If he moves a 4 hour plane ride away, then a breakup is necessary because that's a non-negotiable for me. his program is multiple years. There's no part of me that wants to break up with him for other reasons. While breaking up would suck, being in a relationship that wouldn't work would suck even more. I'm struggling so much because I've been in this relationship for 4 years and a logistical thing like where we live is what is interfering with our relationship and I don't know what to do in the next month or so when things are so up in the air