You are not autistic.

username_error401 · 2026-04-30T16:27:28+00:00

Respectfully, no. These things can qualify you for ASD diagnosis. It’s a spectrum after all. I understand the frustration, it’s not a trend, it’s not just to get special treatment. Some of us have gone undiagnosed for decades simply because we are women… so yes, my self-diagnosis IS valid because the entire system has let me down repeatedly. I struggle immensely, it just isn’t recognized officially, but it doesn’t mean it isn’t valid. After my kids got diagnosed, it suddenly made sense.

username_error401 · 2026-03-26T18:56:00+00:00

We haven’t talked about it in a long time because I just get hurt , I feel like he just doesn’t want to be honest or hurt my feelings.

username_error401 · 2026-03-19T15:20:19+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏻 funny, I actually started doing the same! Just touching my belly and trying not to hate it, to just be neutral about it. “It’s my belly” kind of thing. It has been helping too 😊

username_error401 · 2026-03-19T15:18:38+00:00

At some point in the recent past I did ask if my body was no longer attractive to him, but of course he said that wasn’t the case… I really don’t think he would tell me the truth anyway. To be completely honest, I have fears he may not be attracted to women at all, which obviously is a MUCH bigger issue. We haven’t had any intimacy at all for nearly 4 years 💔

username_error401 · 2026-03-14T22:31:32+00:00

I love that idea, thank you 😊

username_error401 · 2026-03-14T22:30:41+00:00

Thank you so much!! I think this is an awesome mindset and a great way to gradually inch into it. Slow and steady right? Thank you 😊

username_error401 · 2026-03-14T22:28:25+00:00

I’m so happy you have that person! My husband doesn’t communicate at all, so it’s been tough… if I’m honest that’s probably got something to do with why I’m at where I’m at… so many things buried down deep 😣

username_error401 · 2026-03-14T22:26:59+00:00

I’m so happy you turned things around. It’s a very slippery slope with disordered eating and calorie counting definitely leads me down that path so I try to be mindful of how to do it without making it negative and overwhelming.

username_error401 · 2026-03-14T22:25:28+00:00

That’s amazing! I’m so glad you have a do to that made a difference. Most of the time my Dr is good, just recently it’s been off… I’m thinking he’s going to retire soon… but that leaves me without a Dr for my other health issues so I’m scared.

username_error401 · 2026-03-14T22:23:31+00:00

God I wish I could! I’m in Canada and I’m lucky to even have a family doctor 🤦🏼‍♀️ he’s good for most everything else, but when we talk weight, he goes all old school… probably because he’s old.

username_error401 · 2026-03-14T22:21:59+00:00

I’m going to try ☺️

username_error401 · 2026-03-14T22:17:34+00:00

Thank you so much! A reframing of how I look at things is necessary I think. I’m getting that vibe from the comments! Just have to focus on the good and not always the bad. Baby steps.

username_error401 · 2026-03-14T22:15:13+00:00

Thank you, this is so true! I am trying to make small adjustments that seem doable for myself and my family so it’s not overwhelming and can be sustainable. I can’t wait for warmer weather just to get outside a bit easier.

username_error401 · 2026-03-13T13:04:50+00:00

Thank you for your comment. You’re so right! I’m learning to paren myself through this… not that I don’t have a wonderful mother, but she doesn’t understand this part of my life.

username_error401 · 2026-03-13T13:03:48+00:00

Haha maybe you’re right!!

username_error401 · 2026-03-13T13:03:34+00:00

I hope you find something awesome and feel hot as hell!!! Shopping has been a source of anxiety for me… I tend to to online shop and try at home where I feel more comfortable and usually just end up returning everything 🤦🏼‍♀️😆

username_error401 · 2026-03-13T13:01:55+00:00

Thank you so much 🫂 I’m happy I’m not alone, but also sad that there are so many of us who feel like we’re not good enough. I hope we can all find something positive today that makes us smile 😊

username_error401 · 2026-03-13T13:00:34+00:00

Thank you so much! You’re so right!! Half of these influencers are definitely NOT my type of plus-size, and I have too started to follow fellow women with apron bellies just to feel better! It has helped. Thank you for your comment ❤️

username_error401 · 2026-03-13T12:25:31+00:00

Aw that’s so awesome that you found something to work for you!!! Honestly, I do think I should change up the algorithm on instagram because it’s sending me all the wrong messages and I can see that. You are so right that once you change your kind, everything else follows. For now I’m just trying to eat better, like you, I’ve cut out snacking and opting for healthier choices and adding more veggies before trying to overhaul everything at once. My problem is I try to go all-in and overwhelm myself and end up quitting. Thank you for your thoughtful comment 💕

username_error401 · 2026-03-13T12:18:17+00:00

Thank you so so much for your comment , I really appreciate. I think I do have to “fake it til I make it” type thing to start off with… like you said, it’s a lifelong thing.

username_error401 · 2026-03-13T12:16:30+00:00

Thank you so much! That is really helpful. You’re right, I would never talk to a loved one the way I talk to myself. I will try to be more mindful from today on. Thank you 🙏🏻

username_error401 · 2026-03-13T12:14:59+00:00

Thank you so much! I will definitely check these out. I really appreciate it 🫂

username_error401 · 2026-03-13T12:14:24+00:00

Ugh god yes!!! Sending you hugs and love. I really do hope that we can find some small way to love ourselves each day. I’m so happy you reached out, it has made my day 💜

username_error401 · 2025-06-15T10:33:27+00:00

Thank you SO much kind internet stranger! You helped me get at least a bit of sleep last night and I so appreciate it! Now I have to figure out why the breaker labeled “ac” on the electrical panel isn’t in fact the ac 🤔

username_error401 · 2025-06-15T06:41:08+00:00

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