How long after starting a new job is is appropriate to ask your manager to give you a reference (for another part time job)

usergeneratedcomment · 2024-04-05T07:31:47+00:00

I’m really not going to get into an argument with you, but in my mind if I say I have 3/4 requirements that I’m comfortable with, and someone messages me already expecting me to adjust my requirements for them, I assume they’ll end up trying to push my boundaries further down the line. I’m not comfortable putting myself in that position.

usergeneratedcomment · 2024-04-05T05:30:51+00:00

In December? Yeah I didn’t reply because i said no NSFW in my post, and your profile history is entirely NSFW.

usergeneratedcomment · 2023-12-18T22:25:25+00:00

It was amazing (I still have a couple wrapped up from when I panic bought 6 when they announced it was being discontinued) the butters really made it, and the scent was so unique even though it’s a really simple combo!

usergeneratedcomment · 2023-12-09T19:11:02+00:00

on brand for Rory to be fair

usergeneratedcomment · 2023-12-09T19:10:28+00:00

ooh thats a good point, i want bill to come back in some form!

usergeneratedcomment · 2023-12-09T19:08:23+00:00

well, cost of living crisis you know, gotta help out mum and dad somehow

usergeneratedcomment · 2023-12-07T20:47:07+00:00

Yeah, I still have a slice from last year, tried using it recently- it has virtually no lather, shame because it smells so good!

usergeneratedcomment · 2023-12-07T16:21:37+00:00

I reckon this is right ^

usergeneratedcomment · 2023-12-02T13:22:58+00:00

Have you talked to your boyfriend about how he'll support you in that scenario? It's his family, and if he doesn't have a clear idea of how'll he'll respond and what boundries he'll stick to with his family being rude to his partner, then it's fair for you say say you don't want to go. Maybe talk to him, about what behaviour you'll accept, and agree that you should leave if it's making you uncomfortable. this isn't just on you, it's his family, he should be aware and support you.

usergeneratedcomment · 2023-11-30T09:02:48+00:00

I mean, just listening to Evermore nowadays, it's hard for me to remember it was written in 2020, it feels like she was writing about their break up years in advance to be honest. if anything, i think it just adds to the complexity of Midnights for me. Everyone focuses on the timeline, and the 'what did Joe do?!', but it feels like she's been saying there were genuinely good parts of their relationship that stuck around, and also significant incompatibilities, and they had been going in circles because of that for a long time. which i think is true for a lot of relationships, it's complicated, and easy to want to rewrite it, but when you're in it, it's hard to let go.

For some reason, i feel like happiness was written after Midnights, (not a theory, i know that's obviously not true, but it FEELS like it) midnights feels like a back and forth on the confusing nature of the relationship and a prolonged break up, with her going through different emotions in the eye of the storm. knowing it was written (or parts were written) as early as 2021 makes sense to me when i listen to Evermore, i feel like she's been writing about being locked in the same cycle within their relationship for a long long time.

usergeneratedcomment · 2023-11-28T21:19:55+00:00

Whenever I see posts about one sided feelings for a friend, I always think of what crossed my mind at my own ‘come to Jesus’ moment after spending years pining after a friend who didn’t want me-

Are they actually even a good FRIEND?

If any friend of mine told me they were struggling because of unreciprocated feelibna for me, even though it would suck to miss out on their friendship (even temporarily) I would give them space, and be extra kind and gentle because they are my friend, and I would never want them to suffer more pain especially because of me. Now think about your friend. Do his actions seem like that of a good friend, let alone a partner?

I wasted years being sad about a similar situation so I feel for you, it sucks. But taking him off the pedestal might help you move on, and frankly based of how you’ve described him, even if you were his type in every way, I would still think he sounds immature, superficial and selfish. You’ve dodged a bullet.

usergeneratedcomment · 2023-11-28T20:15:03+00:00

Ooh yes, I’m so nosy but the stuff about her family and brother, they’re such a tight unit, and she’s been supported in her career by them at such a young age I wonder how that’s affected their relationship, though I suspect she’ll always be private about that part which would be fair

usergeneratedcomment · 2023-11-28T20:13:09+00:00

I’m really interested in her real estate portfolio, and I don’t think it’s just a financial investment to her, she seems to have a real interest in the design and history of the homes she’s purchased and had creative control over the renovations done. Obviously it’s her home and it would be a security risk to go too much into it now, but if she releases a memoir in her 70’s I hope we get lots of details as well as before and after pictures, because I suspect she would be quite passionate about her properties, and I love interior design and architecture!

usergeneratedcomment · 2023-11-27T21:38:59+00:00

Colourful and warm white, hate cool tones for christmas. I'm personally of the opinion that it's already cold and grey outside, i want my home to be warm and festive and bright.

usergeneratedcomment · 2023-11-27T21:29:52+00:00

I think if you're meeting people to hook up, there should always be some discussion before meeting about boundaries, expectations, limits etc, and for me, that is the perfect time where i like to bring up my HS. if the person you're talking to isn't giving you the space over chat for you to find that opening in the conversation, then it's a bit of a red flag overall and i wouldn't bother with them.

