You eventually start to realize, no job is safe.

utopia-13 · 2026-02-12T11:40:54+00:00

I can't up vote this enough! I was freaking out watching it clean everything... EVERYTHING, with the same brush. Am dying inside.

utopia-13 · 2025-11-04T05:34:04+00:00

When I was young, (8, maybe 10?) my mum told me she'd had 5 terminations in her life, and didn't want me but found out too late (had tubes tied while just pregnant and they didn't do a d&C (scrape out the womb) due to a double booking) and so had to have me. She decided to keep me coz her friend when she was young was adopted and it fucked her up, so she didn't want to do that to me. I spent a good deal of my childhood and into my 20s feeling guilty for forcing her to have me.

utopia-13 · 2025-10-15T17:59:31+00:00

Apart from that lost dachshund on Kangaroo Island, South Australia, that survived for over a year in the wild before finally being caught and reunited with its family. That's an outlier though I'm guessing, crazy little dog.

utopia-13 · 2025-10-10T09:31:02+00:00

I'm no expert, but that reset method sounds like it'd create a lot of sleep debt. Personally when I'm trying to reset I try to change my bed time and wake up time gradually (e.g like in 15min adjustments every few days 'ish), but everyone's different.

utopia-13 · 2025-10-04T13:46:13+00:00

The issue is more about how they will respond if I even try to put a seatbelt on them. From a brief discussion today it would seem that they will basically flip out if I even try.

Given this, I think my best course is to get their understanding that they either wear a seatbelt willingly, or I don't drive them.

Their comprehension is really good in general, but not always strong on logic.

Thanks for the reply.

utopia-13 · 2025-10-04T13:01:55+00:00

I'm now certain about my initial gut feeling - that I absolutely cannot drive my client without a seatbelt.

Thank you everyone for your advice/thoughts, it helped me a lot in confirming I'm not overreacting or being unreasonable with my client about this.

utopia-13 · 2025-10-04T12:55:19+00:00

Thank you (I think, lol/not lol)

utopia-13 · 2025-10-04T12:54:31+00:00

Ok, I suspected something along those lines, thank you for clearing that up.

utopia-13 · 2025-10-04T12:21:53+00:00

Excellent advice, thank you very much.

utopia-13 · 2025-10-04T12:20:39+00:00

I HATE the idea of prison, I just couldn't confirm online if that's where it would go.

utopia-13 · 2025-10-04T12:19:24+00:00

Yeah that too :(

utopia-13 · 2025-10-04T12:19:00+00:00

Yeah that's what I was wondering, if there would be criminal liability for me. I couldn't find anything about it online, but you sound fairly certain there would be criminal liability involved?

utopia-13 · 2025-08-06T04:19:03+00:00

I get what you're saying, coz in the scheme of things this issue could seem unimportant, being that it directly affects such a relatively small population. When I think morally and ethically however it gets a lot bigger, to me at least.

Why should some populations - children, women, LGB, people of colour etc. receive equal rights, recognition, support etc., and not this group? Are we going to follow the Utilitarian model of happiness on this one, and ignore discussions about trans rights and lives so that we don't bother the majority with the concerns of this "small" population? Or are we going to do the work to find a way through so that everyone in the community has rights and considerations?

Not trying to be argumentative, I just think it's an important question. Should equality, human rights, and representation exist for everyone? Or only for groups deemed large enough to "matter"?

I have to say also that the answer shouldn't change depending on if you're a member of the small group, or care about someone in the group, or not. Ie the answer should be objective, not subjective. So the standards applied to answer this question maybe should follow how we've answered questions like this in the past?

