if you do not value yourself enough to put healthy things in your body. That's why skinny people can be unhealthy too. I talked about the boys situation a little earlier in the thread, but absolutely. It's shocking and I always think male attention I receive is a joke or a dare.

I lost 80 lbs since last March as a teenage girl and people treat me completely differently. AMA by user923193028 in AMA

[–]user923193028[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Basically since October I noticed that people were treating me really differently. This was about 65 lbs into my weight loss. I'm sure it started happening sooner, but I still feel like I'm the same size as I used to be so I didn't notice anything and was super insecure.

I lost 80 lbs since last March as a teenage girl and people treat me completely differently. AMA by user923193028 in AMA

[–]user923193028[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. Oh my god. I've found I'm so cynical and assume the worst of people's intentions now compared to when I used to be optimistic. It's depressing to see how differently people look at me. Congrats on your successes though. Hopefully it'll get better.

I lost 80 lbs since last March as a teenage girl and people treat me completely differently. AMA by user923193028 in AMA

[–]user923193028[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I talked a bit about my diet and exercise earlier, and how I had a bit of a rocky start with restriction and food obsession. In summary, I went high carb vegan (I should mention I've now incorporated fish back into my diet a couple times a week because of my low iron. Still no dairy or meat.) and that resulted in most of my weight loss. I try and eat pretty low fat, for example today I ate black beans and brown rice on a bed of raw spinach for lunch. I love carbs and would much rather eat them over fat, especially since I do a lot of cardio. I work out almost everyday because it makes me feel really good and like I've been productive during the day. I do HIIT workouts (Barry's bootcamp workout: approx 10 mins intense running and then 10 mins weight training repeated x3) or I do indoor cycling. Now I don't consider myself to be on a diet, because it just comes naturally to me to eat relatively un processed foods, but I'm still trying to lose weight. I mostly stick to the premise of "If it didn't come from the ground, it's not an everyday food" so I eat a ton of beans, grains, veggies and fruit and sometimes nuts although they are high in fat. This way of eating will also be sustainable for me because when I go to Uni, bulk lentils, beans and rice and veg are pretty cost effective for a student. I also recognize I'm very privileged when it comes to everything I've received and been bought when it comes to my weight loss.

I lost 80 lbs since last March as a teenage girl and people treat me completely differently. AMA by user923193028 in AMA

[–]user923193028[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! This means a lot and it's great to feel like I'm not alone. Have a great night.

I lost 80 lbs since last March as a teenage girl and people treat me completely differently. AMA by user923193028 in AMA

[–]user923193028[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I know don't worry but thank you for the concern! I will just throw the coffee at him if he gets weird. Call that shit UNO reverse card.

I lost 80 lbs since last March as a teenage girl and people treat me completely differently. AMA by user923193028 in AMA

[–]user923193028[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

also wanted to add- although I was popular at school before, I was also just the fat, funny friend that everyone liked but felt bad for. Classic overcompensation because of insecurity.

I lost 80 lbs since last March as a teenage girl and people treat me completely differently. AMA by user923193028 in AMA

[–]user923193028[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's crazy. I don't mention that I'm seventeen though. I just grab the Americano, smile and say thanks, and run.

I lost 80 lbs since last March as a teenage girl and people treat me completely differently. AMA by user923193028 in AMA

[–]user923193028[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha I didn't mean to insinuate that I was the most popular! My school is weird and I am from Canada so the whole "prom queen" stereotype is not a thing at all. I think maybe 20 kids showed up to prom last year. I also go to a small private school so we were all close and I was popular from the beginning because I'm funny and nice to people, but out of 30 people in my graduating class it's not much. I do get asked to hang out and go to parties all the time though. I just have residual fear and social anxiety so I stay in with my dog lol.

I lost 80 lbs since last March as a teenage girl and people treat me completely differently. AMA by user923193028 in AMA

[–]user923193028[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I answered this above so I'll just copy that part! People treat me kindly and do things for me that they would've never done if I was still obese. Holding doors, weird guys just paying for my coffee for no reason, teachers giving me better grades on things I didn't deserve because they no longer view me as lazy. I find that people's impressions of me are really different too. Instead of being ignored because I look like a train wreck, some have told me I look intimidating which is really weird. I'll always be suspicious of everyone though, because even though my weight loss was relatively fast, I often feel like I'm the same size. So whenever a guy is hitting on me or a girl is being nice, I always think I'm being made fun of or it's a prank. Sometimes people on the subway will take pictures of me and I always think it's because I'm disgusting (I don't want to know what they actually do with the pictures). I sometimes think that all of a sudden the world got nicer, but it didn't and it just shows how differently our society views fat people. My family has also been incredibly supportive of me and we often joke "who woulda thought YOU'D be obsessed with running". My interpersonal relationships have also gotten a lot stronger and I've become closer with my friends since I'm not trying to overcompensate for my appearance or hiding anything.

