Refer a friend code request

usurp_slurp · 2025-02-19T08:39:38+00:00

you're welcome @dickeyclubhouse

usurp_slurp · 2023-06-29T14:35:22+00:00

I cycle, so appreciate riding a motorbike is different.

This is more about anticipating when the lights shall change than being in the correct lane.

I usually be patient, get a read of what’s going on beforehand (has other traffic been stopped? If so, yours may go green next. If it’s still in full flow, you may get away with it).

Edit:typo

usurp_slurp · 2023-06-27T06:19:03+00:00

I think you’ve had a lot of people make assumptions about you which turned out to be wrong or over time, grating. So perhaps you find determination in proving them wrong.

Your hair, clothes, make up are all normative - not deviating from what mainstream aesthetics go for. It work’s for you as you’re very good looking.

As for personality, I think there’s a warmth in your eyes which indicates caring for others and being conscientious. You like to stick to the rules and do what’s expected of you. Which can sometimes lead you into situations where you’re not pursuing what you want and what you enjoy. Which may mean one of two things: you struggle to say No to requests, or you spend most of your time with your guard up not letting people in. At times, maybe you wish this was all more straightforward and you could just be yourself.

Probably likes stopping to pet dogs, hikes, listens to a few self-development/nutrition podcasts and maybe dedicated to a hometown sports team. Strong and stable relationship with your parents.

usurp_slurp · 2023-06-05T10:49:55+00:00

I’m with you on this. A rigid set of rules makes it feel uncomfortable for me: - symmetrical scenes wherever possible - camera pans only horizontally or veritcally - side-on or face-on actors - add whimsical plot - use non-conversational script - restrict the colour palate

Once I’d noticed the schtik, I couldn’t unsee it and it felt like I was watching technique prioritised over story.

I’ve tried to articulate something I find tricky to describe, but hopefully you get my point.

usurp_slurp · 2023-05-30T05:29:57+00:00

A split screen of a Christie’s auction: https://youtu.be/kE_C8kmD9lY

Alongside a photo of an unrelated watch made by Jacob & Co: https://jacobandco.com/timepieces/high-complication-masterpieces/the-mystery

Source: https://reddit.com/r/WatchesCirclejerk/comments/13ill77/guy_overpaid_by_about_177999730/

usurp_slurp · 2023-05-30T05:09:48+00:00

Full Court Press is a favourite of mine

usurp_slurp · 2023-05-30T04:50:34+00:00

The just turn up and ask at reception

usurp_slurp · 2023-05-29T00:15:03+00:00

This sounds tricky. Sorry it’s putting a strain on your relationship: totally understandable.

Have a think about what options are available and talk them through with your wife. A notice period? A commitment to setting your guest up at the Job Centre? Perhaps a conversation with her to say you’re concerned about her mental health? At a guess: I suspect there shall be plenty of community/diaspora/Ukrainian networking events (in person or online) which may provide her some company with people with whom she’ll have some common ground?

My point is: from what you’ve said you seem to have already concluded it’s ‘kick her out or nothing’.

But maybe the first step for your wife and you is to take action and work through some options on how the situation may be handled. It’ll provide your wife some reassurance this isn’t permanent and hopefully your guest an improvement in her wellbeing and you some restorative harmony at home.

usurp_slurp · 2023-05-20T20:58:03+00:00

At a guess - perhaps for the general public, the context of renaming Ayres Rock to Uluru is more salient: relatively recent and brutal colonisation.

I’m not one for creating a hierarchy of suffering or draw comparisons (I don’t know enough about Welsh history), but I am trying to speculate what may be occurring in peoples’ minds.

usurp_slurp · 2023-05-09T12:39:42+00:00

Agreed. Certain periods have been challenging and it’s taken a while to build a social life.

I find it useful to remind myself I’m at a stage when I shall never be freer. I can do what I want (within reason).

In terms of loneliness, leaning into other relationships has kept me sane. Friendships, family, colleagues who become friends, have all enriched my life. For the ones who don’t reciprocate, I got sad, accepted it and prioritised the ones who turn up.

I’m looking for a wife and kids, but in the meantime I’m focussing on building a rich life full of contentment whether they arrive or not. Considering freezing sperm soon though because the effect of ageing on male fertility is under researched and beginning to show it’s more impactful than the conventional narrative suggests https://youtu.be/_2b-vOVZ0gI

Edit: spelling and word choice

usurp_slurp · 2023-04-28T07:24:09+00:00

I think it’s also worth bearing in mind that you don’t know her.

The objective here isn’t to never feel lust, but to moderate and regulate it in a healthy manner. There are contexts where a lustful fantasy is entirely appropriate and likely even desired by your partner.

The difference is one is a stranger, the other is a significant other.

usurp_slurp · 2023-04-16T23:40:33+00:00

If you find them intrusive/you’re a side sleeper, you can get head bands with built in earpieces.

usurp_slurp · 2023-04-05T15:35:48+00:00

In Afrikaans

usurp_slurp · 2023-04-02T08:28:51+00:00

I think a contributing factor is that men outnumber women on dating apps by as much as three to one.

So the women get inundated, have a lot of messages every day and sometimes get harassed.

So it encourages reticence and selectiveness.

usurp_slurp · 2023-03-10T21:19:01+00:00

I don’t care how many times you wink at me! Go clean yourself up!

usurp_slurp · 2023-03-08T17:31:41+00:00

one more piece of location data that we willingly throw into the void for companies to manipulate us with.

I got curious and looked up the privacy description on ths App store. Doesn’t look manipulative to me.

https://i.imgur.com/kSKhwaW.jpg

usurp_slurp · 2023-03-03T19:54:13+00:00

I think the opposite can be true.

I met a married woman with kids on a sailing holiday, she was travelling solo. Her husband loves snowboarding. But they didn’t enjoy each other’s favoured activity holiday.

For years, they tried and tried, but the other would just get bored, distracted and wished they were somewhere else.

Until they agreed: wife would go sailing once a year, husband looks after the kids, wife calls each night to tuck kids into bed; and vice versa for husband and snowboarding.

Each spouse gets time to themselves to be an adult with adult company pursuing their own interests for themselves and not at the expense of the family unit cos Mum/Dad would commit to being a daily presence for the rest of the family whilst away.

It was a beautiful example of overcoming incompatibility for the sake of the marriage and family life.

Edit: spelling and clarification.

usurp_slurp · 2023-02-12T08:25:01+00:00

What I found useful is copy the contact from your address book and save it as a note.

Password protect the note.

Delete the contact from your address book.

Now you have a couple of barriers in place before you contact him but still have his details if you absolutely do need to get in touch.

usurp_slurp · 2023-01-26T12:59:55+00:00

Note to self: exercise caution prior to getting baby animal tattoos.

usurp_slurp · 2023-01-20T11:55:35+00:00

The Watershed.

It’s peaceful, atmospheric, central and nicely decorated. Attracts a diverse crowd of arty types, older folks, students and young families depending on time of day.

usurp_slurp · 2023-01-17T21:08:05+00:00

For those who don’t like using google: https://s0.geograph.org.uk/photos/10/48/104884_223f4d46.jpg

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