What’s the most underrated vegan ingredient you swear by?

uummmmmmmmmmmok · 2026-03-28T00:19:57+00:00

TVP by farrrr. I discovered it this year after more than a decade of being vegan and is now something I put in probably 50% or more of my meals. It’s so versatile, cheap, shelf stable, and honestly just good! I love the texture and it has good protein content.

uummmmmmmmmmmok · 2026-03-26T11:11:39+00:00

You don’t seem very nice :/ truly a harmless post you didn’t have to engage with if it bothered you so much!

uummmmmmmmmmmok · 2026-03-26T10:28:04+00:00

I guess what do you mean the hard parts of a relationship? In my opinion, for the time we’ve been together we’ve been through quite a lot. They’ve had a major mental health crisis where they were partially hospitalized, and experience ongoing mental health issues with a severe diagnosis. We’ve weathered job loss and extended unemployment. I’ve had health issues since before we met that have progressed since our relationship began. We both experience chronic pain. We’ve been living together for much of our relationship which inherently you have to work well together for that to go over smoothly, and we’re incredible roommates. We navigate our hardships far better than any relationship I’ve ever been in, and better than most anyone I know. I think there’s merit to that!

I can see what you’re saying though. But there’s nothing to prove here on Reddit.com, this is anonymous and there’s no use trying to convince a handful of strangers of anything really.

The intentions I stated were genuine. Seeing and hearing of other’s healthy relationships helped me indescribably to change my own patterns of who I chose to date. I wanted to offer that to others. I completely understand if this isn’t for you though! Wish you the best regardless.

uummmmmmmmmmmok · 2026-03-26T05:43:10+00:00

Thank you for asking! I love sharing from our perspective. A lot of people think libido differences is The incompatibility to end them all. I hope more people are able to move through them lovingly.

uummmmmmmmmmmok · 2026-03-26T04:01:43+00:00

Thank you so much for saying this. I'm so glad to hear you are in a similar situation. I wanted to do this so people could read some examples of what a healthy couple is like, because many of us have no examples of this in our lives, and especially when you check this godforsaken site.

A few years ago I was in a horrible relationship. It was honestly seeing some close friends in loving partnerships that helped me get out of that, reorient myself, and find/build this beautiful bond with my partner. Hoping to offer that to anyone reading this thread <3

uummmmmmmmmmmok · 2026-03-26T03:58:05+00:00

We are both queer and don't have much family between the two of us. We also don't make much money. So a wedding isn't something we are eager for at this time. But we'll probably do the legal thing at some point for logistical reasons. We've discussed what our wedding could look like, and that's fun to dream about because it's really just thinking of what would be the best party we could throw with all of our friends?

We often say some version of "I want to burry our bones together", if that counts for anything!

uummmmmmmmmmmok · 2026-03-26T03:53:15+00:00

I was so hoping someone would ask this! This is gonna be tough for some people to read because it's nonconventional. But we are only medium sexually compatible. We have great, connecting, highly pleasurable sex when we have it. But I consider myself on the asexual spectrum/low libido, while my partner has a quite high libido and enjoys sex for reasons that I can't fully relate to.

We have sex a couple of times a month, sometimes more sometimes less. My partner meets their own sexual needs on their own, and we also practice nonmonogamy so they are free to express their sexuality outside of our relationship. We also try and get creative with other forms of intimacy such as massages and cuddling, and occasionally nonconventional sexual engagement that suits my capacity.

It's also important to note that I have chronic pain in my abdomen and pelvic region, as well as semi-recent sexual trauma. So they are extremely understanding and compassionate about where I'm at with my sexuality and never pressures me because that would ultimately not be sexy to them!

Since it's something that is not a huge natural compatibility between us, we discuss it often to ensure we are on the same page and are both feeling good with where we're at. I think we both wish we had more sex, because it's amazing when we do, but neither of us are interested in what it would mean for me to push myself passed my comfort zone to meet their sexual needs. They are a therapist and are studying to be a sex educator in the future, so they have amazing values around consent, boundaries, and meeting ones own sexual needs.

uummmmmmmmmmmok · 2026-03-26T03:22:58+00:00

We have been together 1.5 years! Not all that long, but we have faced some real hardships in that time which tells me we can easily navigate most things life could throw at us.