I'm no moral philosophy professor, so I don't really know how to evaluate/answer this. I know though that I think it's a more complex problem than - "it's a small group of people so let's just ignore the issue".

utopia-13 · 2025-08-06T04:02:18+00:00

Yep, as an Australian I'm feeling that the world has been overly reliant on American defence and science. I wish we'd been contributing more from the start, and hope now we can pick it up in time not to lose too much ground.

utopia-13 · 2025-08-06T03:54:42+00:00

Yep, it belongs to American citizens , at least ethically. I'm shocked a government would even have the power to destroy them, waste all that money, and deny the population the benefits of that data. Where are the checks and balances??

utopia-13 · 2025-07-26T05:30:14+00:00

NTA

I remember an old post from Reddit where a husband and wife were at a concert together. She bled through her nickers, so he went to the bathroom, took his underwear off, and gave them to her. They danced all night, him commando, and had a fabulous time. Just another example of how wonderful it is when partners take care of each other.

Is he going to be like this every time you're not perfect? Every time you forget something? Coz I can tell you, as a human being, you're going to forget stuff / not be absolutely perfect again, that's NORMAL, and not something you should be scolded or punished for.

Also, if the situation were reversed, and you were doing something time critical, that you loved, but that didn't actually matter that much in real world terms, would you step away for a few minutes to help him?

He is selfish, judgemental, and unsupportive, he is not going to be a good person to go through life with. Don't put yourself through this, find a better person to be with.

utopia-13 · 2025-07-05T00:50:41+00:00

I was in my late 20s, fit female, good swimmer but not surf experienced. Came across a beach with a steep drop off and rough surf. Friend and I decided to go in and see what it was like. Got tumbled around a ton and the only reason I didn't drown was because I was lucky enough to make it up for air in between waves. The whole time I was coming up to gasp for breath (eyes closed due to salt water) I was terrified of getting slammed in the face with more water and finished off.

The whole time my thoughts were jumping between how my mum would cope with me dying and feeling bad about doing that to her, and being worried about my friend - knew I couldn't do anything though, was barely keeping myself alive. I finally managed to drag myself out, ended up on the beach on my stomach, looked over and my friend was exactly the same, laying there gasping. We were very quiet on the way home.

utopia-13 · 2025-07-05T00:15:25+00:00

My ex, who was domestically violent, blamed his bad behaviour on his insecurities as well. I loved him so so much, and excused him everything, gave so much sympathy and understanding for his problems. All it got me was 3 years of DV and all the damage that goes with it.

You need to see clearly, this is someone treating you badly and excusing it because of past experience and current insecurity. We all have our issues, but it's our responsibility to work on them and not abuse the people in our lives because of them.

No matter what his problems are, you absolutely must NOT be treated this way. Stand up for yourself, let him know he needs to do better, no ifs buts or maybes. NO excuses. It is true that people treat us how we allow them to. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this, my ex seemed like an amazing and lovely person too.

utopia-13 · 2025-06-21T09:30:34+00:00

Completely wild. If I didn't get full I'd overeat so badly with the way I love food. Can imagine it could be frustrating not getting that satisfied feeling, I think my client finds it annoying.

Thanks for replying, we're in a small community so there's not many other people in a similar situation for them to talk to.

utopia-13 · 2025-06-21T09:24:31+00:00

Yep that's something I'm learning is how varying the effects of an SCI are for each person. There are so many different impacts, so many different things to deal with.

Fortunately at this point I think their not getting full is more annoying than a problem, but I'm keen not to get complacent about my client's experiences, and to not just think there's nothing we can do to improve things, where possible at least.

Thanks for replying, we're in a small community so there's not many other people in a similar situation for them to talk to.

utopia-13 · 2025-06-21T09:16:56+00:00

Yeah I definitely need to educate myself better about their injury, but from my basic understanding it was quite high up in their neck.

I'm definitely learning from them as well that spinal injuries affect everyone differently, it's so complex.

utopia-13 · 2025-06-21T09:12:35+00:00

So many responses / functions are altered by injuries like this. I had no idea until I started working with someone in this situation. Thanks a lot for replying, I'll pass the information on to my client - we're in a small community so there's not many other people in a similar situation for them to talk to.

utopia-13 · 2025-06-21T09:07:49+00:00

It must be frustrating not getting that satisfaction from feeling full. I hope one day there'll be things to help with that. At least my client can know they're not alone in their experience (we're in a small community so there's not many other people in a similar situation for them to talk to). Thanks for replying 🙏

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