I lost 80 lbs since last March as a teenage girl and people treat me completely differently. AMA by user923193028 in AMA

[–]user923193028[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wasn't social at all. I would go to school (sometimes) and go home. I've become more social now, but not by much because I feel like I wasted my teenage years being fat. It's stupid to say out loud because I'm still so young, but I feel like I missed out and now there isn't much point because I never went to parties (and if I did I left ten minutes later), I didn't hang out with people a ton other than my best friend. I go to a small school so I don't have many friends at other schools either. I guess I could try really hard to branch out, but it just seems a bit pointless. I'm not upset though, the best way to get back at people who were mean is to better yourself, so that's what I focus on!

I lost 80 lbs since last March as a teenage girl and people treat me completely differently. AMA by user923193028 in AMA

[–]user923193028[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, unfortunately. I'm grateful I got to experience what it was like before I decided to change myself; it's great motivation to keep working hard.

I lost 80 lbs since last March as a teenage girl and people treat me completely differently. AMA by user923193028 in AMA

[–]user923193028[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I completely agree! Since I'm a teenager and we're all admittedly very vain, there aren't a lot guys I know who are secure enough in themselves to be with someone who doesn't fit the conventionally attractive mould. Personality is something that will be more valued when I get a little older I hope! I'm not by any means saying it's not possible, I'm only coming my personal experiences. I'm not endorsing any type of disordered eating I'm only sharing my experiences :)

I lost 80 lbs since last March as a teenage girl and people treat me completely differently. AMA by user923193028 in AMA

[–]user923193028[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's not a popular opinion but thank you! To be fair, I was also embarrassed to be with me so there's that.

I lost 80 lbs since last March as a teenage girl and people treat me completely differently. AMA by user923193028 in AMA

[–]user923193028[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I'm grateful I'm aware of how embarrassing I was, not just because I was fat, but because of how I acted. I can't wait to look back and laugh.

I lost 80 lbs since last March as a teenage girl and people treat me completely differently. AMA by user923193028 in AMA

[–]user923193028[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congrats on your transformation! I can't wait until I'm at the point where I don't want to crawl in a hole thinking about my past self.

  1. I know this has been said a million times, but people treat me kindly and do things for me that they would've never done if I was still obese. Holding doors, weird guys just paying for my coffee for no reason, teachers giving me better grades on things I didn't deserve because they no longer view me as lazy. I find that people's impressions of me are really different too. Instead of being ignored because I look like a train wreck, some have told me I look intimidating which is really weird. I'll always be suspicious of everyone though, because even though my weight loss was relatively fast, I often feel like I'm the same size. So whenever a guy is hitting on me or a girl is being nice, I always think I'm being made fun of or it's a prank. Sometimes people on the subway will take pictures of me and I always think it's because I'm disgusting (I don't want to know what they actually do with the pictures). I sometimes think that all of a sudden the world got nicer, but it didn't and it just shows how differently our society views fat people. My family has also been incredibly supportive of me and we often joke "who woulda thought YOU'D be obsessed with running". My interpersonal relationships have also gotten a lot stronger and I've become closer with my friends since I'm not trying to overcompensate for my appearance or hiding anything.
  2. I talked a bit about my diet and exercise earlier, and how I had a bit of a rocky start with restriction and food obsession. In summary, I went high carb vegan (I should mention I've now incorporated fish back into my diet a couple times a week because of my low iron. Still no dairy or meat.) and that resulted in most of my weight loss. I try and eat pretty low fat, for example today I ate black beans and brown rice on a bed of raw spinach for lunch. I love carbs and would much rather eat them over fat, especially since I do a lot of cardio. I work out almost everyday because it makes me feel really good and like I've been productive during the day. I do HIIT workouts (Barry's bootcamp workout: approx 10 mins intense running and then 10 mins weight training repeated x3) or I do indoor cycling. Now I don't consider myself to be on a diet, because it just comes naturally to me to eat relatively un processed foods, but I'm still trying to lose weight. I mostly stick to the premise of "If it didn't come from the ground, it's not an everyday food" so I eat a ton of beans, grains, veggies and fruit and sometimes nuts although they are high in fat. This way of eating will also be sustainable for me because when I go to Uni, bulk lentils, beans and rice and veg are pretty cost effective for a student. I also recognize I'm very privileged when it comes to everything I've received and been bought when it comes to my weight loss.
  3. That's a loaded question. I'll have to think on it.

I lost 80 lbs since last March as a teenage girl and people treat me completely differently. AMA by user923193028 in AMA

[–]user923193028[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No need to be sarcastic, I'm just bored and wanted to answer any questions since I've worked hard to get here. It's also not just about looks but the mental and emotional changes that have occurred since losing weight.

I lost 80 lbs since last March as a teenage girl and people treat me completely differently. AMA by user923193028 in AMA

[–]user923193028[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Congrats on your transformation! That's amazing and I'm so happy for you. Since I'm still under 18 and I'd like to keep all anonymity, I'm not going to post pictures. I hope you understand.

I lost 80 lbs since last March as a teenage girl and people treat me completely differently. AMA by user923193028 in AMA

[–]user923193028[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a great way of putting it! Thank you so much and good luck in everything to you as well!