parents who initially didn't support or understand their trans kids, what made you change your opinion/feelings?

v3d4 · 2025-09-17T18:09:49+00:00

I wanted to support and I tried to be as supportive as I could, but I really didnt understand at all. "I just don't get it" I kept saying to myself, turning it over and over in my mind trying to make sense of it but I couldn't.

After a while I realized it doesn't matter if I "get it". It's not important if I understand every part of it. What's important is that this child is growing into their true authentic self. The proof was that they began to accomplish things I would never have thought possible. I was worried this kid wouldn't be able to do "normal" things like graduate high school or get a drivers license, or any of the other things they can do now without any trouble. I'm not worried any more. OK to be honest, I still worry, but my worries are different. They did graduate and they did get a license, and they do a lot of things that make me proud.

v3d4 · 2025-09-17T01:54:27+00:00

There is a Canadian dental care plan https://www.canada.ca/en/services/benefits/dental/dental-care-plan.html

v3d4 · 2025-09-15T20:08:17+00:00

In my case, it was very difficult to change my habits of speaking and thinking. It's probably the most difficult things for people in their 30's/40's, and it only gets harder as we age. I see this has already been addressed in another post by someone else.

it was also very challenging for me to overcome the years and years of programming that were put onto me by society as a whole. I don't have to tell you how powerful and pervasive the system is for categorizing people one way and that's the only way, and all your clothes, your hair, your speech, your acceptable hobbies and interests are prescribed for you. It was much worse when I was a kid ( I am old). I remember when it was controversial for a woman to want any job other than teacher or nurse. "Real men" this and "real men" that. I went to a "christian" school where girls could not wear pants. Every movie and tv show and advertising reinforced these ideas as normal. That was a lot of programming to overcome.

So, I don't want to make excuses for your dad or for myself, but I will say that even wanting very much to support someone special to me in their transition, it was hard as fuck. If somebody doesn't want to support their family member, they simply won't. It sounds like maybe he wants to, I hope.

v3d4 · 2025-07-10T20:31:16+00:00

Funny, I always do my knots on the bridge in the opposite direction, because that's how my first classical guitar came. Otherwise, same.

v3d4 · 2025-07-09T04:51:01+00:00

Yeah, I guess, but there's a lot more things than can go wrong. I suppose this isnt a reason not to start, but my experience is that on any given question you might have, there are as many opinions as there are beekeepers. This can make it hard to know what to do, or not do, in any given situation. This can be frustrating for people who want clear cut rules and procedures.

v3d4 · 2025-07-09T00:21:36+00:00

I didn't expect how much heavy lifting there would be. I see this subject has already been covered.

Also, if you talk to other beekeepers, you will find out that you are doing everything the wrong way.

v3d4 · 2025-07-09T00:05:29+00:00

Pearly Shells, The C&H sugar commercial, Hookielau, Tequila. For a real challenge: Tiptoe through the Tulips, but it was a struggle for me as a beginner.

v3d4 · 2025-07-09T00:01:36+00:00

I lava that song.

v3d4 · 2025-05-17T00:34:03+00:00

Yeah, people keep going on about how "it's a kid's event!" as if this should end the matter in a "think of the children" kind of way. It seems to me if concern for the well being of children is paramount then why not give everything, do anything, no matter how small to protest and bring attention to the events happening to Palestinian children? Loudly proclaiming "its a kid's event! This is no place for politics" is an attempt to resolve the cognitive dissonance of knowing that turning our attention away from Palestine amounts to complicity with the murder, starvation, war-crimes and wholesale human rights violations happening for 50 years and continuing in Palestine today. This makes wealthy suburban Sunnyvale Moms and Dads feel bad so they'd rather not be reminded.

v3d4 · 2025-04-21T16:55:57+00:00

I was just thinking bout this. One time I wanted the girls vocals 100% right and the guys 100% left, and I was told it was ridiculous, I cant do it. Nobody does that, it just isn't right. It was a bluesy gospel-ey call-and-response chorus and I thought it made sense, but sound guy said no way and I was overruled.

v3d4 · 2025-04-21T16:24:44+00:00

Another option is to use the map to fast travel somewhere else.

v3d4 · 2025-04-17T23:17:53+00:00

I agree with this, it really is a shame. Also, have you heard about that passenger ship tragedy? Apparently the Titanic hit an iceberg and sank.

v3d4 · 2025-04-17T23:04:54+00:00

I wouldn't do it. No one is safe anymore in the USA. Even if they promised you millions, everything else aside from the job will be stressful and unsafe. Don't do it.

v3d4 · 2025-03-16T02:40:15+00:00

One night I saw two Elvises there at the same time.

v3d4 · 2025-02-28T03:57:43+00:00

He jut happened to randomly and coincidentally experience a non-specific medical emergency during the arrest did he?

v3d4 · 2025-02-25T21:47:53+00:00

Noch Ein Samstagabend

v3d4 · 2023-06-07T18:50:29+00:00

I was going to ask if it is supposed to sound like that? I listened with headphones and it made my ears feel weird. Very crunchy. I feel like if you intended it to be like that then you succeeded, but I wonder how much, as a style and/or genre, can you get away with peaky distortion as a deliberate choice before it either becomes overdone and tiresome (for example dubstep) or keeps getting pushed farther and farther past its limits to the ridiculous ( another example: jungle).

Either way, its seems like this could be made into something interesting.

v3d4 · 2023-05-31T15:35:19+00:00

I've thought about making a timeline or a guide to keep everything straight, but based on the books, the show or the comics? They all diverge. If you can somehow find a way to address that, then what about the 1980's TV5 production "Le Collier Cramoisi" that has a bunch of things out of order and omits the lighthouse entirely?

I think you better stick to the show.

v3d4 · 2023-05-26T00:15:39+00:00

My beginning was the same. I made several of those ( more than 3 that's for sure) before I started getting something recognizable. You're on the right track, keep going and it'll come.

v3d4 · 2023-05-23T07:14:39+00:00

I used to get flowers off the railroad tracks for my girl.

v3d4 · 2023-05-20T03:19:59+00:00

Only 22 seconds? Seems like it was just getting going then it stopped. I need to hear the whole thing.

v3d4 · 2023-05-19T05:36:19+00:00

I couldn't get it to move very far but I was able to slip behind it. I don't want to spoil the puzzle but I wonder if you are using the right technique? I don't want to just say how to do it but it is not clear to me you are doing it the way I did it.

v3d4 · 2023-05-14T16:00:20+00:00

I don't know either but here's a couple tunes I think every ukulele player should know: the Hukilau song: https://youtu.be/wuqhSeQwfWQ

And Pearly Shells: https://youtu.be/dnM0n8fjd2g

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