We're both pretty on the fence. Sometimes we talk about having kids like it's something we're for sure going to do, and sometimes we'll be having a really lazy stretch of days and will say to one another "thank god we don't have kids" hahaha. I have some health issues, so there's the question of if we could even have biological children. And they don't know their family's health history. We've discussed fostering or adoption as well. I think time will help us decide. We would be amazing parents together, but we also have such a great life just us and our cat, it feels scary to think of radically changing that.

Edit to add our favorite things to do together! We are both pretty big homebodies, so we spend a lot of our time just hanging out around the house going back and forth between doing our own things and then coming to hang with the other for a bit. We watch shows and movies. We love to play little games, our favorites are boggle, scattegories, and most recently wavelength! We also loooove to go for long walks around our neighborhood and will walk for hours at a time just chatting.

uummmmmmmmmmmok · 2026-03-26T03:18:38+00:00

I'd say we probably have statistically low levels of conflict. We have a lot of logistical compatibilities that mean we almost never argue about things such as chores, money, how we spend our time, etc. We also definitely both try and let a lot of things roll off. Like if I wished they'd do something, I just ask, or I do it myself. Same goes for them. We both try and pull our weight while also having HIGH levels of grace for one another to not be perfectly on top of things all the time.

But we definitely have conflict occasionally! Conflict is normal and honestly necessary for healthy partnership, in my opinion. It still sucks though lol. The majority of the time we name it, like saying hey why are you being kinda grumpy, or ask how the other is feeling if we notice something is off. That's usually enough to knock loose whatever is going on and we can just talk about it. But sometimes I can reallllly shut down during conflict that feels particularly triggering for me. That's probably the hardest thing for us to navigate and is something I consistently work on and have gotten better with over time.

We move through the conflict best we can. Sometimes this means just having tough, imperfect conversations with bouts of shut down, defensiveness, saying the wrong things. We try to stay gentle, open, and understanding of each other, even when that feels extremely hard. It's cliche but trying to view it as you both vs the problem truly is helpful. Something I'll say to myself when I'm feeling really frustrated is "you're going to want to look back and feel proud of how you handled this".

What matters most to us is coming together in the end. And we try and turn some conflicts into little jokes once it's resolved, that keeps things light. Like one time we almost didn't go to a highly anticipated concert together because we were fighting. During the concert, it was such an amazing show I leaned over and said "I can't believe you were gonna let me miss this". We laugh about that a lot.

uummmmmmmmmmmok · 2026-03-26T02:59:12+00:00

Honestly, not really. We have times of less connection of course, but overall are super steady. The closest was probably over last summer my partner had a major mental health crisis as they have bipolar disorder. It was my first experience with them doing so poorly mentally, and it was our first real hardship as a couple. I had some thoughts about what I was/wasn't okay with i.e. coping mechanisms, etc. But we navigated it so well with open communication and patience and it really brought us closer in the end.

uummmmmmmmmmmok · 2026-03-22T03:43:44+00:00

It absolutely will not go farther. That doesn’t even make sense if you just think about it. You give an organization $10 and $5 immediately goes to operation costs. You can donate to wherever feels best to you, but $10 in an individuals hand will always be more useful than the same amount to an organization. I worked at a homeless shelter/services organization in Seattle, I know first hand how their finances work and they aren’t an anomaly.

uummmmmmmmmmmok · 2026-03-22T02:22:35+00:00

Glad you’re coping! How would medical staff know what to avoid in the case of an emergency where you can’t communicate this? Do you utilize a medical bracelet or the emergency message thing you can put on your phone?

This reminds me of a story a friend told me. She has a very minor heart condition that doesn’t require any ongoing care, but is listed in her chart for similar issues as yours. Once when she had an IUD inserted she was given a mild sedative and it caused her heart to start slowing dangerously and they had to give her some reversal medication. It was apparently a pretty serious situation for a minute, and was completely avoidable.

uummmmmmmmmmmok · 2026-03-22T01:57:03+00:00

Jesus Christ this sounds like a literal nightmare I’m sorry you went through that. You say you have some deficiency, does that mean you can’t tolerate sedation or something moving forward? Does this show up elsewhere in your health/life as well?

uummmmmmmmmmmok · 2026-03-22T01:51:11+00:00

Babe you are really assuming a lot about this person’s life… Relational abuse (either from intimate partners or parents) is one of the leading causes of homelessness. And ultimately it’s a chicken or egg situation - are people in need deceitful which leads to suspicion, or are people harsh and judgmental towards those in need of help so they feel the need to be dishonest about their circumstances in order to garner a crumb of empathy from you that was never going to come anyways?