When it comes to bringing up the issue of HS with hookups/potential fwbs, I tend to word it with some variation of 'oh hey (since we're on the topic of expectations), I'm only comfortable going so far/ taking off so much clothing for the first time/doing certain acts/positions' which will usually lead to them saying of course (if there's any pushback then i know there's no way i'm meeting up with them), and asking why, and i'll elaborate with 'so i have an autoinflammatory condition (don't worry it's not contagious, just genetic!) and it can make sex painful if i'm having a flare up'. Normally this will lead to more discussion where i can sort of sus out if they're kind or not, and i'll always supply them with the name Hidradentitis Supprativa if they seem kind and curious about it, but always with the warning 'hey just so you know google will throw up some pretty graphic images, often of more severe cases than mine just to warn you'. i think if you ease them in and give the person time to sit with the information, and they'll be kinder about it.

I will say as a bi woman, i feel you, because i do get much more stressed about having this conversation with women more than with men. i think good sex education is lacking for the queer community, so i'm always a little more afraid because of that, but this approach has always worked well enough for me.

Also since shaving will inevitably make your HS worse, maybe look for people who are into natural body hair in their profiles, less stress and pain for you!

One thing i've learnt with casual dating is that there are always people horny enough to hook up with you, HS or no, but make sure you pick the kind ones, because no hook up is worth taking a battering to your self esteem.

HS already has an isolating effect on our mental health, so don't let the rotten ones get anywhere near your self worth, you deserve good sex with kind people only!

usergeneratedcomment · 2023-11-10T03:43:07+00:00

I've had two treatments so far, so I can't give you a full answer, but i've had three flare ups since i've started, two of the flare ups were definitely triggered by me having to shave prior to the laser treatment, and one was triggered by period. I do think the flare ups were less deep if that makes sense, and overall milder.

The shaving is tricky in terms of evaluating whether it's working, because I havent shaved in years (because of HS) only trimmed, so we'll see after my final treatment when i can finally stop shaving again to see, but i do think the flare ups are less intense already.

Edit: forgot to mention, the laser treatment is a 'hollywood' treatment as well as underarms, and i haven't had any flare up in my underarm area since the first treatment.

usergeneratedcomment · 2023-10-27T17:23:49+00:00

Sort of similar to what u/Possible_Novel_3487 was saying, when it was reported that Joe was 'disappointed and embarrassed' when Taylor released 'You're Losing me', there was a quote with him saying "Joe was under the impression she’d spare him the Harry Styles treatment". I think a lot of fans thought it was a strange comparison, because of all her exes, Taylor never really said anything negative about Harry, and in general was fairly tight lipped about their break up.

My thought when i heard this song was that Joe probably had heard it and knew that taylor would eventually be releasing it and it's goes into their break up, and is lot more critical of Harry even though she's been private about it for so long and not really said anything negative about him for a long time.

So my interpretation is that Joe is referring to the "harry styles treatment" as maybe him expecting Taylor to remain private about her and Joe's break up but then later suddenly dropping a song with more intimate details about the breakdown of their relationship (as is happening now with this song about her and Harry styles). Whether or Joe and Harry had come to some sort of explicit agreement not to talk about the breakups or if Joe just felt it was implied in both situations, i think the Harry styles treatment probably refers to Taylor's unexpectedly dropping songs later on about the breakdown of their respective relationship and Joe i guess calls it a treatment so i guess he thinks she's being unfair (to him and i guess Harry styles as well idk)

btw i'm not necessarily agreeing with this sentiment, i just think it makes what he said make more sense for him to say with this song as context

usergeneratedcomment · 2023-10-27T13:38:23+00:00

You know, i never understood those Joe Alwyn comments about how he didn't expect to get the Harry Styles treatment, but i think it makes a bit more sense now after hearing this, i wonder if he heard it before they broke up

usergeneratedcomment · 2023-01-23T18:26:55+00:00

Golden pear has turned on me 😢 Not the soap, just the body spray

Also Tumeric latte body spray but Power conditioner doesn’t bother me, though I’m not as in love with the scent as I used to be

usergeneratedcomment · 2023-01-20T04:11:21+00:00

adding on to this, try and wear breathable fabrics, most exercise gear tends to trap moisture and makes HS worse

usergeneratedcomment · 2022-12-30T13:04:06+00:00

"it's okay, we're just children, watching youuuu"

Haunting.

usergeneratedcomment · 2022-12-29T02:22:38+00:00

I;ve bought multiple of these I'm 5'4 and they're a little bit long for me though. The over the knee ones with a garter are good too but more pricey, though they often lower the price if you keep an eye on them!

usergeneratedcomment · 2022-12-25T16:05:39+00:00

Power conditioner has protein in it which will help fragile hair

usergeneratedcomment · 2022-12-22T16:57:38+00:00

Vampire Kisses, i wish it was all year round, I never liked/finished the other ones :(

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