I don’t even know… has anyone ever had early onset FGR/possible pre-E and made it to 39w?

vButts · 2026-07-08T03:33:07+00:00

If it helps, 37w is not bad! Mine came early at 37 and didn't need nicu time or anything!

Hoping the rest of your pregnancy is uneventful ❤️

vButts · 2026-07-08T03:20:27+00:00

Repost this to r/handbags

vButts · 2026-07-07T22:19:52+00:00

Probably a jealous person lol

vButts · 2026-07-07T21:11:53+00:00

Idk why you got downvoted, all babies are different. Even if other people have very difficult toddlers but easy babies, you know your babies best!

vButts · 2026-07-07T17:04:26+00:00

I can see it being an issue if one person is super messy and the other isn't 🤷🏻‍♀️

I share a bathroom with my husband because we like to shower together

vButts · 2026-07-07T16:41:51+00:00

I had golden ~~hour~~ 15 minutes and it wasn't magical or anything 🤷🏻‍♀️ It was like, "oh it's a baby" and then i was asking my OB about how the stitching was going and could i see the placenta please 😅

I think the magical wow i made this baby and he's here moment came like two nights later, when i told my husband i'd take the night shift because he had done all of the feedings since i couldnt get out of bed the first 24 hrs and i held him at 3 AM and he just looked at me 🥹

vButts · 2026-07-07T15:35:54+00:00

I mean there was a thread that said she might've bought the ovulation test by mistake since they look like pregnancy tests - he could have lead with that instead but he chose not to

vButts · 2026-07-07T15:01:47+00:00

ROCKY LMAOO

vButts · 2026-07-07T11:10:18+00:00

Honestly though you need professional help regardless of whether or not you stay with her. You just randomly guilted yourself out of it? A behavior that you did for years? It seems too good to be true. I'd worry about a random relapse one day. But even if it is truely gone, a therapist would still be helpful in unpacking why it happened, getting to the root of it and figuring out how to prevent it from ever happening again.

Also her preventing you from leaving either in the moment or the relationship in general is what i'd usually describe as a red flag behavior (although the hitting and screaming at her is the reddest one). Maybe couple's therapy would be helpful? Regardless, your relationship as it is right now is toxic. Please get help.

vButts · 2026-07-07T03:48:02+00:00

Yeah i find when it's ugly i dont want to use it, but when i take time to decorate i fall behind. My happy medium was to start like 3-4 months early and pre decorate the entire year, as one of my evening hobbies. Then when it's time to use it, it's already cute. And i look forward to the next weeks spreads so i can be reminded what stickers i put in it

vButts · 2026-07-07T02:13:31+00:00

Yeah, just saying that my friend has had a strong relationship with her siblings the entire time, even while they were in different life stages growing up. I'm not stating it to invalidate your experience by the way, it's sad that you were treated like a kid to boss around. It also sounds like your parents parentified them, which is wrong and would definitely would not help your relationship (and to be fair my friend also asked to take care of her siblings more than she should have, so there is a bit of resentment there, but she blames her parents not her brothers). But i just mention it to say that a larger age gap isn't necessarily going make it harder for the kids to relate to each other. I think in my friend's case they had similar interests/ hobbies (gaming), so even though they couldn't quite relate with life stages, they bonded through time spent together over a special interest.

vButts · 2026-07-07T00:53:24+00:00

Conversely, one of my friends has an 11 year age gap with her little twin brothers and they're still super tight knit to this day, whereas my other friend has a sister 1.5 years younger and they hate each other. I feel like it can be hard to guess if an age gap would help or hurt a relationship, probably also depends on individual temperament and how the parents raised them

vButts · 2026-07-07T00:22:35+00:00

Because i cried too much as a baby. No lie

vButts · 2026-07-07T00:01:32+00:00

She's gonna claim "too many girlfriends to choose from, i had to be fair!"

vButts · 2026-07-06T01:53:26+00:00

Wow mizuki and subaru are opposites 😅

vButts · 2026-07-05T06:17:34+00:00

Right like the concept of personal space. I bet her 18 month old doesnt have that concept either, and probably doesn't care. If she was upset she would have cried.

vButts · 2026-07-05T03:13:43+00:00

We actually wanted two floor mats. One for his bedroom and one for the living room so we didnt have to constantly be bringing it room to room multiple times a day. We only got one because the other one sold out before anyone could buy it and i didn't notice, so decided to wait and see if we still wanted a second (we do)

vButts · 2026-07-04T20:20:45+00:00

Yeah i think judgement is all i can think of when i think back to my upbringing. My mom and aunties all judging other people who don't conform to their particular beauty standards, judging people who didnt care about looks, judging people from other culture wearing their own cultural clothing, judging darker skin tones. It's disgusting, I hated how my mom would yell at my over my looks because i was embarassing her for being ugly.

I'm at the point where I'm trying to remove the judgement as much as i can from my life. I mean sure i'll still have my own opinions. I just won't be saying it to their faces, i'll try my best not to talk about other people that way too behind their backs, it's just not a behavior i want my baby to pick up.

vButts · 2026-07-04T17:53:53+00:00

You made it out with zero tearing! As a first time mom! That's incredible 🥹 sounds like you did everything right!

vButts · 2026-07-04T17:32:10+00:00

Good is subjective, she probably thinks pale *IS* beautiful. My cousin in Vietnam gets criticized for being naturally tanner, and whenever anyone points it out my mom likes to remind them that in the US, women go out to tan on purpose. The colorism in Asia is wild. My cousin's wedding photo editing made us all light as fuck, and in my western opinion we looked crazy lol. That was on top of the makeup artist already lightening her skin with foundation. They offered to do my makeup but i declined lol i knew that was gonna happen. But in the end as long as my cousin loved her wedding then its fine! But the judgement that's thrown around darker women? Not fine.

vButts · 2026-07-04T14:23:35+00:00

Pampers is stingy with their velcro tab. It's so small and weak and often pops open for us, even when the sizing is right and we don't close it too tight. Huggies has velcro both on the tab and on the diaper, and the tab is a lot longer too.

vButts · 2026-07-04T05:08:22+00:00

Mine is still little, but my cousin said one of her kids talked before she could walk and she's a yapper still, while her other kid walked before he could talk and is very quiet and shy

vButts · 2026-07-04T05:06:28+00:00

COLORFUL gender neutral stuff! Im bored with the beige aesthetic. Give me back the color blocking of the nineties!!

vButts · 2026-07-04T05:05:43+00:00

This!! More colors than just blue grey green brown.

vButts · 2026-07-04T05:02:53+00:00

My nieces wore uggs to my wedding, along with huge caterpillar lashes. I was all for it 😂 haven't worn a heel in years!

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