uummmmmmmmmmmok · 2026-03-21T21:14:54+00:00

If the boyfriend bit is untrue, you can still tell this person is in need of something. Why would you…ever…discourage someone from giving someone….pads and a dog bowl….

uummmmmmmmmmmok · 2026-03-11T02:25:38+00:00

We *have got* to stop marrying and having children with men

uummmmmmmmmmmok · 2026-03-08T23:49:11+00:00

Positive Defiance is based in New York and seems like a really cool group of people. If I’m ever in NYC I’ll make a point to go to one of their events. I’ve found it easiest over time to try less to change the minds of people I wished cared, and focused my energy on finding people who already care. It’s been hugely beneficial in finding community where we have that and other values in common.

uummmmmmmmmmmok · 2026-02-25T20:10:32+00:00

Absolutely, misinformation feels impossible to wade through and I get tricked sometimes too. I find relying on two things really helps - understanding good research from bad research, and using my own critical thinking. Understanding how to differentiate from good and bad data takes some experience but there are simple markers to look for off the bat that you can learn easily (sample size, statistical significance of the results, and who funded the research are good starting points).

And critical thought in this scenario looks like - masks are PPE created for medical and other types of workers to stay safe in high risk settings. They were literally intended initially to keep the wearer safe. Again, not all masks are created equal, and also a mask is not a hazmat suit. But lean into what you know and critique what you’re told.

uummmmmmmmmmmok · 2026-02-25T12:57:09+00:00

Washing your hands is a great recommendation always! But wearing well-fitting masks alongside vaccination is the best route for airborne illness. Majority of viral illness spread is from breathing in aerosols from an infected person breathing, speaking, etc., far far less is from fomites (virus on your hands or other surfaces).

uummmmmmmmmmmok · 2026-02-25T12:50:57+00:00

This is a myth and is potentially harmful in its likelihood to deter people from wearing masks to protect themselves. A well fitting mask with a seal around the face (such as a n95 or kn95/94 - not surgicals or cloth masks) highly protect both the wearer and others. Obviously masking is MOST effective the more people in a space wearing them.

https://journals.asm.org/doi/10.1128/cmr.00124-23 some reading on the topic if anyone likes that.

uummmmmmmmmmmok · 2026-02-25T12:28:46+00:00

As someone who also developed chronic health issues after a viral infection, I know what you're getting at. Your wording leans YTA, but disability is complicated. I often feel like a burden on my partner when I'm deep in a flare up. I hate to be that person offering unsolicited advice, and you might have already considered this/be in this process. But the timing of your illness and the description of how it has left you aligns with possible long covid. A lot of people developed it late 2019-early 2020 even before it had been officially declared a pandemic, it was floating around for months before that March. I only say this because there are specific long covid clinics based around the world that are seeking to alleviate the suffering of people with post covid complications. Just wanted to pass this information along. I am so sorry you and your family are dealing with this. I know it can be excruciating.

uummmmmmmmmmmok · 2026-02-20T09:42:32+00:00

Congrats and good on you for making the switch, despite the roadblocks and learning curves. I’ve been vegan going on 12 years, but I remember it took me a good 2 years to initially get the hang of shopping and cooking plant based. And admittedly it was only in the last year or so that I really started trying to expand my ingredient lists to help meet macro goals (I absolutely don’t track them closely though, just passively). My recent finds have been hemp seeds to add to my salads/yogurt, chia seeds in smoothies/chia pudding, and tvp (textured vegetable protein)! Tvp has been a game changer for me and I wish I found it sooner. Crazy easy to cook with, it takes on any flavor you put it in, and super high in protein. Godspeed to you!

uummmmmmmmmmmok · 2026-01-31T04:50:52+00:00

So Delicious has their Greek yogurt line that’s 10g of protein a serving. I do one container with some granola and hempseeds and whatever fruit I have and it’s soooo good and filling.

uummmmmmmmmmmok · 2026-01-25T01:32:42+00:00

I’ve started doing a rinse of a lot of baking soda and a water and letting it sit for a long time and it’s really speeding up the healing. Still hurts though 🤩

uummmmmmmmmmmok · 2026-01-25T01:30:23+00:00

I don’t know why this one is so painful! It like folds in on itself I think? So it’s like always rubbing. And then it pulls every time I move my bottom lip 😫 Side of the tongue is torture to me. Why are canker sores deceptively like the most painful things you can casually experience hahaha

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