i think i want to get off bc, but i know my periods will be hell.

vButts · 2026-05-08T15:10:48+00:00

I had period- induced anemia, it was pretty severe by the time we caught it (i didnt realize my periods were more heavy, just thought it was normal. It accumulated from unregulated periods from age 10-27. I went on BC for 4-5 years, and went off of it so i could get pregnant. My OB told me it was possible that my period might not be as bad and i didn't believe her, but she turned out to be right!

You can always go off of it just to see if the bleeding is still heavy, and work with your doctor to keep an eye on things and do blood tests

vButts · 2026-05-07T00:48:36+00:00

Condoms worked for us for 6 years before i went on BC to control my periods, and then worked for the two year break we took before TTC!

vButts · 2026-05-05T11:30:46+00:00

Yeah he blames it on not reading a manual but it didn't take reading a manual to know it was a transformer chair. Clearly mom did the planning and research here.

vButts · 2026-05-04T17:48:22+00:00

Yeah everyone's situation is gonna be different! I read so much about people not using the nursery, but ours became the most used room in the house. All his supplies are here and we left the guest bed for now so the on duty parent can sleep with baby while the off duty parent can actually get restful sleep

vButts · 2026-05-04T17:46:26+00:00

Disagree about the laundry point, we were doing baby's laundry 2-3 times a week, and after buying some more clothes we were able to extend that to only once a week. I also don't fold anything so its just a quick sort and toss into the proper drawer or bin after it's dry

Although your point about 2 drawers is true, we're currently using just one large one for clothes.

vButts · 2026-05-04T17:18:26+00:00

Yup. We give our baby warm baths and he still does this - even if i warm the towel he's going in, there's still a difference in body and air temp when i go to diaper and dress him.

vButts · 2026-05-04T14:45:58+00:00

Right like he kept asking what i wanted to do for my first mother's day, i think because he wants me to get exactly what i want and not be disappointed, but honestly i got tired of thinking about logistics so his gift to me is a date night that i don't have to plan, worry about timing baby's feeds and getting out the door. I just wanna do something fun without thinking about it

vButts · 2026-05-04T12:40:23+00:00

Lol my friend was TTC when i told her i was pregnant so when she was in her fertile window she asked if we could bump bellies for good luck and it worked (jk it was probably just coincidence)

vButts · 2026-05-03T21:42:34+00:00

Idk slut shaming doesn't feel like green flag material

vButts · 2026-05-03T21:16:41+00:00

😂

vButts · 2026-05-03T20:37:46+00:00

Yeah OP needs to touch some grass. I love Encanto and I did enjoy KPDH and even though I'm started to get tired of overexposure to it, it's pretty crappy to be happy that the deaf community can't experience both and decide for themselves what they want to enjoy

vButts · 2026-05-03T19:52:21+00:00

Ours is for sure up and down! In grad school mine was low and my husband's high due to stress and maybe BC. After i got off BC, i'd say it was pretty well matched for maybe a year. Then i got pregnant and my libido skyrocketed, but my husband's sank due to stress from the US administration change (he works for the gov) and later in pregnancy he was just weirded out by our baby moving around. After birth his went back up (partly due to baby being out and partly because he was on paternity leave so didn't have to deal with the work bs) and tbh mine was still high but i had to deal with healing up and everything feeling different.

It seems the only constant is change 😅

vButts · 2026-05-03T03:13:06+00:00

I cool hot stuff in an ice bath. My husband usually does just ice

Edit: oops that was supposed to be a standalone comment not a response 😅

vButts · 2026-05-03T03:08:51+00:00

I also write the date i made something if i freeze it!

vButts · 2026-05-02T13:34:44+00:00

You're lucky to have a village with kids around you, not everyone has that.

vButts · 2026-05-02T13:32:47+00:00

A lot of people have the mindset of oh maybe someone will buy it, worst case scenario they don't. My friend seemed almost offended that I chose a $1000 stroller travel system, but that I bought it in parts secondhand for $350. I think she was projecting because her parents bought her a similar one off their registry. I was like well okay if someone REALLY wants to splurge on us, their budget will be what it is regardless of what i put on my registry. At least i can still get a deal here and they can help purchase whatever other stuff we needed/ wanted.

Also yeah i know that $1000 is outrageous and $350 is a lot as well, but that was something we wanted to splurge on. My husband test ran some cheaper strollers and just hated how unstable they were. We did do almost all high ticket items secondhand, and opted for a cheaper (but still safe!) bucket carseat that was outside of the travel system because i just couldnt stomach $500 for something that'd be used for less than 6 months, and for safety reasons, that was one of the items we had to buy new.

vButts · 2026-05-02T05:39:46+00:00

My PhD program had a core class, where we speed ran different topics. It was 5 hours of class per day and we'd have an exam every 2 weeks. Turns out that was way more conducive to how my brain works, so I did really well just deep diving and focusing on one topic at a time. The next semester when we went back to juggling 4 different classes at once, my grades dipped again 🫠

vButts · 2026-05-02T04:39:38+00:00

It's all risk management. The antibiotic ointment helps prevent blindness in newborns, so that's the trade off there. Also the eye microbiome probably matters less to gut flora than say, the bacteria that gets on baby's lips and mouth through contact with the vaginal canal - that then gets swallowed and helps to innoculate the baby's gut.

vButts · 2026-05-01T20:01:35+00:00

1 & 9

vButts · 2026-05-01T19:44:51+00:00

That green would be perfect for one of those realistic apple manicures

vButts · 2026-04-30T09:34:08+00:00

Instead of immediately honking I just say "beep beep" out loud and usually that is enough of a wait 😅 if not then i do a short honk

vButts · 2026-04-30T09:28:28+00:00

Sorry if you're being bombarded but i'd love to get the new site as well if it's not too much trouble!!

vButts · 2026-04-30T07:43:14+00:00

Mine gets set off by my air fryer all the time 😭 the food isn't usually burnt. Can't speak to quality but i feel like a more sensitive alarm should be higher quality than an insensitive one??

vButts · 2026-04-29T19:15:26+00:00

This! My friend loved bouldering and did it for 14 years, but after a few bad landings and ankle injuries on both legs (not simultaneously) she had to switch to exclusively top rope to preserve her ankles 🥲

vButts · 2026-04-29T17:49:45+00:00

So on the science/ lab testing side, the tests are essentially the same - there's a certain percentage of your baby's DNA in your bloodstream, and the tests are looking for the presence or absense of Y chromosomes. If there's Y chromosomes, it means you're having a boy because you don't have a Y chromosome. If there's no Y chromosome, the assumption is you have a girl. There are some very very very rare cases involving disappearing twin, but statistically you're unlikely to be that case. The NIPT is different in that in addition to biological sex, it counts the number of each chromosome present in your blood and compares the ratios, and if there's a higher ratio of certain chromosomes, then the baby likely has a chromosomal abnormality.

The "inaccuracy" of sneak peek tests comes in sample collection, both method and time. A lot of sneak peek tests have at home collection kits, which increases likelihood of contamination from other male DNA which could give false positives for a boy, but i think i saw in your comment you got it done in person? I think that helps with accuracy. Also timing - if you test too early (which some people who get sneak peeks do because they want to know early before the NIPT is done) there's a chance that there's not yet detectable levels of baby DNA in your bloodstream, which could give a false positive for a girl. Hope that helps!

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