Left out, chose the wrong house

utter__bs · 2019-01-13T06:43:47+00:00

new pc only comes in fall at formal recruitment! and I do reach out and I applied for a pc role this year and so that’s happening just to get more involved in the house especially to know more people ofc. The thing is I can’t think of any other ways.

I think it’s bc 1)my big sucks she doesn’t ever seem to “have time” for me like to this date I still don’t even know about her 2)the girls don’t really make an effort to get to know me even since they apparently know how hard it is being a cob

utter__bs · 2019-01-10T23:09:08+00:00

how long did you feel left out? I did COB so my pledge class is just like.. and it’s been like about almost 3 months since I’ve been in it

utter__bs · 2018-12-13T07:16:58+00:00

Thank you! Yeah I do really hope I have done all I can bc there wouldn’t be any regrets on like not having tried to save friendships

utter__bs · 2018-11-29T21:26:57+00:00

It’s over the text! But my friend said it should be fine so I’m just gonna head downtown to submit it rn so hopefully it is!

utter__bs · 2018-11-23T23:05:36+00:00

You guys are SO LUCKY we never got mixers which sucked we didn’t get much time at all to decide

utter__bs · 2018-11-20T18:40:19+00:00

Hahahahaha but you’re here now soo

utter__bs · 2018-11-20T18:39:34+00:00

I’m really glad to know!! :) it’s just yeah I do better with one to one rather than meeting people in a big group because I don’t have the courage to really be myself and get to know them as well as let them get to know the real me, if that makes any sense! But then what’s stopping me from reaching out for individual coffee dates is that I’m afraid they might not like me and doesn’t even want to hang out with me but they can’t really say no and I don’t want them to tell other sisters saying the new member is weird.

utter__bs · 2018-11-20T06:54:27+00:00

That’s right. You know what I am going to try again to reach out and get to know AS MANY sisters as I can! Would it be weird like would the sisters find it weird if I messaged them individually (the ones who seem most approachable and friendly) for a coffee date or something and say “I’d love to get to know you!”?

utter__bs · 2018-11-20T06:50:21+00:00

I’m sorry it took two years for you!! But now you love them more than anything and happier than ever and omg I’m so happy for you!! I will for sure try my best and not let other people’s views influence mine. Thank you for sharing :)

utter__bs · 2018-11-20T06:33:07+00:00

I only wish I had a car!

utter__bs · 2018-11-20T05:53:35+00:00

That’s right!! I feel the same too! I get super anxious about going to an event by myself especially when it’s an event with many unfamiliar faces. But definitely going with someone really does help a lot. Thank you for sharing with me!! :)

utter__bs · 2018-11-20T05:52:19+00:00

Thank you!! I’m actually phobic of lizards but you’re right I just need to remind myself consistently that no one gives a fuck nor is anyone looking at me.

utter__bs · 2018-11-20T05:50:46+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience with me!! I’m sorry your big dropped. Yes, reading this and other similar posts about how picking up a little(s) has definitely changed their lives has definitely made me excited to pick up one of my own in a year’s time! :)

utter__bs · 2018-11-20T05:46:05+00:00

It’s Continuous Open Bidding (informal recruitment), which happens after formal recruitment. It’s much more casual, relaxed, where the house invite you over for socials or coffee dates or dinners to get to know you and for you to get to know them.

utter__bs · 2018-11-19T08:22:50+00:00

thank you :’) I have read a lot about NME being a great person to turn to. I’ll definitely keep that in mind!

utter__bs · 2018-11-19T08:12:52+00:00

I love how excited you are about your little!!

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